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Originally Posted by Laurentius
Very very few women are so hypersexualized they find every man attractive. Fewer than 1% suffer from "nymphomania" and maybe another 1% might be hypersexual during the manic phase of bipolar. The other 98% really do not feel a compelling urge to lay any man on two legs.
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Can't one be highly sexual without being diagnosed with a mental disorder? This goes back to the idea that there's something wrong with highly sexual women.
No one said anything about having to be attracted to every man or any man. It may be shocking to hear, but we actually have standards. Granted where we draw the line varies on the woman, but that's not to say we agree to put our selves into situations we find sexually degrading. We have the power to say no, and we exercise it. Even more economically attainable companion's aren't necessarily high volume and won't necessarily settle.
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Men are designed to find most women at least somewhat attractive. Women are designed to only find a few men attractive -- and which men they actually find attractive is a pretty complex situation.
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This is so painfully stereotypical it's almost a cartoon caricature of the male sex. Why must men be presented as having low standards? It is true that there are individuals of both sexes that probably leave much wanting, but most people have some sort of personal pride and sense of self respect.
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Obviously, a woman would WANT to have sex with a man she found attractive. But others? No. She really doesn't.
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Amongst ourselves women don't have this need to posture, and yet even when it's only ladies talking to ladies - they cross into the subject of their orgasms. It does happen, it actually has a lot to do with her sexual nature. Some women cum easily often, with nearly any sex partner, others need an emotional involvement, still others just have a physiology that makes orgasm work, but attainable. Some just don't. Some choose not to.
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especially trust and a sense of safety -- are necessary for a woman to achieve orgasm. Am I supposed to believe that a provider is a special breed of woman whose brain works differently?
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Really? You don't think women are capable of having a roaring orgasm on a one night stand?
As you mention, our brains do in fact work differently. Which means, that while guys have a greater tendency to chase their personal version of eye candy, I find women often become attracted to a man's looks after falling for his spirit. Meaning in the world of sexual tension: she may not notice you at first, but if you can catch her attention when you speak - you can stand the chance of making her lust you. Which means that he doesn't have to be a GQ model for me to be completely turned on by him, find him attractive and have a good time.
A good male friend of mine once said: "Women have the incredible ability to find their man attractive. Guys are either attracted or not, they don't grow into a physical attraction in the same way." I think this is true.
I'm not saying it's a perfect world, that there aren't unhappy women or women who aren't interested but like the income. However, I do think you paint too grim a picture with too broad a stroke. Those who enter the profession eagerly are not as rare as you might think, and that's becoming increasingly true as time passes. Far too cynical - such things become a self fulfilling prophesy. Half the challenge is being comfortable and sincere enough that you inspire the same feelings in her.