Thought's on a SD/SB Arrangement??.....

[Kylie Nicole]

Originally Posted by essence

First mistake is to think there is any similarity between sb and provider, and that a girl (or guy) can cross over.

Of course we can cross over. It's silly to pigeon hole every provider.

[essence]

Originally Posted by Kylie Nicole

Of course we can cross over. It's silly to pigeon hole every provider.

Maybe you didn't get as far as my second sentence?

Second mistake is to make categories and try to pigeon hole people..

I was contradicting myself on purpose. I think the true situation is that most cannot cross over, but some can. But if you start with the idea it is hard, it is not a bad starting point. My first special friend I originally met as a provider, and she still had the 'sex for money' thing ten years later.

Same with strippers, not all strippers are strippers for life. But the personality, if that was what led them to stripping, will remain with them for life.

[essence]

KLK was one who would have made a very good sb, or maybe she did.

[FoxyNC]

[WolfWhistle]

Originally Posted by essence

maybe I'm getting old

At least you are honest.

[WolfWhistle]

Originally Posted by FoxyNC

"Set expectations."

I prefer by the hour. Anything else can be had in the real world with regular folk that give no inkling to be part of the adult entertainment business. One has to draw the line and keep it separate between realities. In other words, I am not paying you to eat dinner with me and listen to my corny jokes. Either you like me and get me or you don't.

[essence]

Originally Posted by FoxyNC

Not sure what or whom you are referencing.

I think we have very different ideas on what constitutes a good sd/sb relationship, you seem to favour a clear business arrangement and I don't. That's fine, different folk different strokes. Do what works for you.

Let me be very clear - I am not interested in a sb who depends on me, she needs to be able to pay her own rent and food, at least substantially, but I will help with the extras.

What modern woman wants to sit around all day getting her nail/hair done while her man works 24/7 ? What man would want to support a woman like that? We are in the 21st century, although in some parts of the world they are struggling to get out of the 19th century or earlier.

The fastest I ever ran from a sb was when I gave her rent and she burst into tears of thanks and said she really depended on me. Ran so fast, never looked back. That kind of relationship is a dependent one, not healthy.

[essence]

Originally Posted by WolfWhistle

I prefer by the hour. Anything else can be had in the real world with regular folk that give no inkling to be part of the adult entertainment business. One has to draw the line and keep it separate between realities. In other words, I am not paying you to eat dinner with me and listen to my corny jokes. Either you like me and get me or you don't.

I agree. That's why I don't regard my sb's as sb's, and I don't give them a monthly allowance like a salary (that can go down very quickly, the 'see you twice a week' becomes 'once a month'), they are friends with benefits, I don't pay them for time, I pay them because we like each other and they have some bills they are struggling with.

There are too many boxes to categorise, I'm just giving a different story, each person must judge what works for them. But if you treat a potential sb as a provider, you may not see them for long as they run away. Any hint that you are paying for sex will frighten them. In other words, always be a gentleman. If she asks for the latest iPhone, or some VS lingerie, or help with rent, give it to her. But don't put money in an envelope.

[landon]

This has been my preferred method of operation, very experienced with this. Strippers, women from SD sites. I have wondered what such a thing might be like with a provider from here.

Where the chemistry is a good fit it can be very intense enjoyment. I have seen one as long as a few years - before her marriage, during, and after.

The advantages for me hot girl at decent price whenever I wanted her. The one I saw long time offered all kinda quantity discounts (like session 1 at x and next coupla sessions at y as long as same month). She was always on time and no drama or mystery about what was gonna happen. I liked her modeling for photos and would buy her sexy things to model.....in addition to session contribution. It can be a real turn on for a man knowing he has a qualitySB as the excitement intensifies the more sessions....its sort of like a pilot / navigator relationship in naval avaition. The more missinons they fly together the more synergy for smooth operation of aircraft, targeting, and ordinance detonation.

For the woman it can be intense enjoyment with someone who is mature and treats her like a queen plus she gets shopping money on regular basis. Plus the two develop a very good relationship.

I feel it helps me keep the risks of this reduced with one girl vs multiple partners. She has the steady income flow from a SD.

My contributions in SD are on session basis. As this is NSA I can't make promises on monthly but it all adds up. I consider SB a class of provider like Strippers, and professionals off sites like this one. Sort of like Army, Air Force, and Navy are all military. I have known strippers who had profiles on SD sites and even after marrying continued providing even after they had stopped stripping but probably recruited customers off SD sites. It would be possible for such a woman assuming she kept the husband under control that she could service a couple of men she met off SD sites or simply just one who was a frequent flyer.

My question is this: What if married SB (Provider) gets pg - how would she know who's it really is (even if SD using condoms 100% of time)?

[bojulay]

A lot of those girls that want to be SB's are just kim kardashian wanna be's,
I see a lot of disappointment in their future.

Also when they hit 30 the clock starts ticking down, the high rolling SD's all
want a hot 20 something.

[WolfWhistle]

Originally Posted by essence

they are friends with benefits, I don't pay them for time, I pay them because we like each other and they have some bills they are struggling with.

But if you treat a potential sb as a provider, you may not see them for long as they run away. Any hint that you are paying for sex will frighten them..

Helping friends who you fuck is different than that of a SB "relationship" which is strictly a contract between buyer and seller. There isn't much passion or friendship in that kind of an arrangement. I rather stick with my providers if I needed a cold fish for dinner.

Yeah SBs do get uncomfortable when one of the parties or both begin to think of the "arrangement" as a different version of the hobby. That's why I say SBs are more problematic than helpful to a man who needs a bit more than a hour or two of playtime. I rather be a real friend than play make-believe.

Another thing is that I noticed it's more difficult to find friends with bennies in Houston and in Texas, well the larger cities, because the culture is so geared towards SB relationships or having financial arrangements made. This culture does not sit well with me.

[QueenPinky]

Originally Posted by TheAntichrist666

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[QueenPinky]

i would like to try it but all the neg talk has me kinda rethinking it...

[cr76]

Originally Posted by QueenPinky

i would like to try it but all the neg talk has me kinda rethinking it...

See of you get a pretty frequent regular. Then go from there.

[gtoman]

I think the idea of a SB/SD is stupid without clearly set rules and payment structures. It is still P4P; don't be mistaken. And the OP does not state cost which is like trying to sell something without advertising price. A lot of nope there.