Let me open with the way you respond embedded in my quote makes it more difficult to respond on a technical level. because the quote button will only quote what you say after my close quote tag. So I apologize for the delay as I make my response readable.
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Originally Posted by Whispers
hmmmm..... All questions evolve from someplace right? But to start a thread and directly question why a specific provider might have a hundred plus reviews and always present as "desperate" would be a little too much...... I do know that ANYTHING I post gets read with a certain person in mind and her minions tend to throw her in the negative light... so I do not have to.....
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These are queries and comments from me, no one else and I assure you I am nobody minion. so we can now drop the pretense. You didn't list a specific woman, and am not responding as if you are.
I will comment that;
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Originally Posted by Whispers
But to start a thread and directly question why a specific provider might have a hundred plus reviews and always present as "desperate" would be a little too much...
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Too close to infracting rule #1 - Avoid cases of unprovoked rudeness to others.
or rule #3 - Disrespect to others, IN GENERAL, will be considered an item of low tolerance
or rule #4 - Blatant insults or hostility toward another member
You have to ride the razors edge so that inferences are easily made and still claim a lack of specifics. Well done if I were in a position to do so I would give you a gaming the system badge!
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Originally Posted by Whispers
If people learned to address the material and not the person... to set aside emotions there is a lot of discussion in a topic like this....
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I feel I am doing just that. I look forward to continuing an enlightening discussion.
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Originally Posted by Whispers
I just closed out a chat window after a conversation with a young lady where this topic came up an "how many is too many" was discussed.....
IMO a girl with 100+ reviews has established herself as a product with a reputation and anyone looking for an hour of services she is known to provide knows exactly what he can have....
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So in a system where a woman can at best suggest, but not control a review count, you select 100 as the break point where she is a know quantity. Personally I think that can be established in far fewer reviews, so by default I'll agree 100 reviews should set the expectation. However that doesn't address ad count / ad frequency which is the point you started this thread with.
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Originally Posted by Whispers
From talking to others it seems to support the opinion that these attract more of the crazies and abusive ones as a result of having "dehumanized" oneself
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Please elaborate I do not understand. Are you saying the higher the review count the more dehumanized a woman becomes? Does that not go against the very reason for a review site?
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Originally Posted by Whispers
Yes. I believe it is in everyone's best interests to pause and consider where the money is being spent..... There are no shortages of women that NEED to earn.... Why not be supportive of the single mom or girl in college vs the addict feeding a habit?
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Fair enough, and if someone including myself seeks advice from you on a specific woman privately; I would take your thoughts on where the money is being spent into consideration. However, do you feel it is appropriately to proactively and without the ability to prove anything due to site rules, to speculate in general (this thread is speaking of women in general and not any one specially remember) that addiction feeding is happening based solely on the number of ads posted (and/or review count) ?
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This is not about ANY women in ANY jobs... we are talking about hookers, prostitutes, whores and their interactions with Johns.....
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But hookers and Johns are people first. I hold there is nothing that sets this job apart from any other that would change the base human need for social interactions
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Originally Posted by Whispers
Look at some of the drones some of the ladies have as supporters and read what they say and look at what they know and it becomes pretty apparent that some of these guys are in daily contact with the women they have to pay to get laid by....
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Sir, by your own admission on this site here you are someone that you are in contact with women you have to pay to get laid. We are all in the same boat as far as that is concerned. However, I hold that the input and replies of Johns are outside the control of the women, and has little bearing on the question of how being a successful hooker preempts a desire to be socially active.
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There are 1000s of hookers everyday running ads and being successful and never interacting on ECCIE with anyone.... The handful of those that do tend to bring drama along and the needy guys that cling to them perpetuate it.
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I would venture to guess that most of those 1000's of hookers find a social outlet elsewhere, that doesn't make the social aspects of this site less valid.
I'll admit that there are a few women here that are more prone to drama than others. I'll also point out at the time of this writing 12 of the 20 threads on the first page of San Antonio Co-ed are started by the same person; who oddly isn't a hooker but I would say the threads fall into the dramatic category.
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Originally Posted by Whispers
I am not looking for the answer. I usually already KNOW the answer..... I want others to stop and think about it and open their eyes and see for themselves.
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So in a thread about all hooker that run too many ads and / or have too many reviews you know what is wrong with all of them? Is it the same answer or to you have a running tally sheet?
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Yes. I do. I write most threads and first responses to the topics I start before I post them.... I think through how others will respond and script my responses ahead of time...
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That doesn't speak to premeditated motive or anything? But you assert earlier
Sometimes a question just pops in my head that I want to ask..... Sure... It occurs while I think about something more specific....But in many cases it is just a question..... I hope you can see how this can be confusing for someone trying to follow along.
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STOP!
Take a moment to think about what you know.
"This is a lady that sees dozens of guys every month.... hundreds over the course of a year and makes a hell of a lot more money than I do. Yet she always seems desperate. She is always advertising and running threADs looking for more.... What is driving that need? What else do I know about her? Is she the subject of other controversies or issues? Is there a Pimp taking her money? Is there some addiction (could be shopping, shoes, something else?) fueling her burning through case faster than I make it? Do I really want to spend money and time with this person?"
But that would not fit.
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Wait? now I am really confused is this thread about a specific woman? Or are you saying that all women that post "too many adds and/or have too many reviews are suspect. The wording
This is a lady is what has me confused.
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Where have I suggested in any of these threads how any woman should run their business? much less how EVERY one should?
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First, I am limiting any discussion on this topic to this thread alone, I will not and would request that neither you pull quotes from elsewhere in hopes that a warp of context can be used to polish a point.
In your opening post you state:
Then we have ladies that are turning HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS or tricks..... advertising constantly.... constantly looking for new ways to garner interest.....
What's wrong with her?
You are implying that she isn't running her business correctly because there is something wrong with her. if a woman kept her ad count and/or review total below your threshold whatever issues she has would be masked by the fact she is running her business acceptably by your standards.
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I am and have been a member of these communities for a lot of years and I feel a responsibility to point out things that I believe people should think about...
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You are well within the guidelines of the site to do so. As I feel my queries and comments are as well. You have been more less granted free reign on this forum, and that is none of my concern, but in this thread something that I feel your assertions and assumptions are at best not well defined and at worst simply wrong. I will engage in a dialogue so that maybe we can come to an agreeable resolution, or if nothing else admit that we are at a stand off and that we can't agree that there isn't a direct link to ad count, review count, addiction, social interaction, and the perception of drama.