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Sweet N Little · 02-16-2012, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Irish Vixen

now this is just my opinion..just because a married man hobbies does not mean he is not happy. It means he is missing something at home and seeks it out with ladies like us. We are safer than an affair due to the fact we know the boundaries...I have several married gentlemen I see who say by spending time with me it is actually helping their marriage...and there are many more reasons I could list but just being married and hobbying does not mean he is unhappy...means he is missing something on some level and by hobbying he is able to maintain his family life and still have time for him therefore filling that void making his life complete...we fill in the puzzle piece that is missing....

very true IV, kinda like if your missing a certain nutrient in your diet, your body will start automatically craving it.

It doesn't make you a bad person, only human.

WiLsOn · 02-16-2012, 01:03 PM

I have learned a lot from this thread. Put me down as being damn near happily married!

Wilson W Wilson

canuckvic · 02-16-2012, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Irish Vixen

now this is just my opinion..just because a married man hobbies does not mean he is not happy. It means he is missing something at home and seeks it out with ladies like us. We are safer than an affair due to the fact we know the boundaries...I have several married gentlemen I see who say by spending time with me it is actually helping their marriage...and there are many more reasons I could list but just being married and hobbying does not mean he is unhappy...means he is missing something on some level and by hobbying he is able to maintain his family life and still have time for him therefore filling that void making his life complete...we fill in the puzzle piece that is missing....

I think the term happily married is defined as they are not only married but every aspect of the marriage is solid, complete, satisfied, etc. I think a man can love his SO and also say that is not 'happily' married. IMO

Guest011914-1 · 02-16-2012, 02:02 PM

i agree completely...very well said..you can love someone and not be in love with them

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Originally Posted by canuckvic

I think the term happily married is defined as they are not only married but every aspect of the marriage is solid, complete, satisfied, etc. I think a man can love his SO and also say that is not 'happily' married. IMO

Wakeup · 02-16-2012, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Valerie

Exactly...Not everyone can be as happily married as you and I my dear...

True...we continue to rewrite the books on "happily married" every day love.

pyramider · 02-16-2012, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Wakeuр

True...we continue to rewrite the books on "happily married" every day love.

Better be a pop up book.

Wakeup · 02-16-2012, 06:03 PM

That's the only way people can understand us...

Robin3212003 · 02-16-2012, 07:26 PM

Many, if not most, of the single guys that are currently hobbling, will eventually get married. My guess is 80-90 percent of them will continue hobbying. They will love the lifestyle of being a husband and a father. And they will even love their wives dearly. But, because they won't be able to overcome their sexual addiction, or give up the pure adrenaline rush involved in new sexual encounters, they will continue hobbying. At least until nature slows them down.

canuckvic · 02-16-2012, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Robin3212003

Many, if not most, of the single guys that are currently hobbling, will eventually get married. My guess is 80-90 percent of them will continue hobbying. They will love the lifestyle of being a husband and a father. And they will even love their wives dearly. But, because they won't be able to overcome their sexual addiction, or give up the pure adrenaline rush involved in new sexual encounters, they will continue hobbying. At least until nature slows them down.

I would disagree on 80-90% single hobbyists getting married eventually. Sorry but some singles, this is there only avenue for sex possibly because of a lack of social skills/confidence, etc. I think the percentage would be lower. IMO

MrGiz · 02-16-2012, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Irish Vixen

1) now this is just my opinion..just because a married man hobbies does not mean he is not happy.
Agreed!

2) It means he is missing something at home and seeks it out with ladies like us.
Disagree!

3) We are safer than an affair due to the fact we know the boundaries...
Definitely Agree!!

4) I have several married gentlemen I see who say by spending time with me it is actually helping their marriage...and there are many more reasons I could list but just being married and hobbying does not mean he is unhappy...
I'm not sure about the "Marriage Counseling" angle... But Again... agreed!

5) means he is missing something on some level and by hobbying he is able to maintain his family life and still have time for him therefore filling that void making his life complete...we fill in the puzzle piece that is missing....
Again... Disagree!

As a longtime hobby guy, who has played the hobby when he was single... when in a long term live-in relationship... and when actually married.... I can safely say it has never been about something "missing" in any relationship. It's been about GREED! We hobby dawgs simply want MORE!
Not just more sex... but more "variety" of sex.... it's a GREED thing!

Human males are not naturally "programmed" like many other species, toward one lifetime mate.... that concept means nothing to most men! Even the idea simply doesn't make sense to us... we have never even considered it! It is my belief that any man who has been 100% totally faithful to his one woman for his entire life... was "taught" and "shamed" into that decision! 99.999% of those very few faithful men have most certainly "lusted for other females"..... they have just been "shamed" and "scared" into not attempting it, for fear of having their entire life GO TO HELL , if caught.... why? Because our stuck-up society says so! That's Bullshit!!

Maybe "GREED" isn't the best word.... but I believe guys who are comfortable with playing the hobby are guys who are truer to their real selves... and have ignored society's anal attempts at neutering them!
In other words.... we are "Non-Conformists" !! And I don't think there's a damned thing "wrong" with that!

A Dawg simply needs to enjoy being a Dawg!

Naomi4u · 02-16-2012, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by MrGiz

As a longtime hobby guy, who has played the hobby when he was single... when in a long term live-in relationship... and when actually married.... I can safely say it has never been about something "missing" in any relationship. It's been about GREED! We hobby dawgs simply want MORE!
Not just more sex... but more "variety" of sex.... it's a GREED thing!

Human males are not naturally "programmed" like many other species, toward one lifetime mate.... that concept means nothing to most men! Even the idea simply doesn't make sense to us... we have never even considered it! It is my belief that any man who has been 100% totally faithful to his one woman for his entire life... was "taught" and "shamed" into that decision! 99.999% of those very few faithful men have most certainly "lusted for other females"..... they have just been "shamed" and "scared" into not attempting it, for fear of having their entire life GO TO HELL , if caught.... why? Because our stuck-up society says so! That's Bullshit!!

Maybe "GREED" isn't the best word.... but I believe guys who are comfortable with playing the hobby are guys who are truer to their real selves... and have ignored society's anal attempts at neutering them!
In other words.... we are "Non-Conformists" !! And I don't think there's a damned thing "wrong" with that!

A Dawg simply needs to enjoy being a Dawg!

I think Greed is the perfect word. You said that well!

Robin3212003 · 02-16-2012, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by MrGiz

As a longtime hobby guy, who has played the hobby when he was single... when in a long term live-in relationship... and when actually married.... I can safely say it has never been about something "missing" in any relationship. It's been about GREED! We hobby dawgs simply want MORE!
Not just more sex... but more "variety" of sex.... it's a GREED thing!

Human males are not naturally "programmed" like many other species, toward one lifetime mate.... that concept means nothing to most men! Even the idea simply doesn't make sense to us... we have never even considered it! It is my belief that any man who has been 100% totally faithful to his one woman for his entire life... was "taught" and "shamed" into that decision! 99.999% of those very few faithful men have most certainly "lusted for other females"..... they have just been "shamed" and "scared" into not attempting it, for fear of having their entire life GO TO HELL , if caught.... why? Because our stuck-up society says so! That's Bullshit!!

Maybe "GREED" isn't the best word.... but I believe guys who are comfortable with playing the hobby are guys who are truer to their real selves... and have ignored society's anal attempts at neutering them!
[I]In other words.... we are "Non-Conformists" !! And I don't think there's a damned thing "wrong" with that!

A Dawg simply needs to enjoy being a Dawg!

A little crude, but well-put all the same. I absolutely cannot relate to the guy that can spend his life sleeping with the same woman. I just don't believe he exists. And if he does exist, I'm convinced he is the one that is abnormal!

Robin3212003 · 02-16-2012, 09:35 PM

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Originally Posted by canuckvic

I would disagree on 80-90% single hobbyists getting married eventually. Sorry but some singles, this is there only avenue for sex possibly because of a lack of social skills/confidence, etc. I think the percentage would be lower. IMO

No, I said MOST guys will get married, but 80-90 percent of those that do will continue hobbying. And not so much because they choose to, but because of an addiction to the lifestyle.

Likinikki · 02-16-2012, 09:36 PM

Very interesting thoughts!

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What a great thread! Who the hell knows what happily married means...it's different for each couple. What people do in private is their business - don't judge - it usually ends badly - like over 50% of marriages. Oh yeah, speaking of business - I've read that more than half of hobbyists are married. How would you like to give up over half of your prospective market ladies?

Happiness, is a state of mind...fidelity is a whole different subject. So, when someone says they're *happily married,* but still like a little strange on the side...why would we question his reality? Let's not confuse real LOVE with LUST and physical attraction.

And, as for the 50% of business lost if all the married men were to have to quit...guess we'd have to adjust our rates to compensate! (jk...lol!)

canuckvic · 02-16-2012, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Robin3212003

No, I said MOST guys will get married, but 80-90 percent of those that do will continue hobbying. And not so much because they choose to, but because of an addiction to the lifestyle.

my bad