Reasons why I'd make a provider's great SO.

[Ansley]

Originally Posted by Laurentius

When I pay my fee, I am paying you to be discreet, to attach zero strings to me, and to be as romantically non-dangerous as a eunuch.

Without that fee, what have I got?

Indiscretion, strings, and someone who thinks she has the same rights as a girlfriend.

I don't feel like it always has to be that way. The boundaries need to be set in place in the beginning and each party needs to have a clear understanding of them. If you value the friendship you have to stick by the rules otherwise the friendship will end. For me it's like having a "controlled crush" on the other person.

[discreetgent]

Jeez. When I hand over my envelope it is to fall in love. So y'all mean that is not what it's about?

[Ansley]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

Jeez. When I hand over my envelope it is to fall in love. So y'all mean that is not what it's about?

Very rarely DG. You know that. But when it happens it sure can be nice. If you are reading this Mr Last Summer, I hope everything is going well for you.

[Bliss]

***Giving Tif a high five on the anal comment*** Amen sista!!

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by Ansley

We all can have different opinions on what makes a man special.

In this world, what makes a man special is his ability to fork over 200-500 for a good fucking. If he can't do that, he's not special enough to get a fucking. And even then, there is a big disparity in the quality of the session a provider offers from one hobbyist to the next.

[discreetgent]

Originally Posted by Ansley

Very rarely DG. You know that. But when it happens it sure can be nice.

Hmm, looks like I missed a

[..]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

Hmm, looks like I missed a

oy fuckin' vey!

[Laurentius]

Originally Posted by Ansley

I don't feel like it always has to be that way. The boundaries need to be set in place in the beginning and each party needs to have a clear understanding of them. If you value the friendship you have to stick by the rules otherwise the friendship will end. For me it's like having a "controlled crush" on the other person.

That's fair enough. I have a couple of friends who happen to be escorts. One I see for sessions (paid of course) the other I don't, though we do other stuff.

I personally believe the payment is quite important. Anytime an escort has attempted to avoid it, sneak it back to me without me knowing or any of that jazz; it has always been a harbinger of trouble.

I'm sort of spooked on this point because I had allowed for a fair amount of OTC time in order to tutor a couple of a lady's kids and I thought it was no problem. Later, she sneaks payment for a session back to me by hiding it in my gym bag.

You cannot even imagine the mess. As far as I'm aware, I never led her on or anything. But when I met her for lunch to make extra sure she got her fee there were protestations of undying love, attempts to extract promises, and even a scene with her holding on to me and crying and telling me not to leave in front of a very uncomfortable crowd, etc.

I'm not in the hurting people business. I felt and still feel terrible about it. I have no idea how it came to pass for her; but though I've always liked her, I can't reciprocate what she needs. Obviously I no longer see her for anything physical; but as she is a lawyer in her day job with a firm I do business with, I end up doing lunch with her occasionally at her invite. Sometimes I catch a look from her that makes me feel like somehow I have abused or hurt her though I never meant to and don't understand how I did it.

So, no unpaid sessions for me. And, frankly, since that went down about a year ago, I have seriously restricted non-sexual OTC too. I have no idea what happened, but I don't want it happening to anyone else.

[Ansley]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

In this world, what makes a man special is his ability to fork over 200-500 for a good fucking.

The money only enables him to begin to play the game. Having money doesn't make a man special.

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

there is a big disparity in the quality of the session a provider offers from one hobbyist to the next.

That is very true with me Charles. I don't offer the same thing to each man I see. Each encounter is different, because each person is different. You can bet your bottom dollar if you walk in with a nasty woe is me attitude you will be treated differently than a person that has a wonderful positive attitude. If you want to be treated like everybody else, sign up for the assembly line, robotic, 15 minute sessions.

[discreetgent]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

In this world, what makes a man special is his ability to fork over 200-500 for a good fucking. If he can't do that, he's not special enough to get a fucking. And even then, there is a big disparity in the quality of the session a provider offers from one hobbyist to the next.

Even if he can do that it doesn't mean he will get a session. Not every request by a gent is accepted by a lady.

[Guest083011]

Originally Posted by Ansley

The money only enables him to begin to play the game. Having money doesn't make a man special.

Word! And it doesn't just apply to men, either.

[Laurentius]

Originally Posted by Ansley

The money only enables him to begin to play the game. Having money doesn't make a man special. .... Each encounter is different, because each person is different.

What can I say except ... Bravo!

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

there is a big disparity in the quality of the session a provider offers from one hobbyist to the next.

Originally Posted by Ansley

I don't offer the same thing to each man I see...If you want to be treated like everybody else, sign up for the assembly line, robotic, 15 minute sessions.

Ahhhh, but the ads portray a unique and high quality session for everyone. I guess there is a great deal of deception in these ads.

Maybe the pricing needs to be tiered:

• one hour, assembly line session = $
• one hour, somewhat personalized session = $$
• one hour, special wonderful session = $$$ (or $$$$, depending on the provider)

I guess, Ans, you'd be providing McDonald's treatment for Bone's prices.

[atlcomedy]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I guess, Ans, you'd be providing McDonald's treatment for Bone's prices.

I'm not getting in the middle of this cat fight.....

But Chuck, I give you props for the local reference

[OnceUponAnEscort]

Laurentus -

My best guess for how you ended up in the surprising situation you were in - was something you stated in your post.

You got involved with her children.

End of story.


I kept EVERYONE far, far, far, far, FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAR, AWAY from my children when I was a provider. One "non-client" hobbyist had met them. I didn't really have a choice, and needed help. I already trusted him dearly with my RL info, and we both KNEW FOR CERTAIN that both of us had NO INTEREST in one another what. so. ever. (I think we actually both looked at one another and went "eww")

Fellas.

If any provider has you get involved with her children, watch out. Put your guard up. Refer her to someone else that can help her out if you can. (so that if you do like her and feel you do "trust" her, that you are still helping her without putting yourself in the firing line of her emotions.)

Over the years I've seen story after story of trouble of one kind or another from a man with a heart wanting to help out - especially gals who are mothers - and it just going so badly for the fella. Yeah, I may be even going against myself at some point in the future maybe(should I be in that position and ask for help)...but I'm an honest person...I just tell it how I feel it. If you are gonna help... Watch. Out.