Trust me.. you will be next

[caster]

This is why I probably will never get married, it costs way too much. Its more likely that this thread is a zealot trying to get their point across though I feel it does the opposite. If the lady in this story was open instead of a close minded bible thumper she probably wouldnt have driven her man to cheat in the first place by not satisfying him or been able to understand and accept most men need to roam now and then and worked with him. Her beliefs ruined this marriage, spirituality has to be practical in the real world.

[Out_of_Bounds]

Therein lies the problem caster. This woman is exhibiting hard line closeminded dogma. Formal organized religion. Not spirituality. Don't confuse the two.

[GymRat]

Poor bastard lost his job because of the hobby? Hell, I have a professional position and most my coworkers gather in the break room Monday morning to hear my tales.

[308Shooter]

Originally Posted by eve

My GF cheated on me... Can I post an alert?????... I mean I was there to watch.. Does that count as cheating?? Uhm now I am confused?? All jokes aside though..... Sorry you got a divorce but like the ladies said already... He never "loved" someone like you but needed more. Maybe you should look into swinging or paying for that attorney ( I mean you already have a few guys interested in you). Then you would both be happy. I dont think seeing a provider makes him scum. He just had needs and you just couldnt fill the shoes. Case closed. As far as getting him fired.. that was lame. Why would you do that? Just because a man has a sexual need. BTW are you telling me that you never ever looked at another man and though " O My"... Come this is 2011 not 1801... GET over it Get laid and live happy. You know they say sex can help someones moods!!!!!!!!!

Well said Eve.

[Naomi4u]

*sigh* I'm always late .

Originally Posted by Valerie

VALARIE....fixed that for ya ......Don't want anyone confusing that nutjob with me!...I'm atheist anyways...

Thanks goodness. However, I know YOU wouldn't post such rubbish.

[Still Looking]

I was married to a CHRISTAN for 23 years! She committed adultery three times. I was faithful the entire time. I took her back each time. And I'm the heathen. A Christian friend of ours 6 months after the divorce asked me if I was ready to date? My reply was, "I'll start dating when I feel I can trust a Christian again. In the mean time I'll be here spending the $100,000.00 per year she cost me every year. Here I seldom here the word no

Let's face it… woman suck… And I’m OK with that

Hey guys what the hell is she talking about? You guys are all single and free just like me right?

My little black book is thicker tan Charlie Sheen’s Pre-Nup!

BTW: You want answers? I think I'm entitled! You want answers? I want the truth! You can't handle the truth!

Grab the bull by the horns ... and I'm not a UT fan!

[caster]

I hear you OOB, I don't get them mixed up. Also just because something is formal and organized doesn't mean it is dogmatic. There are spiritual aspects in all religions, and they fill a need people have. That is true even though you need no religion to be spiritual. The world would be a much better place if people turned their brains on and tried thinking about things instead of making instant value judgments all the time. If something is right or wrong you should be able to explain why.

[fishingtwo]

I've enjoyed the opions and am glad I have not had to go thur some of the poo-poo

endured by so many. lol

[SofaKingFun]

Wow! Valerie, sorry to hear of your heartbreak and now, failed marriage. That has to feel well below average.

Here's a little free advice. Always remember that whenever a guy sees a gal, any gal, the very first thought that pops into his head is, "would I fuck her?" (unless you're the OASPDBB, then, it would be strap-on play. But I digest...). My point being, guys are asshole who are always checking out other women. Sex is always at the forefront of our minds. Some guys can remain faithful, you, unfortunately, fell for one who couldn't.

However, you admittedly recognize that your husband suffers from a disease and you choose to bail on him, to take his possessions, as well as hold him up to public ridicule by outing his disease to his employer and coworkers?

Seriously??

That's not a very Christian thing to do. Is it?

What about those sacred marriage vows that you took before God, "... through sickness and through health..", and all that? He's clearly fucking sick...and you choose to bail on him. Tsk. Tsk. Tsk. I suppose that doesn't apply to you because this is "different", right?

Sorry Valerie, you can't pick and choose scriptures that tit your cause and ignore those you break. It doesn't work that way because you come across as being hypocritical.
I thinck you should seek council from Father Wayward. He has led many lost sheep down the path of enlightenment. I personally feel that the Christian thing to do is forgive your husbands errant ways and help him through this sickness. I'm sure he would do it for you. It sounds to me that he's just gotten out of touch with his inner-chi and could use your support. Don't turn your back on him. Not when he most needs your understanding, your love, and just a little compassion. He put up with your hypocritical ass for 21+
Years, the least you could do is at least ACT like you fucking care. Hell, all he did was a little no strings attached straying. Imagine how you'd feel if he brought them home and tried to save them by bringing a little religion into their lost souls... Just wondering...would you try and help these girls find the Lord, or would you look down your nose and pass judgment and say, "to hell with them"?
If your actions are any kind of indicator, I'm betting the latter. Bad Christian. On the bright side, you can ask God for forgiveness and he'll grant it. Too bad you can't find that forgiveness within.

If you are unable to find that inner-peace, they say that a revenge gang-bang, grudge fuck does wonders for the wounds.

May God bless you and yours.

Regards,
SKF

[rubyred]

Originally Posted by Guilty Pleasures

Val,

There is a saying in this hobby, "they stray to stay".. if you don't get that, I guess you never will. He wasn't betraying you, he just wasn't getting the type of intimacy that obviously he felt he had to get elsewhere. He loved you enough to stay with you, I guess if he didn't love you he could have just divorced you. Or better yet, he could have found a civilian woman and had an affair with her, then divorce you for her!

You can spare me the religious rhetoric, quotes and crap. I am an aetheist.

+1

[rubyred]

Originally Posted by thefranchiseus

so the lesson is, delete your computer history

yep..my ex husband learned to do that...hes smart

[Syncial]

Originally Posted by rubyred

yep..my ex husband learned to do that...hes smart

The smart thing to do is any of the following:
1. set up a VM that boots to an image file.
2. run a bootable disc OS.
3. If you can do this, set up a PC at your work, VPN and RDP to the PC and surf from the PC at work.

There are a lot of other ways of getting around...

[Guest021824]

Originally Posted by Syncial

The smart thing to do is any of the following:
1. set up a VM that boots to an image file.
2. run a bootable disc OS.
3. If you can do this, set up a PC at your work, VPN and RDP to the PC and surf from the PC at work.

There are a lot of other ways of getting around...

This is the hobby........You should know hobbyist aren't computer geeks......lol

[Syncial]

Originally Posted by SOULMANIKE

This is the hobby........You should know hobbyist aren't computer geeks......lol

Ya I know, but they should look into it if they don't wanna deal with people snooping around on their computer.

[rubyred]

Originally Posted by Syncial

The smart thing to do is any of the following:
1. set up a VM that boots to an image file.
2. run a bootable disc OS.
3. If you can do this, set up a PC at your work, VPN and RDP to the PC and surf from the PC at work.

There are a lot of other ways of getting around...

yeah if my ex husband wanted to catch me doing anything that could trace to the internet..or from my computer he could...hes like the biggest computer geek i know... which isnt good for me AT ALL....hence..the new phone number and email address.............ugh!! and that wont even START to cover my tracks.....