My Unsolicited Advice for New Providers

[BabyDallass]

Originally Posted by Blond_Lily

Hmmmm......


All I'll say is that if your screening practices can improve, you will meet nicer people and could pick and choose among requests. This way you won't come across the sickos who make you wear granny panties.

Ok, If that wasnt a low blow then I dont know what is......I would NEVER discuss a situation of you and a prevouis client..that is personal between me and him! And for your info ALOT of my clients have told me things you said about me to them and that is NOT professional buisness. Why dont you post a new thread saying how providers should`nt down talk other providers to clients??? And I dont appercaite your comment at all, Your getting a little too personal for my taste and this whole discussion is getting way out of hand! I simply said one small thing about how we need to watch out (just like future clients do) and I get bashed and told that I was talking about men on ECCIE??? Come on yall can do better than that??? Well, Im going back into hideing and peeping from afar like I said before......The drama is not for me and I REFUSE to have people on here that dont even know me (except from a couple small reveiws) and want to act like you know what I was talking about, It gets deeper if you read between the lines.....

[BabyDallass]

Originally Posted by Mr.Chan

From mouths of babes.

Genius***** WOW anything else you all would like to pick apart???

[BabyDallass]

Some of you all need to get a life, I spell one word wrong because I got 2 of the letters mixed up and you all feel the need to make a joke of it. Im really glad you all are showing your true colors....Very bright!

[sadie]

Christmas time is here,
happiness and cheer,
fun for all that children
call their favorite time of year.

Snowflakes in the air,
carols everywhere,
olden times and ancient rhymes
and love and dreams to share.

Sleigh bells in the air;
beauty every where;
yuletide by the fireside
and joyful memories there.

Christmas time is here;
we'll be drawing near;
oh that we could always see
such spirit through the year,
such spirit through the year.

[MrGiz]

How did I know to stay away from this thread?

We have Global Warming , World Hunger , Health Care , Nuclear Annihation , Human Slavery , Taxation W/out Representation , Terrorism , Traffic Light Cameras , Illegal Immigration Floooding , etc.....

We also have providers who don't know squat about providing .... evolution.... gotta luv it!!

Giz
P.S. - I luv all you girls for simply being there !!

[urhuckleberry]

All:

I was very disappointed that this thread skidded off topic.

Originally I closed this thread, but after discussions with OP and others, I am reopening it, because the original topic was thought provoking and pertinent. STAY ON TOPIC.

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[Lily Blair]

Originally Posted by BabyDallas

Ok, If that wasnt a low blow then I dont know what is......I would NEVER discuss a situation of you and a prevouis client..that is personal between me and him!

I'm not sure what you're talking about. I was simply referencing this PUBLIC review of you http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=137066. So it's actually not between you and him.

I'm merely suggesting that if better screening had been done, or if it's done in general, you won't need to deal with degrading requests and reviews. Instead you'll meet much nicer gentlemen who might give you a better opinion of hobbyists, and thus help you to enjoy your job more.

And that doesn't just go for you, it goes for everyone. It's simply a friendly reminder of why you should screen, not something to get that upset over.

We should all be screening better considering how dangerous playing in Arkansas can be. It's frustrating when not everyone will, or when the guys act like it's a nuisance and don't realize that it's practices like screening that actually keep them out if trouble just as much as it does us. But that's a whole other discussion and thread.....
Maybe that can be Lesson #2 in the series

[Guest032112]

Originally Posted by sadie

Christmas time is here,
happiness and cheer,
fun for all that children
call their favorite time of year.

Snowflakes in the air,
carols everywhere,
olden times and ancient rhymes
and love and dreams to share.

Sleigh bells in the air;
beauty every where;
yuletide by the fireside
and joyful memories there.

Christmas time is here;
we'll be drawing near;
oh that we could always see
such spirit through the year,
such spirit through the year.

Originally Posted by Blond_Lily

. . . . .
We should all be screening better considering how dangerous playing in Arkansas can be. It's frustrating when not everyone will, or when the guys act like it's a nuisance and don't realize that it's practices like screening that actually keep them out if trouble just as much as it does us. But that's a whole other discussion and thread.....
Maybe that can be Lesson #2 in the series

Since there seems to be a general misunderstanding of satire and sarcasm, I'll refrain for now . . . at least the next few moments.

I'll second what Lily had to say and add that there is a lot to be learned from some of the more experienced providers and hobbyiest if those that are new will choose to listen and implement.

For the remainder of the holiday season, I'll join with Sadie to go Christmas Caroling. What time is choir practice, Sweetie?

[BabyDallass]

Originally Posted by MrGiz

How did I know to stay away from this thread?

We have Global Warming , World Hunger , Health Care , Nuclear Annihation , Human Slavery , Taxation W/out Representation , Terrorism , Traffic Light Cameras , Illegal Immigration Floooding , etc.....

We also have providers who don't know squat about providing .... evolution.... gotta luv it!!

Giz
P.S. - I luv all you girls for simply being there !!

....smh.....

[ali*cat]

What's smh?

[BabyDallass]

shaking my head....lol....thats all I can do when I read some things on here....hehe

[mssassy]

ok i so cant resist and I have so tried really tried. BabyDallas way to go on speaking your mind .but as much as I hate to admit and trust me I really hate to admit this Lily is right this time. Now on the flip side wait there is no flip side lily is right. This hobby is an ongoing learning /growing process. New and old providers/hobbyist would do good to learn from each other .

But once again I applaud you BabyDallas for standing up for yourself.

and for once I am going to be very good and not say anything smart mouthed...

Everyone Happy Holidays and Play safe

[tuckahoe]

Good advice, Lily. While most may refuse advice, and many even resent it, it is still good that it is given. Maybe just one will accept it. While most in the business think they will get farther ahead by dishonesty and deception, it is refreshing to have several ladies in the LR area who understand how to build repeat clientele.
When do we get the 2nd installment?

[guest071811-3]

I will admit..i didn't read the initial thread..only the last few post on this page.. that being said..

honesty and the hobby do NOT really go hand in hand.. in a world filled with girls using fake names, phones attached to NO one, and every minute spent creating a persona that distances their real world self from their "work" self.. "honesty" isn't just overflowing

ask a provider her real name...HOBBY SUICIDE!!
ask a provider where she lives.. HOBBY SUICIDE!!

ask anything of a provider that would cause her to be HONEST..CAREER suicide

honesty would be that without paying.. most guys wouldn't have a shot at many girls.. the girl won't tell you that.. she has to be dishonest IN ORDER TO GET YOUR MONEY..she will wiggle and giggle and act interested..she will hop into bed with a balding overweight, undersexed 50 something year old man for 200, 300, 400 dollars so that she may pay the bills..she will hop into bed with a married 40 something year old professional whom she is only attracted to for that hour..and every hour and day after that that they can play the game and get you to pay more

the girl won't tell you that you suck in bed..your a lousy fuck.. no no.. she has to be dishonest..she has to

oh wait for it

decieve you!

or is it not being dishonest and deceptive if the guy is expecting to be lied to?

As i said..i didn't read nor do i probably have a good grasp on what this thread is suppose to be about.. but considering some of the above post stating certain things..it leads me to believe we are suppose to believe that BEING HONEST and such is the way to get guys to come back..when in actuality that is the farthest thing from the truth..

the truth is..its a game.. some play the game better than others.. part of the game is making the hobbyiest believe you are NOT playing the game.. its called the illusion..in the end.. its still all a game..

rarely..and i mean very rarely..will any hobbyiest ever really come in contact with a provider not afraid to be herself even at the risk fo losing business..

as far as screening.. ya..blah blah blah.. if a girl don't know by now..she needs to find a different line of work..

we go over this whole thing about once a month.. however..its quite sad that selling PUSSY needs to come with a handbook and monthly lessons

it really ain't that hard..it doesn't take rocket science..and if somehow you manage to fuck it up..then a career change is in order

[MacTheKnife]

Originally Posted by DeAnna Luv

ask a provider her real name...HOBBY SUICIDE!!
ask a provider where she lives.. HOBBY SUICIDE!!

ask anything of a provider that would cause her to be HONEST..CAREER suicide

I disagree.

Sometimes you don't have to ask.

Sometimes she will tell you all these things and more, including social security numbers for both she and her husband.

There will ALWAYS be exceptions.

There was no HOBBY or CAREER SUICIDE.