Why keep asking?

[casey_carlin]

To be honest I really like coed discussions. I feel like I can get both sides and maybe see something from the guys point of view that I may have missed. I have a lot of close provider girlfriends that I turn to when I need it. I think we may need a ladies day out soon .

Casey

Originally Posted by alaine

Casey, You are HOT! This post might have been better served in the ladies areas. It is a common problem and ways to handle it have been addressed MANY TIMES.

Most of the guys here are very nice and polite and THANKFULLY wouldn't dream of this type of behavior.
Generally it's the same handful of guys that are causing the problems and usually NOT with just one women. Same few guys with multiple complaints over and over again.

[oldbutstillgoing]

You would know edit-staffYou have stalked multiple providers using different handles to try get past their screening even though they flat out told you they did not want to see you.

Originally Posted by Wile E Coyote

I agree. Nothing is wrong with a little persistence, especially if the provider is someone you really want to meet and see BCD for your reason(s). However, with all the providers out there, especially in the Dallas market, no need to beg a provider to spend your money on her.

Even tho it is true that the ladies can choose who they wish to see for sessions, providers that have preconceived notions (good or bad) about a john based soley upon what other hobbyists/providers who do not know or even met the guy say about him, are very foolish. How can a provider actually know if she is going to feel safe, respected and not get taken advantage of if she only goes by what others say that have not been BCD with him?

A novel idea is the converse with the providers he has seen and gather all the info you can to make an informed decision. Of course, all this being relevant if he initiates contact with you for a session.

[MW76]

I'm sorry if I came across as an ass Casey. It wasn't anything personal. I think you're a great escort. But the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I'm telling my age, but I also enjoyed your mother when she was an escort back in the day. I just noticed you had been starting a lot of threads that really came across as threADs. You're still a good looking woman, but it may be harder to get $500 per hour at age 40. I think $200-300 rate and you would be able to fill your 4 weekly appointments. Most of us would have gladly paid $500 when you were 21, but it's hard to bring ourselves to pay $500 to see someone age 40 who has had children when there are a lot of new young and sexy 21 year olds running weekly ads. Again, you still look hot, but you should seriously consider lowering your rates so you don't have to keep posting the perceived threADs.

[FunInDFW]

Originally Posted by oldbutstillgoing

You would know edit-staff. You have stalked multiple providers using different handles to try get past their screening even though they flat out told you they did not want to see you.

Welcome back!

[2short@desky]

Originally Posted by TexTushHog

I give you credit for telling them why. I think that is more honest, more decent, and frankly leads for fewer misunderstandings.

I can't offer an personal insight into the issue, but I think that there are two possibilities. I'll mention the one I think is most likely first. I always thought the hobby would be full of guys who were interested in women and enjoyed women's company. And there are some guys like that, I think. But I am constantly amazed by how many absolute, over the top, straight up misogynists there are here. And for the life of me I can't understand that. But these types seem to have an almost pathological need to mistreat and demean women. Perhaps they think that by continuing to call you and waste your time, that they are degrading you.

A second possible explanation, and one that might explain the behavior of a few rejected guys, is low self-esteem. I know that when anyone suffers from depression, that they take every event that happens to them and internalize that event in the worst possible light. If they are rejected by a provider, they don't think "Gee, maybe I just wasn't right for this girl for some valid technical reason, but I'll be great for the next one, or the one after that." Instead, because of the toxic stew in their system of neurotransmitters, that becomes, "Shit, even a women that gets paid to sleep with strangers won't even sleep with me! I must be the most pathetic excuse for a man in the whole world." And instead of moving along to the next gal and getting the dopamine rush that comes with a professionally induced orgasm, he thinks, "Maybe I'll call her up and catch her on a better day." Because even if the next gal will sleep with him, that doesn't erase the invalidation that came with the rejection by a working gal in instance number one. It's the old "He's so pathetic he couldn't get laid in a whorehouse if he had a fist full of hundred dollar bills" syndrome. Just some speculation from a guy who has spend some time in the company of depression off and on through the years, albeit mostly in other contexts.

You're close. It's about POWER and denial to have that power. That's the way these guys think. It has nothing to do with sex, but everything to do with power, possession, ownership, and conquering. These guys, if you could call them that, would be better served with a plastic sex doll to which they could do whatever they wish. Heathens....they are void of granting dignity to others.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Originally Posted by FunInDFW

Welcome back!

Thanks

[Guest070818-1]

^ You and the girlfriend broke up again I see . . .

[Chung Tran]

Originally Posted by 2short@desky

You're close. It's about POWER and denial to have that power. That's the way these guys think. It has nothing to do with sex, but everything to do with power, possession, ownership, and conquering.

Exactly right.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Originally Posted by Adrienne Baptiste

^ You and the girlfriend broke up again I see . . .

Yea, life sucks some times. Well, at least here i am m appreciated. At least for my money, anyway. Honest relationships are hard to come by sometimes.

[casey_carlin]

Well you showed your ass because my P411 and Eccie doesn’t say $500 an hour. Obviously you don’t know me or anything about me. I also believe you meant to come off as an ass. No way anyone in their right mind would say any of that unless they were trying to piss people off.

Casey

Originally Posted by MW76

I'm sorry if I came across as an ass Casey. It wasn't anything personal. I think you're a great escort. But the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I'm telling my age, but I also enjoyed your mother when she was an escort back in the day. I just noticed you had been starting a lot of threads that really came across as threADs. You're still a good looking woman, but it may be harder to get $500 per hour at age 40. I think $200-300 rate and you would be able to fill your 4 weekly appointments. Most of us would have gladly paid $500 when you were 21, but it's hard to bring ourselves to pay $500 to see someone age 40 who has had children when there are a lot of new young and sexy 21 year olds running weekly ads. Again, you still look hot, but you should seriously consider lowering your rates so you don't have to keep posting the perceived threADs.

[pretty_mia]

I used to feel the same as you as I don't discriminate against seeing any race. However, I had a girl friend who advertised that she would not see any AA and
She herself was mixed AA. So this kind of puzzled me so I asked her about it come to find out she was raped when she was younger by one of her dads friends and for her to have sex with anyone that reminded her of him made her very uncomfortable. So I guess we really can not judge why people do what they do but just respect their wishes.

[casey_carlin]

Everyone has their preferences and that’s completely ok. Gentleman should respect a providers choice. I am so sick of everyone being offended about everything. Everyone can make choices and we should just accept it.

I hate that for your friend. Trauma like that won’t ever go away and why I screen because anything can happen in this line of work. Its a scary world we live in and anything we can do to help insure our safety the guys should be understanding and accept.

Casey

Originally Posted by pretty_mia

I used to feel the same as you as I don't discriminate against seeing any race. However, I had a girl friend who advertised that she would not see any AA and
She herself was mixed AA. So this kind of puzzled me so I asked her about it come to find out she was raped when she was younger by one of her dads friends and for her to have sex with anyone that reminded her of him made her very uncomfortable. So I guess we really can not judge why people do what they do but just respect their wishes.

[noober]

Originally Posted by MW76

Are you talking no AA policy? As long as the men are clean, sober, and pay their bill you shouldn't have an issue seeing them. Remember, this is a business first and foremost. It's personal choice when posting on match and eharminy. It's discrimination when advertising in the business world. We have enough discrimination in the world without providers engaging in it too.

ROFL yeah.... let me give u a example on how I see things that relate to what u just said.

GIRL: I don't find black guys attractive and not my cup of tea.
BLACK GUY: u discriminating against black guys???
GIRl: no, not at all I just don't see black guys I don't really like them.
BLACK GUY: Hey I'm a customer u have to see me
GIRL: no I don't bye
BLACK GUY: HEY COME SEE ME my little whit bunny

2days later

BLACK GUY: Hey baby can i come over for a hr
GIRL: No I already told u stop asking
BLACK GUY: quit playing hard to hey girl u know u wanna see me.
GIRL: NO I DON'T leave me alone
BLACK GUY: shit u just making me want it even more girl i like it when u make me chase after u like that.
GIRL: stop
BLACK GUY: not until u give it up baby

Lol

Anyways but on a serious note why would any guy want to see a provider that doesn't want to see them?? Wouldnt u automatic think that session would be a shitty one. Most likely rush u and be a dead fish bc she wasn't interested in the 1st place? But then again some guys like that too so. Ehhh to each their own.


2ndly this is not a business where they have to serve u anything. They have a right to refuse service for any reason.

3rd the race card has been over used. So when I see or hear shit like that I just laugh.

[Incheon]

I was in casual conversation with a black lady tonight, she said she played basketball in school. I asked her what position she played.

"Bench, mostly. They wouldn't let me play because they were racist"

I changed the subject quickly. This was casual conversation.

[Submit2masterj]

The arrogance and likely mental issues one must possess to continue to attempt to see a lady after she says no is disturbing on many levels. It is what leads to group think incidents like Baylor's football program being guilty of mass sexual crimes.

Any individual who is rejected and attempts contact to circumvent via a different platform or handle is guilty of stalking and attempted rape. That is just sick.

Casey, too bad I am not in Dallas often as I am thrilled to see you are back. Our session many moons ago was outstanding.