May I Have a Break?

[sensualsanaa]

Hmm... so is that to say she should be paying for her own food too? I dont understand. I thought it was customary for the ladies needs to be met when she accompanies someone on a trip. If he offers to pay for her shopping and massage then why shouldn't she take the money? If he doesn't, he already paid her so I'm sure she can afford it. The point is not who pays for it, but for her to enjoy some time NOT "on top" of him.

[catnipdipper]

Advice from a guy that porks a stufftie?

Knowledge ok and answers to questions but forgo the advice imho.

Then again I am a Cat guy.

[Naomi4u]

A date like this will only work with communication.
If the lady is afraid to communicate her needs to the gent then she's better off not going on such trip with him in the first place. Communication is key to any successful date whether it's one hour or a week together.

xoxox,
Z

[catnipdipper]

Why pack a lunch when you can sample local cuisine?

In the end the costs will be less and the variety greater?

[sensualsanaa]

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

A date like this will only work with communication.
If the lady is afraid to communicate her neeSd to the gent then she's better off not going on such trip with him in the first place. Communication is key to any successful date whether it's one hour or a week together.

xoxox,
Z

+1

[WTF]

Originally Posted by jamais vu

Hello!


JV

Looks like jamais vu has pulled a Harry Houdini on us!

Ms Vu, please report back to us and tell us how it went.

Did ya screw that old bastard to death in the first 24 and shop the last 48?

[jamais vu]

Thank you all for the wonderful advice. Skylar and London, I like your ideas about waking up early to shower/get ready as time to gather my morning thoughts.

Am-A-Pleaser:
Every single one of my vacation dates have been like you described. My gentleman friends usually had meetings all day so I had time to take care of myself. This is the first time I've been asked on a date that was strictly vacation for us both...not a business trip for him. That's why I was so clueless and apprehensive, haha!

Our date isn't until New Year's Eve, so I still have plenty of time; I'll definitely report back! I've actually decided to casually mention once we are there, as things come up, what I want to do. I do NOT want to "Lay Down the Law" before we even take off. If I feel like escaping to the gym in the morning and then hit the sauna for a few hours before he wakes, I will. I'm not demanding and consider myself to be pretty reasonable, so I'm sure he won't see my requests as bitchy or intrusive. Well, I hope! haha!

[jamais vu]

I stay pretty busy with work and school so I don't have time to post very often. However, I lurk more than I care to admit, haha! It's hard to be witty and poignant all the time, so when I feel like I dont have anything to contribute...I don't.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by shorty

Your not into the guy and only doing this for a big payday. I don't see a problem with you saying that you like to go shopping, go to the gym, or go get a massage. There's a way to ask but not sound demanding. If you start to make up excuses about going here in there, then the trip will end badly for the both of you. A trip like this should be with someone you feel comfortable with and you would go with him even if there was no money involved.

Hi Shorty,
I think that is a little too exaggerating. I think it is a persons "style" as well how much "you" time someone needs per day. Granted, even if i am on vacation with my lovers, i don`t want to see them 24/7. I need some "me" time. I also don`t live togehter with lovers for that reason.

I think every client also finds his match. My clients have the same style of relating. None of them needs a clingy someone that can`t take care of herself for a few hours. Neither do i need clients that need me to babysit them for the whole time. Preferably in the morning most often people need alone time. I do, thankfully my clients as well. We either meet at breakfast or later to enjoy the time together.Last i had a client who got up at 7 in the morning , while i did at 10 or 11. He had breakfast alone and of course he did not wake me up because he was happy to do some business stuff undisturbed. Sometimes also in the afternoons before evening entertainment i prefer a break to refresh and take a nap or something like that. Also do the clients. :-). I can`t imagine any escort being together with a client all the time, specially when you do things like museums during the day and evening entertainment in the night. It`s a bit too exhausting, i`d say.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by John Bull

What a crock of shit!!

Don`t tell me you`ve adapted to my communication style ;-) (just kidding)

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

Wow imagine that lol! A guy who knows that he has a human function that may disrupt your sleep and make you at less than your best the next day, and accommodates for it. Simply amazing lol.

Well, he is an exception i might add. He does that for all ladies, not for me only. I would of course never ever ask him to do so. I am particular sensitive with sleeping, so i need ear plugs anyhow all the time. The guy also sometimes books two or three ladies alltogether, so they stay in one room and he in the other part of the suite.

One time (no joke) i had a client snoring so hard, that i went on to sleep on the floor of the living room because i simply could not sleep and the couch was too small for me ;-) Being not able to sleep was worse than being not able to move the next day for me ;-)

[SweetAmanda]

Sure you get a break. Even if he's paying you. At any other job, you'd get your lunch break, etc. When I travel with my boyfriend (my real boyfriend, not a client), I take a little time to myself each day. Why should it have to be different with a client? Do what you need to with as little fanfare as possible (ie, you shouldn't have to negotiate a formal "break" policy) and hopefully that will make it feel more like a true GFE. Chances are, your 24-hour rate is significantly less than your 1 hour rate x 24, so I think little breaks here and there should be considered part of the package by any reasonable client. I'm personally a much kinder human being when I have a little time to myself each day, even when the person I'm "escaping" from is someone I truly love. It's human.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by jamais vu

I stay pretty busy with work and school so I don't have time to post very often. However, I lurk more than I care to admit, haha! It's hard to be witty and poignant all the time, so when I feel like I dont have anything to contribute...I don't.

This was a very good thread and so is the other one. Sometimes less is more

[Madame X]

Of course you get a break, how ridiculous!

Obviously it would be a little odd if you scheduled your breaks with him beforehand, as if you were "clocking in/out" like the 9 to 5. That's just a little cold. But if you need an hour to check your email, call your dogsitter, whatever have you, it would be pretty overbearing of him to deny you. That said, the man will most likely need a break too. Rarely have I ever actually had to ask, but when my date mentions that he has something to do, I just ask him how long he'll be and if he minds if I run off for a bit, and give him a little privacy.

For just a 72 hour trip, I'm not sure how much time you would need. I really can't go without checking my email for more than 2 days, and the friend I leave my dog with for short trips likes to call at some point in the evening to fill me in on how much she's spoiling my furry little princess

~Mme X~

[MissNorway]

I think it's okay to ask for a couple hours to yourself every day. I don't see how it would be any different than being with a significant other or spouse. How many times have we been on vaca with our loved ones but still wanted a few mins or some time alone? Doesn't mean you aren't having a good time or you don't love or care about the person...Unless I'm just strange but even when I'm with my SO, I'm not all over him 24/7, nor is he with me, that would be a bit creepy. Arrangement or not, you are both still human and unless he's the overzealous type, I don't think he would expect you to be "on" for 72 hours straight...

Maybe he will want some time to himself too, you never know. I would talk to him about it.