Sexual Sadism

[Krunkman]

@ knowshisstuff - Are you looking for an escort domme provider, or one who is going to truly dom you without you getting to be sexual with her?

[knowshisstuff]

Originally Posted by Krunkman

@ knowshisstuff - Are you looking for an escort domme provider, or one who is going to truly dom you without you getting to be sexual with her?

@Krunkman - I love it when my Domme goes down on me, but it's not required. I'm wanting to be mindf---ed, feel stretched out, and be sore in places. Once restraints I can't escape from are in place, maybe even a gag to cover up the begging, my heart will pound with fear and adrenaline and well if you're reading this forum, you probably know.

[Mistress Victoria]

Did someone say "sadism?"

@Knowshisstuff I'd invite you to give me a try, but I've got a really twisted mind (especially when it comes to my favorite scenes: sadism and discipline). I mean... really, REALLY twisted. So when you say "no holding back," I really don't hold back until that safety is used. Are you sure you're ready for what you're asking for? LOL

[burkalini]

I have to agree with Elisabeth. I am a very active hobbiest and most of the providers I have been with have responded more with me taking the dominant role. I never abuse this with anything that is against their wishes but some of them do like a strong hand ( among other things)

[gfeamanda]

Aw, no photos or website Mistress Victoria?

Originally Posted by Mistress Victoria

Did someone say "sadism?"

@Knowshisstuff I'd invite you to give me a try, but I've got a really twisted mind (especially when it comes to my favorite scenes: sadism and discipline). I mean... really, REALLY twisted. So when you say "no holding back," I really don't hold back until that safety is used. Are you sure you're ready for what you're asking for? LOL

[gfeamanda]

God, I love that. Most of the hobbyists I've seen in Georgia/Carolinas have a light touch- which I do enjoy, but sometimes I just want my hair pulled and my ass spanked like you mean it. Not a lot turns me on more than that.

I'm trying to ease my way into being more dominant- I do know a number of guys here are actually pretty submissive and I want to tap into that market. So I'd definitely like to switch- I know I've got it in me somewhere, but I just tend towards submission more than being dominant.

And damn, I need to make my way to Texas ASAP. You guys are HOT.

Originally Posted by burkalini

I have to agree with Elisabeth. I am a very active hobbiest and most of the providers I have been with have responded more with me taking the dominant role. I never abuse this with anything that is against their wishes but some of them do like a strong hand ( among other things)

[Krunkman]

Originally Posted by gfeamanda

God, I love that. Most of the hobbyists I've seen in Georgia/Carolinas have a light touch- which I do enjoy, but sometimes I just want my hair pulled and my ass spanked like you mean it. Not a lot turns me on more than that.

I'm trying to ease my way into being more dominant- I do know a number of guys here are actually pretty submissive and I want to tap into that market. So I'd definitely like to switch- I know I've got it in me somewhere, but I just tend towards submission more than being dominant.

And damn, I need to make my way to Texas ASAP. You guys are HOT.

Two switches who are open-minded, fun-loving, and willing to give as much as they can get.... well.... oh the fun they can have!

[Gryphon]

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

This is probably a gross over exaggeration but it's been my experience that the majority of the escorts that I've run into are exceptionally submissive in their true desires with men and sincerely wish to please them.

They wish to be "taken" and turned into a melting puddle of feminine goo. It's heady and it's the natural way of a man and a woman.

I've found that to be true as well, especially for those providers who really enjoy what they do. Which is a good thing for me since after a few "vanilla" sessions and having built up a level of trust I tend to bring up the subject of spankings, ropes, blindfolds, etc. It's been well received every time. I don't get as heavy as some in this thread, and anything smacking of rape is one of my limits as a Dom, but a few welts (that will fade in a few hours) across a shapely bottom trips my trigger in a way few other things will.

[guest070311-3]

Originally Posted by gfeamanda

God, I love that. Most of the hobbyists I've seen in Georgia/Carolinas have a light touch- which I do enjoy, but sometimes I just want my hair pulled and my ass spanked like you mean it. Not a lot turns me on more than that.

I know, how hot is that, right? I would love to pull your hair, spank that ass and make you tell me what a dirty girl you are.

I love subs, and could never be one myself. I've had very limited BDSM experience, and a certain kink loving Mod here can attest to my "Dear in the headlights" look the first time I ever went to a dungeon. But, it is definitely a different world and holds a great deal of interest for me.

And, yes we are hot and kinky here in Big D. Come and visit soon!

[The Big Kahuna]

Originally Posted by knowshisstuff

@Krunkman - I love it when my Domme goes down on me, but it's not required. I'm wanting to be mindf---ed, feel stretched out, and be sore in places. Once restraints I can't escape from are in place, maybe even a gag to cover up the begging, my heart will pound with fear and adrenaline and well if you're reading this forum, you probably know.

I love being restrained with all my private parts exposed...and have my limits pushed, I don't know what my limits are, but when day in and day out you have to make all of the decisions,, it is so nice to escape into the total unknown, not knowing what will happen next, blindfolded restrained and waiting for the next sensation. Wondering what it will be......until finally sweet release, in a manner or form that you are not expecting and do not have a clue when it is cumming or when you are going to get to...Oh my, what is that sound, what is that scent, what is that sensation?

Oh shit, I just got carried away and noticed I bumped up a really old thread...would someone please twist my nipples so I don't do it again...Pavlov was right....

[ElisabethWhispers]

Bumping older threads are cool in the realm. Thought that you knew that! Although I did NOT know that little piece of information that you just shared.

Caused me to grin. And think a little bit.

Elisabeth

P.S. So you have sensitive nipples? Oh my.

[The Big Kahuna]

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Bumping older threads are cool in the realm. Thought that you knew that! Although I did NOT know that little piece of information that you just shared.

Caused me to grin. And think a little bit.

Elisabeth

P.S. So you have sensitive nipples? Oh my.

Sensitive, yes very sensitive.......

[captnzen]

Ahh...intriguing. A faux sexual sadist scenrio is rather hot...at least for me. Play piercing in my scrotum by Mistress Stephanie (once of Dallas..but I've honestly lost track) was intense and sounds slid into the urethra (a session w/Domina Athena and Mistress Montana, both of Dallas) also were mind blowing. Mistress Montana had electrical sounds so she could shock as she probed. All three ladies working within boundaries. I did get thrown around a hotel room in San Antonio by a domme/provider during a convention visit a number of years ago...and that was frightening..because I think I was in the presence of a true sexual sadist and was luck to escape in one piece.

[Guest050715-1]

Originally Posted by Gryphon

I've found that to be true as well, especially for those providers who really enjoy what they do. Which is a good thing for me since after a few "vanilla" sessions and having built up a level of trust I tend to bring up the subject of spankings, ropes, blindfolds, etc. It's been well received every time. I don't get as heavy as some in this thread, and anything smacking of rape is one of my limits as a Dom, but a few welts (that will fade in a few hours) across a shapely bottom trips my trigger in a way few other things will.

See now THAT's what I'm talking about. Cigarette time...............

I’ve known one true sadist. We didn’t click because I’m not a masochist I guess. Actually, he’s known to many of the women in Houston. One lady that is VERY well versed was actually frightened by him.

I am naturally very submissive BCD, but there is a difference between within-the-bell-curve Ds and true sado-masochism. I guess to use Babee’s spectrum, I am a Kiss of Pain gal both giving and receiving. The thing that sets BDSM apart from “normal” – if there is such a thing – sex, is the trust levels and the giving nature of the play. I don’t know that true sadists (At least the one I met didn’t care.) cares what the sub’s needs and desires are. If it’s agreed upon before hand that it is to be extreme play, then fine because it would mean the sub’s needs were being met. Again, in my own experience, that was not the case.

[Iaintliein]

Ahem, a procedural question from the sideline.

In an S/M situation, if, by definition, the M half enjoys the activity, can it truly be S? Is giving pleasure, even through giving pain actually sadistic? It seems to me that true sadism would involve doing unpleasant things to people who find it unpleasant.

Just curious.