To all the married men that hobby

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Valerie.... remember, you are only getting one side of the story there. I'm pretty sure that if you talked to the wife you might view things a little diiferently. If they are willing to lie to their wife, who they love very much, do you think they won't tell you everything?

Willing to lie? Are you kidding me?....Everyone lies at some point, some big, some small, no one is perfect, and EA I have talked to plenty of the wives....trust me. I've also been married, and no, I didn't view things any differently than I do now, and I wasn't even an escort back then. I simply don't feel it necessary for a bloke to come home after an encounter with an escort and divulge all that info to their families. Some things are better left unsaid. If the guy is being discreet, happy at home, and being supportive of his family, then what would be the point in announcing to his wife that he's just seen an escort? All that would do is cause pain to the other party, which most guys don't want to inflict.

Just because you love someone very much, are married to them, whatever...doesn't mean you wake up one day and become perfect. We are all still human, and our basic human nature isn't going to change. Too many people have unrealistic expectations of marriage/monogamy.

Bottom line, if the bloke is being safe and discreet about his extramarital rendezvous, the wife doesn't know about it, and family/home life is good, then I don't see why one would fuck that up by admitting to seeing an escort.

[K2S0]

Valerie drives the point home very well...

Love and Sex are not mutually exclusive... they can compliment each other and can
enhance one another.... but having one doesnt mean you have to have the other...

[Eccie Addict]

I think you missed what I meant. I really wasn't talking about them lying about hobbying. I understand thats we all lie and I'm not saying that the wife doesn't bear any responsiblity because she absolutly does but some of them truly need help to find out why they aren't sexually inteterested. Ofcourse onve a man is getting what he wants then he doesn't worry about helping her find out what the root of the problem is.

Also the only one that can say its ok is the wife just as the only one that can say its not ok to go without sex is the man....

How many men do you think would truly stop seeing escorts if they got sex from their wives?

[deanna_bell69]

if he comes home to u 365 who gives a f*** if he gets some on the side...believe me u will want some too...i mean we are just homo sapien erectus...guys i know ur gonna pick on that and well...put me in a cave w/ a million swinging toys im going to sample

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

How many men do you think would truly stop seeing escorts if they got sex from their wives?

Not all guys do this because they get zero sex at home, there are a percentage that simply enjoy the variety, some that have sex with their wives, but it's not fulfilling to them bc the wife refuses to give oral or do certain things. A lot of guys complain about their wives gaining weight and letting themselves go over the years, which puts them off a bit and in turn causes them to be less attracted to them, and I'm sorry but I don't feel sorry for those women.

I don't think it's so much a matter of the guy not communicating what he wants with his S/O, most of my clients have told me that they have asked their wives to do certain things, loose weight, etc...and their wives just don't give a shit. I think a lot of married women have this ridiculous mentality that, "Oh well, why should I put forth more effort? I've got the ring on my finger, he's not going anywhere".

So when a married bloke has done what he can to try and spice things up with the wife and she is unresponsive, then what is he supposed to do? Wank off in the shower for the next 10,20,30+ years?....No.

[pipefitter73]

Originally Posted by Valerie

I think a lot of married women have this ridiculous mentality that, "Oh well, why should I put forth more effort? I've got the ring on my finger, he's not going anywhere".

Yep, that's the attitude of my wife. That's why I'm on here.

Originally Posted by Valerie

So when a married bloke has done what he can to try and spice things up with the wife and she is unresponsive, then what is he supposed to do? Wank off in the shower for the next 10,20,30+ years?....No.

Valerie's 100% correct. I tried for years to fix things. Now that I can hobby occasionally, I'm happier than ever.... and I don't have to wank off in the shower as much anymore.

[incognito isis]

Originally Posted by LexusLover

T&T, apparently she believes that the "oldest profession" known to MANkind serves guys who cannot find anyone else that will "service" them.....or ...

this is just another "threadAD" to drum up more than one review.

Your wrong. She is quitting the biz and getting married, hence her interest in why men stray

[jpatduf]

[quote=Valerie;1388094]I've not read the whole thread, just the initial post so my apologies if someone's already said this.....

LADIES....THIS HOBBY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE!...Women take it so personal, it's just sex, human nature, we are all programmed to want it. I just recently wrote this on my blog...
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Tell it Sista girl............nailed it on da head.........
Oh by the way....Will you marry me? lol

[dearhunter]

I fuck hooktards because I am a fucktard.......don't marry a fucktard......problem solved.

[Electradawg]

after being married for a Loooong time, You find out Your Wife is Bi-Sexual... which means... you get it twice a year!
Her idea of oral sex is to argue about it!
We were goin' at it and suddenly we both stopped.... I said wassa matter, couldn't You think of anyone else either??

[acp5762]

Originally Posted by Harmony<3

okay so i have been pondering this issue for along time, and me being the constructive writter i am i am finally putting it out there. ive noticed with all the clients that ive seen (whom are married) that they tell me all the time, "oh i love my wife" but yet they choose to hobby. Now im not looking down on it, because if i can help a marriage stay together by the time that i spend with that person then cool. But on the other hand it worries me. how do i know that if i choose to get married one day my husband isnt going to go out and do that same thing. Now personally i think i will not have that issue because im a very open person and if my husband was attracted to another women and he wanted to sleep with her id be like ok lets have a three sum.. i will never fail to keep the relationship interesting to where he would want to stray. but then there are just those guys who want to go out regardless and do it anyway......so yeah thats my concern and any feed back would be great. i know this is a kinda controversial topic but thats what makes eccie fun

Well, I am no longer married after 17 yrs. I never stepped out on my wife. I think these guys are sincere when they tell you they love their wives. There are probably many reasons why married men seek out Escorts. One is they are still in love with their wives but not sexually attracted to them anymore. They don't want to have affairs cause they aren't really in need of any emotional attachment, they just want sex with no strings attached. I think thats the most common reason.

[aznlvr11]

What everyone has said is true for someone. Time takes its toll. Kids, jobs, piss of your wife a few times (not talking about cheating), it adds up, she never forgets even if she forgives. If sex tapers off, she's using it as a weapon, she's getting it somewhere else. deanna bell69 is the only one who mentioned that women are getting "it" somewhere else, too (unless I missed it). Men might as well get what they want if they are not getting it at home.

[LexusLover]

Originally Posted by incognito isis

Your wrong. She is quitting the biz and getting married, hence her interest in why men stray

That's kind of like standing in line to jump out of a perfectly good airplane and asking the person behind you why parachutes sometimes don't open.

Seems like an all-knowing, all-wise 22-year-old shoulda asked that ....

... before saying "yes" .... and asked the person she is going to marry!

I am wrong sometimes, but on this one, I think not.

[Nick11796]

My wife, during her escort days, catered mostly to visiting businessmen. A few wanted to go out to dinner and/or a show because their egos felt good having and, more importantly, being seen with attractive arm candy.

However, the majority of men enjoyed having a lady treat them like they were very important and being committed to satisfying them, including performing the acts that were wanted. Doing this resulted in regulars willing to pay high prices.

With lots of things going on day-to-day at homes wives tend not to treat husbands like that.

[spartacus2010]

If I was married to Harmony, I will quit the hobby too.