Do providers date privately?

[wildwooly1]

This started out do providers privately date - well yes they do and it all depends on what makes your boat float..every person is different and it goes back to the old saying theres somebody out there for everyone...you just got to find them..
I'm sure there are guys out there that can date a provider and can look at what she does as no big deal and may even enjoy what she does and some of the perks her being a provider brings to the table.
Can you have love with a woman that happens to be a provider?
That's why there are so many different people that say ..what do the 2 of them see in each other...hey if you meet the right person anything is possible.
Don't judge the book by the cover .
There are lot of words being thrown around like whore and provider and prostitute and that's all they can be...don't forget every woman is somebodys daughter, wife, Gf, Friend and yes there are boundries with some women you don't cross.
We are not here to judge someone !! and everybody has an opinion and its crazy to think theres no way a provider can carry on another life ...some people don't like cops,
some people wouldn't date a mortician, and so on and so on..
Just because you wouldn't date a provider doesn't mean theres not someone out there for them...
There are a lot of strange relationships, friendships, and marriages.
Who are we to judge ...look where we are posting this...Lmao

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by wildwooly1

This started out do providers privately date - well yes they do and it all depends on what makes your boat float..every person is different and it goes back to the old saying theres somebody out there for everyone...you just got to find them..
I'm sure there are guys out there that can date a provider and can look at what she does as no big deal and may even enjoy what she does and some of the perks her being a provider brings to the table.
Can you have love with a woman that happens to be a provider?
That's why there are so many different people that say ..what do the 2 of them see in each other...hey if you meet the right person anything is possible.
Don't judge the book by the cover .
There are lot of words being thrown around like whore and provider and prostitute and that's all they can be...don't forget every woman is somebodys daughter, wife, Gf, Friend and yes there are boundries with some women you don't cross.
We are not here to judge someone !! and everybody has an opinion and its crazy to think theres no way a provider can carry on another life ...some people don't like cops,
some people wouldn't date a mortician, and so on and so on..
Just because you wouldn't date a provider doesn't mean theres not someone out there for them...
There are a lot of strange relationships, friendships, and marriages.
Who are we to judge ...look where we are posting this...Lmao

I think I like you wildwooly! Thank you for treating us like real people. :-)

[jbravo_123]

I can understand how most people wouldn't be able to handle being in a relationship with an active provider. However, if you say that because you wouldn't be able to handle her being with other men, yet are cheating (implies doing this without her consent), then there's a double standard being applied.

[Tylus_amore]

So true! Also, noted that not all providers screw around either. it is possible in some lives to have an open relationship with barriers so there's no confusion. It's not 1950 anymore a lot of couples have a different understandings of a realtionship.... Do providers date.... wow..

Originally Posted by samantha thom

Do you think providers are outer space aliens and not real women or something??
Come on…use your common sense. People need companionship in life, we are just normal people who can love and be loved. Some of us have a meaningful normal relationship and yes, we are capable of being loved by a man who loves us for who we are and not just see us as sex object. Such a weird question you ask.
Outside of this hobby, I have a full life with a normal job, education, family, friends….lots of real world friends, hobbies, passions, home, pets,….just like normal people. Hard to believe, eh?

[Gotyour6]

Originally Posted by Buying a *Way to Heaven

Same for all women. Retail is cheaper than wholesale.

You mean bulk is more expensive lol
After a while that ends and here we are...

[gimme_that]

This thread and some of its cold responses is the main reason when I see most providers although they are submissive to my wants and needs I treat them with respect and seek normal relaxing type sessions for a night or two.

Booking overnights most times has opened me up to ladies who can actually be themselves with me. Yes we all have discretion but comfortability you truly can't pay for. I've met some wonderful ladies I wouldn't have issue dating at all. The ones I really was fond of, liked, and enjoyed I saw more than once. I didn't objectify them by what they did or how we met.........and wouldn't.

If you really gonna date a provider.....you confidence and drive has to be at an all time high. No I wouldn't date an active provider.....but a former wouldn't be an issue. They are woman with emotional needs just as anyone else. Shame on you if you feel it's alright to lay with one but not coexist with one in your circle. That makes a guy a poser. One not real enough to deal with a mentally strong female.

She's perfect enough to fuq.......but not good enough to love or like. I just wouldn't have sex with anyone I despise. I'm not a prisoner to my dick or an addicktion to sex. Child please........

[gimme_that]

Originally Posted by samantha thom

Yep, understandable. It is very hard or almost impossible for most men (who are naturally territorial) to tolerate that it is just work.

So to speak on the territorial front. Are you ok with your s.o. seeing other ladies while you provide to clients. many ladies on the reverse of this say hell no. I wonder why is that........

I'm not territorial to no degree......but I wouldn't date anyone who was active in the hobby. Former is different. We all deserve a clean slate when we date.....

[countrycurious]

Originally Posted by gimme_that

This thread and some of its cold responses is the main reason when I see most providers although they are submissive to my wants and needs I treat them with respect and seek normal relaxing type sessions for a night or two.

Booking overnights most times has opened me up to ladies who can actually be themselves with me. Yes we all have discretion but comfortability you truly can't pay for. I've met some wonderful ladies I wouldn't have issue dating at all. The ones I really was fond of, liked, and enjoyed I saw more than once. I didn't objectify them by what they did or how we met.........and wouldn't.

If you really gonna date a provider.....you confidence and drive has to be at an all time high. No I wouldn't date an active provider.....but a former wouldn't be an issue. They are woman with emotional needs just as anyone else. Shame on you if you feel it's alright to lay with one but not coexist with one in your circle. That makes a guy a poser. One not real enough to deal with a mentally strong female.

She's perfect enough to fuq.......but not good enough to love or like. I just wouldn't have sex with anyone I despise. I'm not a prisoner to my dick or an addicktion to sex. Child please........

Well said.

[Guest010619]

There are those whose partners are well aware of the wives activities and are okay with it. I’ve been with several ladies who are married and even had our sessions in the same bed they share at night with the hubby.
But where one couple can make it work, pair that same person with someone else who is not compatible and you’re talking divorce before the ink is dry on the marriage certificate.
It takes years to hone a fine relationship and despite the activities that are going on, there is still trust between them.
Like the saying goes from back in the 70’s.
… and if somehow we find each other… its wonderful.

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by gimme_that

So to speak on the territorial front. Are you ok with your s.o. seeing other ladies while you provide to clients. many ladies on the reverse of this say hell no. I wonder why is that........

I'm not territorial to no degree......but I wouldn't date anyone who was active in the hobby. Former is different. We all deserve a clean slate when we date.....

In my eyes, if he is a provider as well and gets paid for it to pay his bills, then yes, I would be ok with that….it's only fair. If he's seeing other ladies for his own entertainment not because it's a job, I would consider that cheating. Like I said before, I live 2 separate lives. This is secret professional life, and my public dating life is my real world life. I would never cheat on my s.o. in real world life because I fall in love/lust with another man or something like that. But that is MY opinion. If others have different opinion in how they see things, I am ok with people have different opinion. I respect different opinions. What matters to me is…my way of thinking has been working for me. I live a great balanced life. If it works for you, no need to change anything. :-)

[samantha thom]

Actually, the hobby IS providers' private dating life. Publicly out there in the real world, we have different lives….

[Stanfeld]

Call me old fashioned but I would find a way to make more money so she didn't have to do that.

Hold your horses, Midnight Cowboy - I can't believe you just went there.

[Leah Layada]

Do sugar daddies count?

[Boudin3112]

Can you improve your income to match a provider that brings home $400,000 annually. Where are all those jobs? I want one. They bring home that much at least. Do the math, how difficult is it to make at least $1000 a day, not very, just 3 dudes to fuck and busy days can be up to 8 guys in a 24 hour period. If she does overnights that is just added to the number and figure maybe 4 of those a year at $2500 a night after earning her $1000 before the night began. These ladies make very good income and most middle class people would have to work 4 jobs to earn that, just impossible. Then problem of her boredom while you work your 4 jobs, she is used to spending money, so if not earning it she will spend time spending it, get a 5th job. Unless you are wealthy and can afford to pay her $400k annually money wise will never work. Although some prostitutes hate the work so much that she only does enough to get by, once she earns her rent money and money for medications she is done. Those you have a shot at, but look at top reviewed ladies thread and none of those would ever take the crash dive in wealth to be with an average middle class dude.

[Boudin3112]

What if your guy was a provider and provided for gay men. We all know 98% of people that pay for sex are men. So, if your love wanted to earn good money he would have to be with gay men. Then is it still okay that he is a provider, he is not gay himself, just likes making money. I mean it's just a job, right? Or if he did gay porn, that's cool too, right?
What we each do to earn money makes a difference in my opinion I is part of who we are, a trucker that delivers groceries is one thing, a trucker that knowingly transports illegal arms to terrorists is another thing. I hope most ladies would think twice on which trucker she dated.