Why one woman chose to be a sugar baby and not an escort

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by bladtinzu

You left out the most important part. The part I pulled on my second ex wife. Ironclad prenupt... She left with what she brought into it... Not a goddamn thing.

Which is fair. Although I don`t understand why marrying at all?

In Europe, except for Switzerland (of course......) pre- nups in private matters are mostly illegal, considered against "good taste" and the spirit of a definition of a marriage, that is why I am curious about that point. And even in Switzerland divorce laws are very very strict. So even if you have a pre-nup you might still need to pay in other directions , that are not covered with pre-nup.
The only way a pre-nup can be done is , when you share a business enterprise together during the course of the marriage. This can be regulated within a pre-nup arrangement. In private matters, not possible. I mean, you could set up a pre-nup, if you find a lawyer, who does it, but in the event of a divorce no court will grant it. It will be a worthless piece of paper ripped apart in front of your eyes by a smiling jugde that gives you a lecture of ethics and good will.


I wonder what`s the point of marriage, if you need a pre-nup in private matters? Wouldn`t it be easier to simply NOT marry?

So back to premeditated "unfairness" like point 3 ... while demanding point 6 I consider .. hmmm hmm... well
Can`t say in words , so let me post a pic to make myself clear

[Guest121613]

this is an interesting thread, I am glad I took some time to read it this morning. As I met several awesome providers, and some less awesome, I would not have issue with marrying the right one even if she was a provider, but one other hand, I don't see myself getting married again, but would rather simply have a SO that supports a growing and equal relationship. The provider perspective on serving for pay is better than the american woman's standard, which is too frequently to be served, and attempting to own the man.

Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston

I asked my sugar baby of 3 years if she ever thought about being an escort and without a second of hesitation she answered, "Because I want to get married some day, silly!" She went on to explain, ". . .. If you're an escort you simply can't hide that, it eventually comes out. . . . . and the second it comes out 95% of guys cut you off the list of potential wives because they don't want to have to explain to their circle of friends at the country club why their wife was once a hooker."

I thought that was such an interesting response I had to share.

[Jewish Lawyer]

A pre-nup actually encourages marriage, by taking the marrying for money concept out of the marriage. A rich man (or woman) could not contemplate marriage without such an arrangement being enforceable, unless they were a sucker, which many are, believe me.

[dreamvacationdates]

Originally Posted by LilMynx69

I know plenty of girls in both situations and it always seems to come down to this...

Providers chose what they do because they want to have the ultimate control over their lives while achieving financial independence.

Sugar Babies are willing to give up control in exchange For financial support.

Also lot of Sugar babies want a relationship, just that it has to be with a guy that will provide financial support, and I found a lot of them them do not want to be with multiple guys,
alot of time they want to be a girlfriend of a stable mature guy, but it's the guys that keep them at bay by remaining a sugar daddy.

[dreamvacationdates]

Originally Posted by misspriss

Another way to look at it is that SB choose to give up "control" of their lives in exchange for not having to give up their bodies to multiple strange men.

Whereas providers choose not to be at the will of an SD but therefore have to relinquish "control" of their bodies to multiple men.

IMHO there's no difference, the women are still dependent on men for their living expenses. Whether it be once a month wondering if he's going to give you $ to get by or day day waiting for the next man to book your time.

If at any point your SD left you or the appointments stop rolling in, could you support yourself? Let us not forget at any moment anyone could have an accident that deforms our exterior - if so, would the SD still provide? Would the men still pay for your time? Probably not. Bottom line: if you could not stand on your own after they leave, you really have no control at all...do you?

As far as marriage goes, the truth is, very few men would marry a provider if they knew everything. The basis of a relationship is a rock solid foundation - which includes full disclosure.

No man wants to imagine his wife had lots of lovers before him. Sure we all have a past and even I wasn't a virgin when I married but after a certain # of men, you're just not considered wife material to MOST.

totally agree, well said
No one wants to find out after you're married that your wife was doing this line of work, and if you think this stuff you post will go away on the internet, good luck with that, a lot of sites archive the stuff you post, and a search will pull it up.