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Whispers · 07-05-2011, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by bluester

I just believe in respecting women and appreciate them when I am intimate with them. Because I do KNOW, that I am not the only mother fucker they would rather be with.

Well... You are making a very common mistake in assuming that the way anyone, myself included, posts on a Internet Information Exchange Website dedicated towards P4P in any way reflects the mannerisms they apply when in the company of a lady.

I am not "intimate" with any of the women here on this board when I am posting on this board. I post information related to a business.

In person I am a rather old fashioned gentleman.....

The ladies present on these boards are such a minute sampling of the ones available for P4P...... i see no reason to glamorize what they do.

Nightcrawler29 · 07-06-2011, 02:51 PM

That's a tough question. Having in mind that my gf had fucked so many guys would make it hard for me to take her seriously. I'm sure its the same for women that know of a guy that's been fucking around as well. But for me to marry a provider, that would take a really good emotional connection and trust. But it would still be hard to separate her history as a provider, and her current role as a partner.

blueball5 · 07-06-2011, 05:37 PM

YOU CANT CONTROL WHO YOU LOVE, JUST WHO YOU FUCK...
SO FUCK THE ONE YOU LOVE, AND LOVE THE ONE YOU FUCK..
AND YOU WILL ALL GET ALONG......... HA HA HA JK LOL

squiretuck · 07-06-2011, 07:27 PM

No, because they wouldn't be my ATF anymore. I'd rather just be divorced, and able to enjoy the fruits of the finer things in life. And I prefer to pay them to go away. That way we both want to come back.

bluester · 07-07-2011, 09:51 PM

Nightcrawler,

Why do GIVE A FUCK who and how many guys she has fucked!!!! Who gives a RAT'S ASS!! What matters, is that YOUR dick is now in her pussy!!

Damn you people amaze me!!

Bluester

Nightcrawler29 · 07-11-2011, 12:29 AM

bluester, that only matters when you do p4p, but when it comes to a real relationship it becomes way more than just fucking. It is true that part of the joy of p4p is that you get to be by yourself after you get your needs taken care of, and don't have to deal with the drama involved in a normal relationship. But there's also a need which can't be taken care of by just p4p, and that is the need of being loved (as cheesy as it sounds). You might do as much p4p as you want, but at the end of it you are just as lonely as when you started. You can't pay your way out of it no matter how beautiful, skilled, and intelligent the provider might be. Now, as far as a relationship with a provider?... I'm not saying its impossible, but the problem comes when you have to separate what she does for a living from her life with you.

bluester · 07-11-2011, 12:15 PM

Nightcrawler,

Big mistake! NEVER separate p4p with real world relationships! Don't distinquish between the two! They are ALL the same. Even in traditional relationships you still PAY TO PLAY! Sometimes you PAY a LOT MORE!! Believe me, been there done that!

End the end, ALL men PAY for pussy! One way or another.. you pay with your emotions or your money.. OR BOTH!

Bluester

AcesHigh · 07-11-2011, 03:49 PM

The short answer is that, yes, I would consider marrying my ATFs. I have had several ATFs and made good friends with them. In my opinion my ATFs are wonderful, sensuous, gorgeous women who P4P. I would have no problem distinguishing their work from their personal lives as long as they can remain emotionally attached to me. They actually have a very tough line of work and I admire my ATFs for being able to put up with the BS that they often have to put up with. My ATFs are not jaded or mechanical but great women. I love great women!

hobbyist1 · 07-25-2011, 03:24 PM

Absolutely. For the last two weeks I have been talking many hours on the phone with one very special lady. She is a real angel and she is a real sweetheart and is beautiful and sexy and has a great sense of humor. She is the only one I would ever even consider marrying. Unfortunately she got cold feet and gave up on us. I guess she didn't believe me when I said I would marry her in a heartbeat. I will always wonder what might've been. Like Adele's song says, We could've had it all. I will always wait for her and hope she someday trusts love again. Her happiness is all that matters to me. I wish she knew how much I miss her and she would call me. I miss hearing her sweet voice and our long talks.

SwampyJ · 07-25-2011, 03:49 PM

I cannot say if would marry my ATF or not. I have been married twice and I really do not think I would ever get married again. However, my ATF an I have spent a lot of time together off the clock and we enjoy each others company. I have quit seeing her BCD because of our friendship. I have a very small hope that someday she will realize we are a good match but I am not gonna hold my breath. She is a great woman and I all I want is for her to be happy.

hobbyist1 · 07-27-2011, 11:30 AM

I have to say a good number of providers are not marriage material. Just like a good number of clients are not marriage material. Having just had a very painful experience, I learned the hard way that many providers get so used to this way of life that they don't want to or won't consider any other kind of relationship. They put their "work" first before everything else (with the exception of family) and have little or no time for a "personal" life.
Just like many clients choose not to be monogamous, and prefer to see many different ladies, many providers get used to seeing many guys and choose not to be with just one. I don't know if it's the excitement of it or they like the variety of it or what the reason is, but it seems they end up loving what they are doing. Or possibly they could be so scared it wouldn't work out being in a relationship, they choose the easy way and remain in this line of "work". They don't want to get hurt so they put their walls up and don't let anyone into their "private" world. They may feel it's safer for them that way. They also do it to protect their hearts.
And if a hobbyist marries a provider he would always wonder if she misses the life of a provider and might someday go back to it. Sames goes for the provider if she marries a hobbyist. She would always wonder if he would someday get tired of being with the same woman for the rest of his life and want to go back to hobbying.
I know several couples who met thru this hobby and are happily married so I know for a fact it can work. It would just have to be a really exception woman for me to consider marrying a provider. She would have to be willing to take a chance on real happiness. Unfortunately, I haven't met such a provider as of yet. Thought I did, but I was sadly mistaken. Like I said, many providers always put their clients first and make them their priority and that keeps them from ever developing a "normal", healthy relationship with one man. Maybe they feel being with other women's bfs and wives is safer for them because chances are a hobbyist won't fall in love with them or ever leave their wife and that makes it safer for them and that way they won't set themselves up for getting hurt later on. I also found many providers are happy doing this and don't want to be in a relationship or be loved.

bluester · 07-27-2011, 12:17 PM

Hobbyiest1,

"Like I said, many providers always put their clients first and make them their priority and that keeps them from ever developing a "normal", healthy relationship with one man."

Well said my friend! Very true. I have experienced this with my gf who is a dancer. Many times, regulars (clients)/money come first. And that is always a HARD pill to swallow.

bluester

Shayla · 07-27-2011, 12:33 PM

I think it could be done as long as you're not an SP for the rest of your life. I don't think it would be too hard to maintain a relationship as long as you didn't completely jaded by the industry and kept it short term.
Trust and safety would be key if it were to happen. There really isn't any room for compromising.

hobbyist1 · 07-27-2011, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by bluester

Hobbyiest1,

"Like I said, many providers always put their clients first and make them their priority and that keeps them from ever developing a "normal", healthy relationship with one man."

Well said my friend! Very true. I have experienced this with my gf who is a dancer. Many times, regulars (clients)/money come first. And that is always a HARD pill to swallow.

bluester

Thank you, bluester. And yes, it is a hard pill to swallow. Have a great day, my friend!

hobbyist1 · 07-27-2011, 01:04 PM

Many hobbyists are incapable of being faithful to one woman. The same can be said for some providers. They know deep down they won't be able to be faithful to one man, after having been with many different men during their "career". They are "conditioned" to being used to having sex with a number of men and perhaps the idea of only having sex with the same man over and over again, makes them worry they would get bored with the same penis day after day and night after night for the rest of their lives and they may perceive marriage as a "death sentence."