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mexicali9 · 06-18-2011, 03:54 AM

Man, I'm going to say it. I do love my wife, she's given me two beautiful children, stuck with me through hard times to finish school, moved far away from home for my job but she's just not into the sexual relationship anymore. If we do anything she tries to act like she's into it, but I feel like she's just going along with it because its in our marriage contract, lol. Any who, I try to get it all the time and most times its I don't feel like it or "only if you buy me something or can I have $50". So realistically, im paying my wife for sex some how. Thank god she's cheap because her skills are very limited and she hates to give any kind of bj's. There's 2 sexual positions on her menu, that's mish and if I'm lucky I'll get a CW. So I do love my wife with all my heart but there is something's she can't give me. Hobbying puts me in a better mood, gives me more confidence at home and at work, I give her more attention everyday and show her how much I appreciate her in my life. If I didnt hobby, I would be an A hole when I come home from work everyday and that's not fair to my wife and kids. Hobbying is like a stress reliever and works better then taking meds from a Dr. or just drinking, which is not a good thing either. Being a drunk dad/ husnand is far worse. Plus, its not like this is done everyday, its once in a blue moon when i feel like I need my batteries recharged. I don't need an affair with stupid emotions and strings. I can only love one woman and that's my wife. Honestly, if my wife started to hobby, I don't think I would care. Now if she started to have an affair with a man and fall in love with him. That's the issue that kills me, because now she wants to be with that person for the rest of her life. Hobbying is a non commitment thing, its bcd and you really never have to see each other again and the word I Love you is never spoken of. Unless you tell your provider you love what they are doing right there. That's my 2 cents and I hope it make sense. Hate me or love me, I'm not here to please you. I'm in this world to make money and support my family.

Still Looking · 06-19-2011, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by LexusLover

Penguins are the only species that are truly monogamous, of which I am aware.

GEESE mate for life!

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Originally Posted by mexicali9

Man, I'm going to say it. I do love my wife, she's given me two beautiful children, stuck with me through hard times to finish school, moved far away from home for my job but she's just not into the sexual relationship anymore. If we do anything she tries to act like she's into it, but I feel like she's just going along with it because its in our marriage contract, lol. Any who, I try to get it all the time and most times its I don't feel like it or "only if you buy me something or can I have $50". So realistically, im paying my wife for sex some how. Thank god she's cheap because her skills are very limited and she hates to give any kind of bj's. There's 2 sexual positions on her menu, that's mish and if I'm lucky I'll get a CW. So I do love my wife with all my heart but there is something's she can't give me. Hobbying puts me in a better mood, gives me more confidence at home and at work, I give her more attention everyday and show her how much I appreciate her in my life. If I didnt hobby, I would be an A hole when I come home from work everyday and that's not fair to my wife and kids. Hobbying is like a stress reliever and works better then taking meds from a Dr. or just drinking, which is not a good thing either. Being a drunk dad/ husnand is far worse. Plus, its not like this is done everyday, its once in a blue moon when i feel like I need my batteries recharged. I don't need an affair with stupid emotions and strings. I can only love one woman and that's my wife. Honestly, if my wife started to hobby, I don't think I would care. Now if she started to have an affair with a man and fall in love with him. That's the issue that kills me, because now she wants to be with that person for the rest of her life. Hobbying is a non commitment thing, its bcd and you really never have to see each other again and the word I Love you is never spoken of. Unless you tell your provider you love what they are doing right there. That's my 2 cents and I hope it make sense. Hate me or love me, I'm not here to please you. I'm in this world to make money and support my family.

So you hobby for your wife and kids?! And you would not care if your wife started to be a provider?! OKKKKKK.......

A hobbyist once said, "There is NOTHING wrong with getting a little strange once in a while, but if you some how find something you like better, NOW you got problems!" So true, so true!

LexusLover · 06-19-2011, 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Still Looking

GEESE mate for life!...

Life is short.

hartboyz20 · 06-20-2011, 12:11 PM

+2 JohnMacnab

hartboyz20 · 06-20-2011, 12:18 PM

I disagree with the fact a man cant be faithful, even if he is taken care of. whenever I am in a relationship, where all i don't hear is bitching, but mutually respectful, I have never strayed.
A man can have only so much sex, never equal to a woman!!! so if she is wearing you out, you wont be able to go anywhere else.
I have a friend of mine that has been married for 15 years. Every single day of their marriage, when he gets out of the shower, his wife drops to her knees and gives him a bbbjtccim, and sex 5 times a week at night. He will say another woman is pretty, but he has never cheated, and we have know each other for a lot of years. She told me and another couple of guys, bring your SO or GF over, and I will tell them what it takes to keep a man faithful.....IT WORKS

Eccie Addict · 06-20-2011, 05:36 PM

I too disagree that a man can't be faithful, I can can say with absolute confidence that I will never cheat, nor have I ever cheated. Just as I can say I have never drank, smoked or done any drugs and I never will.

It takes commitment and dicipline.... anyone who says they can't is only giving excuses and justifying why they can't. That goes for both sides of the fence.

oilfieldscum · 06-20-2011, 10:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

I too disagree that a man can't be faithful, I can can say with absolute confidence that I will never cheat, nor have I ever cheated. Just as I can say I have never drank, smoked or done any drugs and I never will.

It takes commitment and dicipline.... anyone who says they can't is only giving excuses and justifying why they can't. That goes for both sides of the fence.

Never say never. Experiences in life change people.

Eccie Addict · 06-20-2011, 10:46 PM

Not always....

Can you say with certainty that there is something you know you will never do? I bert there is.

Still Looking · 06-21-2011, 03:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

I too disagree that a man can't be faithful, I can can say with absolute confidence that I will never cheat, nor have I ever cheated. Just as I can say I have never drank, smoked or done any drugs and I never will.

It takes commitment and dicipline.... anyone who says they can't is only giving excuses and justifying why they can't. That goes for both sides of the fence.

EASY for you to say, Your a dam RABBIT! LOL

I have cheated! I have cheated and I smoke. I have cheated, smoked and been drinking! I have cheated, smoked, drank and taken blue pills! And it takes DICIPLINE to do all at the same time! You just need to stay focused!

oilfieldscum · 06-21-2011, 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Not always....

Can you say with certainty that there is something you know you will never do? I bert there is.

Yes certain chemical compounds I would never take. I do find it strange to talk about not cheating on a hobby board in a thread started by a provider who is retireing to be with her man...lol

Eccie Addict · 06-21-2011, 07:48 AM

You mean life experiences would never drive you to take certain chemical compounds....

Exactly my point. It is possible to say never will....

ne14a692007 · 06-21-2011, 09:20 AM

First of all, who in their right mind would look for intel on fidelity on an escort board, only a 20 year old. With that said, a little about me,
I am a 35 year old male that has been married for 15 years. My wife still turns heads and is game for sex whenever and whereever. Does she always give a bj...no, is she always in the mood...no, but she does always give it to me when I want it, which is four or five times a week. There are times (not many) when I am not in the mood but she is and Ill take one for the team also. We have a great business and two wonderful kids, so all in all life is wonderful. I am a hypocrite as we are active in church and I hobby. I have not always hobbied, I was totally faithful for the first 8 years of our marriage. One day I found TER and a man can only look at 20 year old hard bodies for so long before giving in. My problem is plenty of resources$$ and spare time. I do love my wife and family and I have resolved to quit many times, but eventually the call of the WET unknown becomes to strong and I make the appointment, and have a great time, and feel bad about myself...repeat and so on. I have several male friends (all business men) and most hobby. The ones who "dont" probably can just keep a secret better. I will be honest, the only thing that keeps me from hobbying more is the fear of disease. I always use protection for CFS, but I enjoy DATY almost as much as the receipent. BBBJ is always a hit also. Lets be honest men, after years of BBFS with the wife, it takes these activities to make us happy with CFS, and no one is crazy enough in the world today to hobby BBFS. To answer your question hun, yes there are men out there who are faithful, but if you have an alpha male..one who is motivated...outgoing......succ essful....charming(he got you to like him)...then it is my sad opinion that there is nothing you can do to keep the inevitable from happening. Its like I read on another members post "I stray to stay"

Eccie Addict · 06-21-2011, 09:36 AM

^ nice, honest post....

You are right that there is nothing she can do. She can't control him any more than he can her. We are responsible for ourselves and our own decisions. If we stray it was our decision to do so.

CaptainQ · 06-21-2011, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by hartboyz20

Every single day of their marriage, when he gets out of the shower, his wife drops to her knees and gives him a bbbjtccim, and sex 5 times a week at night.

landon · 06-22-2011, 12:18 AM

I am married and hobby. My main fav is also married - she danced at a club where I am VIP. She does not believe in monogamy and sex is her hobby. I hobby bc:

1. No sex in marriage due to wife change of life / female issues.
2. Been married too long to go thru hassle of divorce, expense, or family breakup.
3. I would not be celibate anymore than I would eat garbage.
4. Strippers / Escorts beat wasting time in bars. Much more cost / time efficient than say the dating game.
5. I am not interested in the love / soul mate thing at this stage of life - just good sex with a sexy woman who is fun to be with and understanding to my hobbying.
6. My fantasies involve casual sex, seeing escorts / different women.
7. The NSA of hobbying or something like SA is superior to dating.
8. Many of the women I meet hobbying like to model for me.
9. I have great respect for Escorts / Strippers - many of them are gifted in being a provider. Probably in pre-historic times they were passed around the campfire while the wives slept in the tent / compound taking care of children. It is unnatural for our society to suppress a mans desire to enjoy escorts with its human created "morality" which in reality is a sham to control the masses while the rich get richer.
10. Escort gals give it to me how I want it. Even if I were married to wonderful woman and we were sexually active, I would still see escorts / strippers.