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cocky · 04-11-2011, 07:55 PM

You already know what you getting yourself into so charted a course and aim for it. Hope you the best of everything.

Wakeup · 04-11-2011, 09:40 PM

I hope you epic fail...that way people after you will look at it and realize it's dumb as a box of hammers to do what you're about to do...

Nick11796 · 04-11-2011, 10:53 PM

I have been surprised at how many guys who are active in the hobby believe that all escorts are bad ladies. Some, or maybe many, are. However, others are not. They get involved for financial issues, but are not thieves or bad people. These ladies want to leave the life if the circumstances are right.

The lady who is with me has been very honest with me. She has told me what she did, how long and often and also the types of things that would be in Alerts on this site.

We have discussed all aspects of her and my past lives. We know that we may run into her former clients and people, including neighbors, may identify her from her former profession.

We'll live with those risks. She is great with me physically. She is also great with me just talking and hanging around.

I have a new recognition about lots of things.

whitechocolate · 04-11-2011, 11:19 PM

I think some guys feel some escorts are not the type of gal they would get invovled with but escorts are a very diverse group. I have known lawyers, doctors and college professors who escort part-time. I have seen escorts in successful marriages. There is no one answer. It sounds like she is upscale in many if not all ways. I dont think you should come away feeling that the majority feel it will fail because she in not a good person. If it fails, there are lots of other reasons. Again, I recommend a short course of counseling even if you have discussed everything extensively.

Guest042413 · 04-11-2011, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Wakeuр

Civilbarrister? Where you at?

Guest042413 · 04-11-2011, 11:58 PM

Ok is it me or does he sound desperate seriously she has a spending problem and she flirts alot but were working on that your getting played lol and she is good ask her if she is has any sessions available lol

burner2157 · 04-12-2011, 12:43 AM

I'm going to be brutally honest Nick.This is a real longshot gamble for this to work and last but longshots to come in on rare occasions.I'm rooting for you and wish both of you/her happiness together.

LexusLover · 04-12-2011, 03:49 AM

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=138709

Nick, was the TS not satisfying for you back in December?

After you got your CIM session?

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=124374

And were those two adventurers, before, during, or after ...

you all were "hitting it off" ......?

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?...28#post1076528

"Several years ago, when I was new in Houston, I met an escort on EROS. She was popular and expensive. We wound up hitting it off. She left the profession, and we became closer and closer. Now it is likely that we will be married."

Did the TS offer CIM?

Right now, I am thinking she is making a mistake!

hartboyz20 · 04-12-2011, 10:29 AM

Dude,
Do what you want. A pre-nup is first order in any marriage. I do believe and know of more than a couple that have worked out great.
I met one years ago, I porbaly would have if she had been ready, but she wasn't, so very good friends for years.
Good-Luck, and I don't date anyone unlesws they are 20 years younger than me!!!!!!!!!!! Age is a mindset

petiteassman · 04-12-2011, 12:32 PM

marry or not but if you do it will probably be 1 hell of a bachelor party.

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

The lady who I am involved with is not good with money. In the past she has made a lot and spent a lot (on clothes, jewelry, cars, trips). I am aware of that, and we are dealing with it.

She is very pretty and dresses in a way that calls attention to herself. She also flirts a lot. Those things will not change.

However, despite everything else, she is faithful and tries hard to make me happy emotionally as well as physically. She expects me to be faithful to her and to treat her like a wife and not a mistress.

She has told me a lot about her life as a provider and the men she serviced. There are no secrets. Now she is out of the business.

There are good and bad things as in most relationships. For me, the good far outweighs the bad.

whitechocolate · 04-12-2011, 01:15 PM

Nick, you both sound very very sexual to say the least. I think an open situation without marriage is the way to go. Everyone makes all sorts of promises short term that are not workable long term. If you are both made for each other considering all the history of both sides, an open situation will be a true test of your mutual devotion. Good luck!!!

Nick11796 · 04-12-2011, 02:51 PM

The interesting thing is that although she is pretty and sexy, our relationship is not based on sex. I enjoy her physically. But I also enjoy her emotionally.

We both recognze our differences in things like spending and are working to bring things closer together.

It surprises me a bit that so few people seem to have had good experiences in this type of thing.

Wakeup · 04-12-2011, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

It surprises me a bit that so few people seem to have had good experiences in this type of thing.

"so few"? Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

Let us know how it works out dude.

Eccie Addict · 04-12-2011, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

The interesting thing is that although she is pretty and sexy, our relationship is not based on sex. I enjoy her physically. But I also enjoy her emotionally.

We both recognze our differences in things like spending and are working to bring things closer together.

It surprises me a bit that so few people seem to have had good experiences in this type of thing.

It really shouldn't be that big a surprise....

whitechocolate · 04-12-2011, 04:32 PM

Nick, it is great that you both are working on non-sexual relationship issues and have a great emotional connection. If you didnt, we wouldnt be having this discussion. But dont deny the sexual component in both of you. You cant get away from that. You both are very sexual and to try to turn down or alter the erotic side will lead to problems. That is why I really recommend an open marriage. They can work although I am sure there will be a lot who say they cant. If you both are mature, secure and well grounded, it can make the relationship extra hottttt. As has been pointed out above, you seem to have a rich and varied erotic side to your hobbying and she, being a flirt, probably has a lot of erotic fantasies as well. Dont try to bottle all that up since that just wont work. You both need to enjoy your sexual needs and desires no matter where that leads both of you. That is just my personal view.