Did she have a real orgasm or did she fake it?

[Brittanybellastar]

Originally Posted by emptywallet

Maybe 10% of the time he really wants her NOT to O.

well isn't he a bitch then?

[JessicaKnightly]

Originally Posted by MrGoodBar

Flirt with your girl all day. Treat her right and with respect. Eat the pussy (do it well) and just enjoy her as the goddess she is and she might get there anyway. If she doesn't, she will probably enjoy the ride anyway.

MrGoodBar, I love how you think!

I might be wrong, but I can't imagine a woman that sees dozens of guys in a day can cum with all of them. I never see more than one guy in a day and I almost always cum at least once. Most of the time, I cum once from clitoral stimulation and then I get one or two good G-spot (or internal) orgasms per sexcapade. And on an overnight date, we may have 3-5 goes at it. So, potentially, I could have up to 15 opportunities to cum, but in reality I can't normally cum more than 5-6 times in a 24 hr time frame.

That said, not all my orgasms present themselves the same. I have some that come on strong and others that pass so softly, I almost miss them. Heck, there have been times I'm not even sure if I came. But, some times the people in the next room know I did and there is no hiding those.

We all are different and many times are own individual orgasms are different. There really is no way to know if she faked it, if she said she came - maybe she did, maybe she didn't. I don't fake it. The reason is because I love to cum and I get frustrated if I get close and don't. I don't like feeling frustrated.

That being said, I didn't have my first G-spot orgasm (internal orgasm) till I was in my 30's, so in my 20's I did a lot of faking. I didn't want the guy to feel bad that I couldn't get off, I was ashamed because I couldn't.

Now that I can, I'm taking advantage of every chance I get!

[JessicaKnightly]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vc8tPTVBRSc



"Please feel free to fake an orgasm, I won't know, cause that will make me feel like I'm doing well"

[shorty]

That was good Jessica!! So what do you do with the extra 3:30 minutes if it only takes 4 minutes!?

[proudoftexas]

That video is one of the funniest things I've ever seen. The background dude makes it for me.

"Chafing!"

Bwahahahahaha! Oh, that's some funny stuff right there.

[horserider]

Originally Posted by Browneagle

What's the point of having a purely physical sexual encounter, if you don't have an orgasm? If I am not going to have an orgasm then there is no point in it. Is it worth it to "jump on it" if you're not going to get off from it? Again if I'm not going to "get off from it" then I see no point in "jumping on it" Are the answers to these questions different for men vs. women? The answers are definately different for the men vs the women. The woman is there for one reason and one reason only, if you don't think so simply forget the donation and see how far you get with her. She's not there because she loves you or thinks you are cute, or thinks you are a great lover, or thinks you are cool to hang out with. We are old, we are fat, we have skin tags, we use way to much baby powder, we either smoke or dip or chew tobacco and don't brush our teeth near enough or use enough mouth wash. We meet the lady and think we are fresh because we took a shower last night or was that the night before and want her to see us as her Romeo, her knight in shining armour. Well FYI we ain't any of these things. But the one thing we have going for us is the donation and with out that we are just smelly old farts who's johnson won't work half the time causing the lady to have to work that much harder to give us what we are there for........and you want to know if she is faking an "O"......really.....you need to ask that? She doesn't give a damn if she "O"s or not she just wants your smelly fat ass off of her so she can breath again LOL. Each lady is different in the realm of what it takes to bring her to a real "O" so don't fool your "Romeo thinking" self into believing you know the secrets to unlocking her orgasm stimulation mechanism. Drop the donation on the table or dresser and she just had as much fun as you are about to.

Guys are there to have an orgasm and hopefully 2. They want the lady to be picture perfect, the model of their dreams. They want her to have the perfect measurements of the lady in their head even without knowing those measurements. They want her to provide the perfect stimulation with the only access to that knowledge being mental telepathy. She should know what to do, when to do it, and how soft or firm to do it in the first 3 to 5 minutes of meeting a new client and don't forget men are just as varied as ladies in what makes them arrive at the ultimate goal.

The major difference between the men and the ladies is that the men are there for one reason, to release a load with a beautiful lady instead of "taking the matter into your own hand(s)". The man wants to perhaps escape from reality or the stress his life deals him and think of himself as a damn good lover with the lady of his dreams. He wants to feel like the king of his little mountain for a little while. Perhaps he wants to fall in love and feel young again but remember gentlemen you can only fall in love for an hour or two then it's back to reality.

The lady is there for one reason and one reason only period, the donation. While she tries to please each and every client so she wont get a bad review and possibly hurt her business she would a lot rather you just dropped off the donation and left. If she has to "be with" you then she will and try to make the most of it for you so you will bring more donations in the future. If she senses you are the romeo lover type then you can bet your ass she will have an "O" even if your little limp johnson can't reach the "G" spot and your "man in the boat" stimulation feels like sand paper. If she senses you want her to "O" then "O" it is. While all this is going on, just to name a few things, she still has to worry about life. Possible like her kids, or her SO, or the utility bills, or rent, or keeping her p**p d@##y happy, or making her car payment. So if you think you are going to get a legitimate "O" out of her you would have better luck winning the lottery in Russia. Food for thought here, do you really think a lady is going to get on a national forum and admit she doesn't have "O" when she is visiting with a client? You can compare this to the WWE or WWF or what ever wrestling is being called now, not the mixed martial arts or cage fighting but the clown suit wearing wrestlers that stand on the top rope of the arena and jump off and land on their opponent then loose the match, that wrestling. With all the money wrestling is making do you really think any one of them will say "oh it's fake we just try to make it realistic for the fans so we can make more money"? Well do you really think provider is going to look you in the face or get on a national forum and say "oh I faked an "O" for you so you will come back so I can make more money"? She is there for one reason and one reason only....the donation. You would be wise to remember that and to remember you are there for one reason and one reason only and you will never get past the mental wall these ladies build so you will never truly know what make them "O". As has already been stated a lady's "O" is mostly mental, so there's no way you will get past the wall to learn her well enough to get her to "O". So live your 1 or 2 hour fantasy and leave, enjoy your time there and be gone thinking how good a lover you are and you and the lady will both be happy. Pay'em, lay'em, and leave'em that's all they are interested in from you, especially the pay'em part. So be a gentlemen, leave your donation, have your fun and get, she doesn't want you hanging around trying to find out what makes her "O", and come back when you have more donation, she'll leave the light on for you..............or who ever.

http://jezebel.com/5976206/orgasm%20...o-infrequently

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[Guest110516]

Originally Posted by ICU 812

Years ago in the late 1990s, Maxum Magazine ran a short article on the physiological manifistations of femal orgasm. Two completely unfakable items were dilated pupils and facial flushing. Now I know that some drugs will do these things . . .but you'd alreadty KNOW . . . .right?

Bad news for those counting on pupil dilation...

From here (http://www.wired.com/threatlevel/201...-detector/all/ ), "...the stress of lying tends to cause the pupils to dilate."

So, she seems to be having an O, you check to see if her pupils are dilated. They are. She could be having an O, or she could be lying about something (hmm, what could she be lying about?).

I'll just stick with blind faith or to paraphrase Bernie Mac: she has the same five minutes I have.

[Doove]

Originally Posted by samantha thom

Why do you men care so much if the provider cum?

A little late to the party, but i'll chime in on this. The reason some of us care is because our favorite 15 seconds of an encounter is when our partner is having an orgasm. And while i realize the easy assumption to make is that it's all about the ego, that's not always the case. To which...

Like London said, unlike men, most of women's orgasms are mental....not much to do with the guy's talent.

Understood. Which is why i don't care if the result is ultimately achieved from my tongue, her fingers, or a vibrator. I simply find the sounds and visuals of an attractive lady in the throes of her own ecstasy to be incredibly sexy and stimulating, and like i said, i don't care how she got there. In fact, i can enjoy it (almost) just as much if i'm not even in the room. To me, whether or not porn is worth watching pretty much begins and ends with just how intense, without extending beyond the bounds of believability, the female's orgasms are, if real, or seem to be, if fake. So that's why we care if the provider cums or not.

Originally Posted by London Rayne

"Wanting her to enjoy her time with you" is one thing, but demanding she must have a real orgasm for YOU to be happy, is another.

I agree, but let me add this. While i certainly hope she wouldn't have to fake it, just from a customer service standpoint, if it ain't gonna happen, i'd rank a provider who faked it above one who didn't - provided, of course, she was good at it, believable and convincing. And why wouldn't I? If one provides me my favorite part of an encounter, and the other doesn't....well? But that all being said, if she's not good at it, then it's just a big turn-off. Blech!

[KarynKumming]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

The thing is, this is NOT about a girlfriend...we are not here to put PRESSURE on you guys of any kind. If you go into a date so hell bent on insisting a provider has a REAL orgasm, that is no different than a provider saying, "Are you gonna cum, are you..how much longer?" Does that make you get there faster? I think not...just the opposite in fact. "Wanting her to enjoy her time with you" is one thing, but demanding she must have a real orgasm for YOU to be happy, is another.

I can only speak for myself, but I do appreciate you guys who at least try to get me off...it certainly helps with the lubrication factor, and sex is easier with it, than without. Just know, that if I don't cum, that does not mean I did not "enjoy" it. My body has changed as I am getting older, and I am not yet at that "prime" that so many women in their late 30s, and 40s speak of, but it is getting better I can assure you lol.

When I first started providing, it was no gfe, no kissing, and one pop. I never had an orgasm. Now, I can pretty much get off with anyone regardless of what they look like, as long as that person is not hurting me physically.

So, for the guys what truly do care about the provider getting hers...great, but don't make that concern so demanding it becomes pressure vs. pleasure.

London, I hit my "prime" when I turned 39 and sex has been a roller coaster ride ever since. Until then, I didn't even know I had an actual g-spot and probably faked more orgasms than I had. Now, I'm multi-orgasmic, my libido is off the charts, I create puddles, and things that used to turn me off I consider great fun now (LOL). It's true that sex most definitely gets better with age. It's a valuable trade off for a wrinkle or two :-)

[pyramider]

The g spot is a myth. Women's orgasms are moving targets and mostly myths.

[KarynKumming]

That's what I thought too Pyramider. Now I know differently :-)

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by pyramider

The g spot is a myth. Women's orgasms are moving targets and mostly myths.

Very interesting thread...I've heard rumors about this orgasm thing and I've even read about where/when/how women have them (on the Internet, of course).... I've never actually witnessed it myself but, I'm starting to believe it and think there may be some truth to this rumor... I may need to do some more research. Thanks for all the info!!