Posted this in the Houston Co-Ed...but thought I'd share here:
When a female answers the phone...and other ways to mess up a perfectly good Saturday session...smh
This is not an alert, but a retelling of something that happened to me and a doubles partner today.
Backstory: I was emailed by a client of mine. In the past we had enjoyed a multi-hour outcall to his place. We had excellent rapport and a genuinely memorable time. He asked for 2 hour double with me and another lady I have worked with on occasion. In his e-mail, he listed two ways to communicate with him that were safe: email and phone (voice and text). He openly invited me to call him to confirm. Also, the last time I talked with him he told me that he was completely single (details about that seems legit).
We set up a two hour session today at 5pm at my incall. I talked to him twice on the phone this week, and we exchanged several texts; all was fine and dandy. Last night I talked to him and asked him to confirm with me by 3pm for our 5pm meeting. I would need that amount of time to get to my place and get set up. I would give him the address as well since I knew his commute would be pretty long.
3pm today...no texts or calls to confirm with me. 3:14, I text as ask "We still on?" No response. I need to leave by 3:30 to get to my incall and get set up for our session at 5. I call him at 3:20. It goes to voicemail. I send him a text at 3:21 and 3:23. At this point, I am let my doubles partner know I have not heard back from him. She needs at least an hour to drive to my place. I call again at 3:27 leave a message: "Hi ****, this is Marie. Are we still on? Me and my friend need to know because we need enough time to get to my place. Thanks."
At 3:33 I call once more. This time a female answers the phone. Yikes! I come up with another male name and ask, "Is **** available?" She responds, "There is no **** here. You have the wrong number." My response: "so sorry, thank you, goodbye."
I text my doubles partner and let her know what happened. We are thinking "holy crap, he musta gotten busted." We assume the appointment is a no-go. Poor guy. I had full permission from him to contact him as he had no females to worry about...hmmm
At 3:48 I receive a call from his number but fearful of who might be on the other end, I let the call go to voice mail. I check the voice mail and it is his voice, nonchalantly saying, "Hi Marie, sorry I missed your call. Call me back." I am thinking, "no way, I don't want to be in the middle of this guy's girl trouble."
At 3:52, he calls back, and I hesitantly answer the phone. He again sounds very non-chalant and apologizes for missing my call. I tell him that I hadn't heard from him and was calling him to confirm. I told him that a female answered his phone. He said, "What?" I repeated. He then says "Oh, I was visiting my mother. I must have been in the bathroom or something..." I politely tell him that I am no longer comfortable with going through with the session. I also remind him that he was supposed to contact me at 3pm so that I could leave on time, etc. He sounds disappointed and can't understand why I would want to cancel, reassuring me that he is single and there was nothing to worry about
: "C'mon, Marie, it's me, we've met each other. You know me..." I explain that it is not normal for a female to answer the phone around the time when you should be getting ready for or confirming a session and that it made both me and my double's partner nervous. I was still a little startled that I had spoken to a female, but started to calm down a bit. Part of me said, "Yes, you know this guy (even if we only met one time for 2 hours). He's probably telling the truth, but what if??? And what if I bring problems for my double's partner as well by being too trustful?" I decide to give him the benefit of the doubt and tell him that I need to call my partner and ask her opinion and that I would call back shortly.
I call my partner, and we agree to go through with it, starting at 5:30pm instead. I call him back, and we agree all is good and we will meet at 5:30, and I would text him the address shortly.
I get all my stuff together to leave to my incall, but while I do so, I receive another text message from him saying, "forget it, now I am not comfortable." I respond, "okay." I mean what else could I do???
Did I do something wrong here? Is there anyone to blame? Naturally me and my partner are upset about how everything turned out.
1. He should have confirmed at the time I gave him.
2. He should not have let a woman answer his phone.
Now, my partner and I are out several hours of our time, without compensation, and he isn't getting any. Or maybe he decided to spend it somewhere else...
Thoughts anyone?
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