Sometimes I can be really stupid

[Jewish Lawyer]

Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

Thanks, pmd. You've come pretty close to providing the perspective I would have liked to, but which would have been discounted because I'm one of the parties involved. (Actually, she didn't know about the mulch. I had noticed she needed some and just decided as long as I was heading over, I'd buy a few bags and do it. Funny thing about that is that I'll bet she hasn't noticed yet. She didn't know that she didn't have a doormat!)

Actually, I expected far more responses ridiculing me for redirecting my specifically designated pussy money. The concerns about privacy caught me by surprise, though. Having read them, I understand how they might arise, although had I thought I outlined the circumstances surrounding this visit well enough to allay them.

The privacy issue and the getting-too-close issue (which I was also unprepared for) both come down to interpersonal dynamics. You get to know someone pretty well over a couple of years, and you get a pretty good sense of the boundaries of the relationship and what you can do and what you can't. My friend-for-an-hour and I talk about whatever it is we have pretty frequently. She knows where I am coming from, and I have every confidence that she would tell me if she thought I was getting too close for her comfort. As for where she's coming from, I'm still paying for my BCD time with her, and that, along with the fact that others are, too, tells me what I need to know. It also is one thing that keep me from getting too close.

And as far as stalking goes, who's stalking whom if SHE invites ME to her real-world social media?

I wouldn't call what you did stalking at this point. I mean, it seems the girl kinda likes to use you, and you don't mind being slightly taken advantage of by her. Just be careful you don't go too far.
At the very least, keep fucking other girls, and let her know about it by reviewing them.

[RideFreeInTexas]

Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

So I sent an email on Tuesday to one of my regulars, asking if I could see her Wednesday or Thursday. She had previously said she would be unavailable on Friday. No response.

Does she host out of her home? She must if you know where she lives. Did she say WHY she would be unavailable? What if she was seeing another client, who upon leaving sees some guy putting out flowers and mulch and a welcome mat? I think your heart was in the right place, but it just sounds really ill-advised to me. I think it would have been better had you made an appointment with her and taken a gift card and flowers IN ADDITION to the donation.

[Bad_Mojo]

Originally Posted by EZ.

I think you have lost your fuc*'n mind.

^^^^^ this should be stickied at the top of every page on this thread.



And just for good measure.....

Originally Posted by EZ.

I think you have lost your fuc*'n mind.

BTW, did I mention:

Originally Posted by EZ.

I think you have lost your fuc*'n mind.

[Kelly Monroe]

That was nice, but it could have creeped her out a bit. It would have to me. But I don't know you alls relationship

[bigredonetx]

You shouldnt have used Round Up!
No Bueno!!

[muffin101]

We all enjoy this hobby in our own way.

Plus all parties directly involved seem to be happy.

When we start to try and analyze motives behind actions, be it actual deeds/things said/posted, things can potentially get ugly quickly.

EDIT:
I for one enjoy posting shit like this..

So I wait for a thread to semi-die down and then I bump it with something wise-sounding, so I can feel good about myself when ppl follow it with posts that go , or +1's

Hey this is an ad site, both the Providers and the Clients have their own versions of threAds.

[Skout]

Originally Posted by muffin101

So I wait for a thread to semi-die down and then I bump it with something wise-sounding, so I can feel good about myself when ppl follow it with posts that go , or +1's

Tittie sprinkles.

[muffin101]

Originally Posted by Skout

Tittie sprinkles.

I think you just jizzed on my post sir!!

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

LOL. Love? Call it a strong friendship that's developed OTC over the last year.

"Stupid" because for all the money I spent on the GC, flowers, welcome mat, RoundUp and mulch, I could have gotten laid. Or at least a BJ.

Doubly stupid because I'm not sure that I regret not having done so.

You invested in your friendship,rather than a short encounter. Never think it's stupid to give of yourself to others. It's admirable.

Don't ever let others tell ya otherwise. It's ok to say out loud, to yourself and others....I am a decent guy. Who cares if they scoff.....they do so, cause this kinda thing makes 'em think about what kinda guy they are, or maybe even wished they were. Stupid does not even begin to fit the description of your kind actions!

Lemme say it first! Dude, you're a really decent guy! Go you!

[Luke Skywalker]

Originally Posted by MaxiMilyen

You invested in your friendship,rather than a short encounter. Never think it's stupid to give of yourself to others. It's admirable.

Don't ever let others tell ya otherwise. It's ok to say out loud, to yourself and others....I am a decent guy. Who cares if they scoff.....they do so, cause this kinda thing makes 'em think about what kinda guy they are, or maybe even wished they were. Stupid does not even begin to fit the description of your kind actions!

Lemme say it first! Dude, you're a really decent guy! Go you!

^^^^^^^^
Best post of the thread!

[threepeckeredbillygoat]

Not me. I'm going with "I think you have lost your fuckin mind" as the best one.

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by threepeckeredbillygoat

Not me. I'm going with "I think you have lost your fuckin mind" as the best one.

Old goat thinking vs the here and now thinking?

Why would you think being a giving person is crazy? I do stuff for folks all the time without monetary expectation or an ulterior motive. I must be a nutty fruitcake? Providers are people too....we like when our friends are considerate just as any other group of folks like that, ya know? And.....It's not like he's plying her with diamonds....lol

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by Luke Skywalker

^^^^^^^^
Best post of the thread!

Thanks hon. Made more sense than anything else I read, but it's kewl others don't think like me, it might get boring around here.

[beachcomber789]

Lance..while what you did was a nice thing....I think you went to far with this gal. There is a client-provider relationship line and you crossed it. You see her for an hour or so how often? While it is nice to get to know the person...you have different lives. If you love her then tell her, if she feels the same then figure what to do next. Or realize you are too involved and find a new favorite. But that is just my opinion.

[Brot]

You seem like a cool dude.

It gives me great pleasure doing things for people I like. Sometimes I have to keep my expectations in check though.