I had this issue When I first began as a provider, a few times because of my race.. Like someone would rather take a 350lb+ provider because she was white.
However, other times it was because my boobs were so big from off I looked like I could be Plus size( until I put on a bikini), Some hobbyist were shocked to learn that a provider is educated. Hell, I' still have guys call and hang up or ask to speak to Governess Ty.. (I sound too white over the Phone) granted these guys don't get to book with me. I'm saying that to say that,
You are allowed to feel the way that you do because we live in a very color blind world at times... And if it isn't your color then it will always be "something" else that you will have to fight against. i.e. losing appointments because the guys calling black or white. Don't think like you sound how your picture looks...
It could be you are tiny, you are a woman, a provider, you had a tattoo, you aren't a smoker.. (believe it or not some guys won't book if you aren't a smoker because they have a woman smoking fetish)
Etc it's and there's going to always be something, It just makes a difference of how you let it affect you.
Find your audience they are out there. (it'a really big board, they just have to find you) I started in Dallas. I'll just say in NYC and Chicago There's 8 times more business than Dallas... sometimes a change in venue helps too.
After a while, I found my nitch and a hoard of hobbyist that loved what I had to offer and wouldn't have it any other way. You can't let things in this hobby bug you too much. After all it just a hobby...
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Originally Posted by GuddKitty2589
I am really sick to my stomach at how much the color of my skin still matters in 2016. growing up as an African American is already challenging but as the fact that I am a sex worker and that makes it even more challenging. I'm tired of hearing the comments :you're my first African-American so I'm nervous: oh I never been with a black girl before :I'm sorry I only do Asian Latino or white(in other words you'll do anyone besides a black girl). the world we still live in still struggles with racism and it is very much alive I see it hear it feel it everyday and I am sick of it! I mean really grow up! nevertheless I would like all African American women who run across this post to voice their opinions in hopes that one day just one day our opinions will matter and we will matter not as a race but as another human being.
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