Demiland, love, and dating

[WTF]

Originally Posted by AidanMacKenna

[B][FONT="Georgia"]. It was for that reason the emotion I called love was quickly replaced by hate.

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Fine line between love and hate!\

[discreetgent]

Originally Posted by Nicolette Bordeauxva

OK, DG, I've changed my mind. I could get married again if he thought like you.

Marriage? Who said anything about marriage. Have a lover like that living a distance away. I might even qualify, and if you want I'll make sure to call you Colette

[Guest053011]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

The question is where do you want to spend that special time? No right or wrong answer.

Agreed. Often enough demi-gents are so excited about my birthday (which I actually never celebrate left to my own devices) that they come up with some pretty exciting ideas. They've been a lot of fun, and it's a flattering gesture.

[Guest053011]

Originally Posted by AidanMacKenna

I couldn't agree more.

My thought on the matter is that if any of these relationships were a success, would we be here on a hobby board discussing how successful was our endeavor?

Wise words.

[Guest053011]

WTF: The thread is about people choosing to date within the demi-land lifestyle. It isn't meant to be a dissection of how you feel about my personal dating life. I'd rather not turn to the discussion into being all about me. It's inappropriate. I'd appreciate you not delving into such detail about my affairs and maybe focus on the general conversation.

[Guest020510]

Originally Posted by Lauren Summerhill

I'd rather not turn to the discussion into being all about me.

[discreetgent]

Originally Posted by Nineveh

Seems to me that there was a line by line dissection of only one poster's opinion in this thread. Makes you go hmm. So good to see how the quoted post advanced the conversation.

[Guest053011]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

Seems to me that there was a line by line dissection of only one poster's opinion in this thread. Makes you go hmm. So good to see how the quoted post advanced the conversation.

Nothing moves a conversation forward like fault finding and blatant mockery.

[discreetgent]

Originally Posted by Lauren Summerhill

Nothing moves a conversation forward like fault finding and blatant mockery.

My second sentence makes me guilty as well.

[OneHotMale]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

My second sentence makes me guilty as well.

Not at all dg as it was a good point that you made. I think some people are just generally clueless.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by Lauren Summerhill

WTF: The thread is about people choosing to date within the demi-land lifestyle. It isn't meant to be a dissection of how you feel about my personal dating life. I'd rather not turn to the discussion into being all about me. It's inappropriate. I'd appreciate you not delving into such detail about my affairs and maybe focus on the general conversation.

You brought it up

Be a like a person drinking telling me they don't like to drink with a drink in their hand! Just one of those things that makes one go hmmmmm.

Originally Posted by Lauren Summerhill

focus on the general conversation.

Originally Posted by WTF

How does anyone know what they will do in the future? Especially in matters of the heart?

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Originally Posted by Lauren Summerhill

Ever fall in love with an a client?

Yes, more then once. I've been terrified to express it. I'm afraid any kind of change will ruin an wonderful thing. I've been afraid that saying something would send him running. Granted, I imagine that my actions would speak louder then words.


would you run away and scream in horror if it was happening or go with the flow and see what happened?

If a gent fell for me and the feelings weren't mutual - I'd be perpetually worried that I was leading him on with empty hope. If there was potential for him to get hurt because he has poor crush-management skills, I'd probably stop any future dates.

If it was mutual love? Only if he were single. If he's married, I'm forever playing second fiddle, I get to be the dirty little secret. When I need him, he can't be there for me. I can't just call him or visit on a whim. It becomes a very lonely relationship. So, if that's the way things are going to be, I feel it's only fair he make an effort to at least financially provide for me, as he can provide little else.

I would consider a personal relationship with a single man. However, I'd really question his ability to handle dating a professional companion. I always tell anyone getting into a relationship with me that quitting is not an option, and not up for discussion. Often guys think they can handle it, but when confronted by the reality - things become unstable. It's not easy to know your girlfriend is off gallivanting with other men and having a grand time. I'll cancel plans with an SO because a date with someone I'm fond of came up. I'm often away my birthday and holidays with a demi-gent.

There's always the hope that I'll quit which is dashed as the years roll on and I continue to insist I'm happy and nothing will change.

Deception never played a role in my relationships. He always knew when I was away one a date, but usually knew little else.

As an escort would you be upset if your SO saw escorts?



I have always encouraged my SO's to see other ladies. I ask only that they not be in my social circle. I strongly prefer it be a professional lady instead of a swinger or some woman he picked in a bar.

Who was this about?

Originally Posted by Lauren Summerhill

Nothing moves a conversation forward like fault finding and blatant mockery.

On the flip side nothing moves a conversation like a false accusation.

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Quite logically folks posting on this topic are discussing their thoughts on the matter - in other words any post will be about them (or in first person about me) - and what they would do. What strikes me, WTF, is that no one else has been subjected to your philosophical delving. It could lead one to believe that you are obsessed with the posts of a particular poster.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

. .What strikes me, WTF, is that no one else has been subjected to your philosophical delving. It could lead one to believe that you are obsessed with the posts of a particular poster.

And if you say it enough you may even start to believe that

btw I haven't seen another poster make two statements in such stark contrast in this thread. Just ask many male posters in this forum when the discussion turns to politics. I never see them imply that I am...whatever it is you are implying.

Originally Posted by discreetgent

. Quite logically folks posting on this topic are discussing their thoughts on the matter - in other words any post will be about them (or in first person about me) - and what they would do.

So if we discuss/post about oneself and another poster ask how/why one aligns certain thoughts that seem to be in contrast the questioner is...

Are we not allowed to discuss positions one takes about themselves? If Lauren wants no more question on her position in this thread I will respect that but to inply that it is a anomaly is incorrect and somewhat selfserving if I may.

[discreetgent]

And if you say it enough you may even start to believe that

No need to I've believed it for a long time.

Let me see if I can clarify this: a post in such a thread will be about how a poster would react. So if I posted about my thoughts (which I did) that post would in that sense be about me. Calling someone out because a post is "about me" makes no sense in a thread like this. Questioning one particular post and leaving all the others alone is at best puzzling. One would think that you would be interested into philosophically delving into a wide variety of the opinions expressed.

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Dang, I leave for a while and this thread takes this turn...

Originally Posted by WTF

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How does anyone know what they will do in the future? Especially in matters of the heart?

WTF, just like you did not get my last comment to you, you obviously don’t understand that the only time one can claim what you did above is when that person has never been there before. Only when someone has no experience in a particular situation can one reasonably question things like you did. For instance, I have direct experience with what dg posted about and I know exactly what I will do in the future because I have been there before. I know what to expect even when it involves matters of the heart. I have checks now that I do which are centered on what I went through which means I learned. In brief, it is simple logic and reason that directs your initial actions when you have experience in the items being discussed then both one's emotional IQ along with one's mental IQ is what directs how things proceed afterwards.

Originally Posted by WTF

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On the flip side nothing moves a conversation like a false accusation.

On that point, we will both agree since I have been a target of that by others and I know all too well the truth in that.

Originally Posted by WTF

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Are we not allowed to discuss positions one takes about themselves?

Yes, we are hence the nature of a dialogic communication however to be obtuse, or badgering, about one’s point does paint oneself into a corner, don’t you agree?