Actually, I have gotten sessions on credit. And paid as agreed. I've gone out of my way to meet with a provider when we had such a good time that I left without paying by accident (and I tipped her for the inconvenience as well as I called her as soon as I took out my wallet and noticed that I still had the cash).
You're right, the nature of any relationship is based on an exchange that both parties feel is fair and agree to the value of what is exchanged.
We can quibble about what each of us considers is "fair". We all have different ideas about that. I tend to believe that once both parties state the terms and agree to those, that's fine, and the specifics are their own business.
It is not "fair" to violate the terms of an agreement once reached. If a party determines that an agreement is not working and wants to find a way out of it, that's fine as long as both are willing to comprise to a mutually acceptable closure.
For example, I know another provide that we tried something, it wasn't working for her and so we stopped. We worked out a reasonable compromise and we still do business as is convenient for both of us. No biggie.
I think I take what you're saying is that the nature of the provider/client relationship is best conducted on a pay as you go basis. You can't put a hooker on retainer and if you pre-pay you are just inviting disaster and a violation of the idea of a fair exchange.
That is, IMO, what people should be getting from this. I mean, yeah, we can trash-talk each other all day, but in the end, I rolled the dice on a situation and came up snake-eyes. And, yeah, I'm seasoned enough to know that the probabilities were against me.
Which brings me to Prospect Theory. I've been reading a lot of Kahneman lately and one of the things I find really interesting is how people weight outcomes and probabilities in making choices. It's common to be risk seeking when looking at potential gains and I think I can best say that I overweighted the potential gains of the situation versus the risks.
The obvious lesson for me is to consider how I personally framed the the situation for myself and how I made my decisions and where I ignored obvious signs versus being caught up in how I thought things would turn out.
The original title was "Knowing Better". That's what this is about, me and others knowing better in the future.
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Originally Posted by str8.2.bbbj
What difficult place? If a fella asks a provider "Can I get a BnG on credit?", do you think that any provider has a problem saying "Fuck No!"?
Again, these ladies are wonderful people, but the nature of the relationship is based on fair exchange.
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