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Guest011914-1 · 05-13-2011, 09:49 AM

one my my playmates from Albany emailed me about this thread and WOW he and I have enjoy some not so gentle play so hell ya sweetie count me in..Great post Lexxxy

Lexxxy · 05-13-2011, 10:57 AM

OMG Irish Vixen, you are super SEXXXY! I think a wild duo would be beyond hot with you Miss!!!!

SweetElizabeth · 05-13-2011, 11:04 AM

uh huhhhh :-) She is very hot, and very well versed. :--)
I'd play Scrabble with her. Or was that Twister I enjoy???

Gotyour6 · 05-14-2011, 10:52 AM

A girl I date likes it rough. Lite choke or throat hold, ass slapped, riding crop etc.
Major turn on.
She also like the dom role as well and we trade on and off.
I wouldnt ask a provider though unless we seen each other a lot

Chloe · 05-17-2011, 11:20 PM

I love how everyone has embraced this thread with personal desire and boundries!! What a sexxxy post lexxxy!!

I am an in the moment girl. I love to feel the energy and bond of our connection and go from there. It might be gentle and slow, it may be animalistic and instinctual, it may be slow to rough or rough to slow . . .I'm pretty open as long as we communicate physically and verbally well within our encounter

irpatio · 05-18-2011, 10:10 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetElizabeth

My suggestion for anyone interested in BDSM/Fetish/Kink is to do your homework until you are blue in the face, have someone allow you oxygen again, then study some more.....

too bad.. it's a shame you won't open up to new experiences, you could possibly enjoy them. There's a whole world of discovery out there. If you have tried and didn't like, that is fine. If you have tried and didn't like and are telling girls that they won't like, than shame on you!

Lostboy13 · 05-18-2011, 11:07 PM

Ir,

I don't believe that Liz was "telling girls" that they "won't like" only that perhaps rough sex should be gone into with some thought and research. Safety is important for ALL of us!

We've already seen comments from individuals who have experienced negatives as well as others who have experienced enjoyment. Each to their own.

Whether its in your personal or professional experiences if you don't communicate what you want you won't get it! and if a partner or a provider isn't into it you shouldn't force the issue ... that borders on something dangerous!

Quote:

Originally Posted by irpatio

too bad.. it's a shame you won't open up to new experiences, you could possibly enjoy them. There's a whole world of discovery out there. If you have tried and didn't like, that is fine. If you have tried and didn't like and are telling girls that they won't like, than shame on you!

NormalBob · 05-19-2011, 02:55 AM

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Originally Posted by SweetElizabeth

Rough Sex? Show of hands?

Not even on a personal level for me.... Just not my thing.

I'm with you Liz. I've always felt my role was to use my size and strength to protect women. I fully realize that sex play is just that, play and NOT real; but, there's a wall there that I can't get around. It limits my ability to please the women that like that sort of thing but that's something I just accept.

Yes, I like a lot of PSE stuff; but, my inflicting pain beyond a slap on the ass is just not in my boundaries. I had a woman ask me to choke her. I couldn't do it. Scared me off from repeat visits.

Hair "control" v. Hair pulling? Yep. That's the sort of boundary I'm talking about.

Face fucking v. hurting her? Yep. Hard for me to hurt a woman face fucking her unless my belly suffocates her though. LOL.

irpatio · 05-19-2011, 04:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Lostboy13

Ir,

I don't believe that Liz was "telling girls" that they "won't like" only that perhaps rough sex should be gone into with some thought and research. Safety is important for ALL of us!

We've already seen comments from individuals who have experienced negatives as well as others who have experienced enjoyment. Each to their own.

Whether its in your personal or professional experiences if you don't communicate what you want you won't get it! and if a partner or a provider isn't into it you shouldn't force the issue ... that borders on something dangerous!

If that is the case, then I apologize.

DDarkness · 05-19-2011, 05:10 AM

This really seems to be a PERSONAL CHOICE issue! If you want rough sex OUTFUCKINGSTANDING, that is if the provider is willing and you are BOTH communicating your desires and limits clearly .... There are TWO things to consider when sex becomes "rough" (1) it may no longer be consensual sex and (2) it borders on, or is actually assault/assaultive behavior!

And NB thanks I couldn't agree with you more. I know that I am looking for a passionate GFE, a PSE can be nice too, but I need the passion and the idea of hurting someone for pleasure is not in my PERSONAL bag of tricks!

Lexxxy · 05-19-2011, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by DDarkness

This really seems to be a PERSONAL CHOICE issue! If you want rough sex OUTFUCKINGSTANDING, that is if the provider is willing and you are BOTH communicating your desires and limits clearly .... There are TWO things to consider when sex becomes "rough" (1) it may no longer be consensual sex and (2) it borders on, or is actually assault/assaultive behavior!

And NB thanks I couldn't agree with you more. I know that I am looking for a passionate GFE, a PSE can be nice too, but I need the passion and the idea of hurting someone for pleasure is not in my PERSONAL bag of tricks!

Dearest, it doesn't actually hurt and the very very very slight "pain" makes the pleasure that much better. You aren't going to cross a boundary if it is talked out before hand and you establish a safe word. Safe words are used in bondage and in roleplay, for example in a "seduced and taken" roleplay "No, I really shouldn't" and "I don't think we should do this" doesn't mean that at all

it is part of the act and really hot.

DDarkness · 05-19-2011, 01:09 PM

Lexxxy Darling thank you and I really do appreciate your response and I have enjoyed your threads!

Being familiar with the 'scene' I understand and LOVE it when the woman I am with bites or scratches me - it is a REAL turn on!!!!

and darling I think that role playing or specified scenarios can be VERY exciting and I understand the use and need for "safe words" or a 'Safety Word' when playing

My point was and still is that if the partners don't communicate things in advance, or the client/provider doesn't clearly articulate their expectations and willingness, the situation COULD get out of hand. It would be my hope that if there were an established relationship that there wouldn't be any issues. And honestly I really enjoy games and role playing to spice things up and like I said the appropriate amount of pain

can heighten the pleasure

Hmmmm perhaps I should PM you and discuss this some more .... hmmm in private

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Originally Posted by Lexxxy

Dearest, it doesn't actually hurt and the very very very slight "pain" makes the pleasure that much better. You aren't going to cross a boundary if it is talked out before hand and you establish a safe word. Safe words are used in bondage and in roleplay, for example in a "seduced and taken" roleplay "No, I really shouldn't" and "I don't think we should do this" doesn't mean that at all

it is part of the act and really hot.

SweetElizabeth · 05-20-2011, 06:20 AM

irpatio: What I said about studying until you're blue in the face, getting oxygen, then studying more, was actually a slapstick reference to erotic asphyxiation blended with a reminder that fatalaties do occur from such play.

Sorry you didn't understand my humorous statement on a serious topic.

As far as new experiences are concerned, I get plenty, thank you for the
encouragement. ;-)

As a matter of fact, I have tried bdsm/kink/fetish.

For me, light bdsm on a playmate is fine. Never on me. I don't accept pain. [Thank you, again, Paradise for joining me on duo flogging sessions and Jacqueline for allowing me to partake in a full bdsm session!!]

Rough sex to me is not bdsm, fetish or kink. Bdsm/fetish/kink are good with the right person and theme. Rough Sex? "Not even on a personal level for me -no way! "I like it soft."

I would not tell a woman she wouldn't like something. I am very much a "do your thing - I'll do mine" type of gal.

To reiterate, I strongly suggest people interested in trying these types of things, particularly bdsm, to do their homework. People can easily be hurt or accidentally killed.

NB: Great input! ;-) ;-)
LostB: TY for the input
DD: Wonderful insight on the legalities... ;-) (I knew you were smart!!)

ogloc · 05-23-2011, 03:47 AM

My ex-girlfriend liked rough sex, so that was good. Personally I do like it (love it) in the moment. But I would never initiate it or even ask a provider to be honest, the last thing I would want is for her to feel uncomfortable.

On that note, nice to know where you stand.

Lexxxy · 06-27-2011, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by ogloc

My ex-girlfriend liked rough sex, so that was good. Personally I do like it (love it) in the moment. But I would never initiate it or even ask a provider to be honest, the last thing I would want is for her to feel uncomfortable.

On that note, nice to know where you stand.

Nice to know where you stand as well