Sexual Sadism

[obanrocks]

Years ago I had the pleasure of escorting a fine young lass to a BDSM event here in Dallas. It was my first experience in the realm. We all gathered, ate, and socialized at a Mexican place near Love Field. The event then moved to the warehouse district west of 35E. I'll never forget that night. I never thought I'd have the slightest interest. How wrong I was. I stood in awe of all the activities around me that night. I was amazed at what I later found out to be the "euphoric" state. What an awakening! To make a long story short, that was the night I realized I had dominant tendencies. I'm totally keen to the idea of being responsible for & controlling someone's pleasure. To be granted that level of trust is the highest, sincerest form of a compliment and an honor.

Does that make me a sadist? Unequivicably no. Pain is but one of many tools from which to define pleasure........

Kudos to some of the wonderful posts on this thread:

Originally Posted by babee

I call myself a middle of the road sadist. There's 'kiss of pain", "bite of pain" and full mix.

I bite.

Originally Posted by babee

I think I just came a little.

That's hotness right there....

Originally Posted by Catherine Grey

Pure sadism seems to be rare, in the sense of deriving strict pleasure from causing pain.

For myself, I derive pleasure from pleasure, which can be derived from pain, in the case of a submissive's ecstatic response to endorphins or subspace or simply a powerful flogging. There's something incredibly hot about a bound man (or woman) lost in a rush of endorphin-induced euphoria.

Amen Catherine.

Originally Posted by Miss Sophie Bella

I'll 'fess up if no one else will: I certainly partake in activities on the sadomasochistic spectrum, frequently and with pleasure. As we've often discussed this is exclusively with partners who enjoy the tension and extreme sensations they experience at the hands of a creative, sadistic dominant.

Some scenarios do revolve around physical pain, such a whipping, painful CBT or difficult physical tasks performed to earn a reward. Most, however, are intended to cause psychological distress: anxiety, fear, anticipating the wrath of the Mistress, the crushing and humiliating feeling when you fail to please her. Creating those highs and lows, those incredibly lucid moments when your partner is so present and engaged in the moment, is really electrifying.

We've created a society that cocoons our senses and lulls us into a series of days that look and feel very much the same. When you live your life in a series of climate controlled automobiles and buildings, interact with other people via a set of varied electronic devices and eat food shipped from far away places, grown by people you will never meet, it's easy to lose all sense of connection to our environment, to the passing of time and to one another. It makes perfect sense that many of us are thrilled and aroused by making such a real, deep, intense, personal connection to our own bodies and our own psyches using the tools of physical pain and difficult emotions.

Suffering is in our nature. Every living person experiences it. here is real power in allowing another person to force you to engage with that reality. Sadism and masochism are, in my view, about connecting to the things that make us human.

Very well stated. I might add we are the most spoiled folks on the planet. Busting out of that cacoon every now and then is a great way for us to realize just how fortunate we are.

Originally Posted by BritneyBangs

I like your quote about the childhood leftovers. I am not sure if this was, in any way, what you meant. This is one way I feel about the subject. Children are not modest, they are completely free to play and express themselves without anyone judging them. For the most part anyway. I find absolute freedom in being a Domme. You get to act out socially unacceptable acts which always makes me happy! You get to exercise and challenge yourself mentally by using your imagination. In my life, I have lost the ability to marvel and playing in this world let's me do that again. Also, for someone to place that much trust in me is such an honor. As for the part about sexual sadism, I derive pleasure from seeing My sub enjoy themselves. I must admit that a part of me likes to dole out pain mentally and physically for my own perverted selfish reasons. I would be fine with bloodplay and more extreme play, but no one has crossed my path that I could practice that with. I think more people are at least intrigued by this than they will admit. Lastly, I am with most of you in that I would be bored to death if all the play I participated in was just physical. Okay okay...one more thing I think is interesting is that out here in the real world I am very easy going and non confrontational, unless provoked.

Appreciate the honesty Britteny. I can echo much of your sentiment.

Originally Posted by gfeamanda

I have a bit of a sadistic streak to me, but I also tend to be more submissive, so this makes it hard for me to act out on my sadistic streak. I've not figured out a way around this.... except one... a threesome with a dominant who makes me do naughty things to another submissive

Looks like I need to take an extended layover in ATL......

Originally Posted by AO.

i'm into blood. cutting. ya know.

Originally Posted by AO.

I'm hands down a sexual sadist.

Sent you a PM - would like to discuss.