Providing is a lonely Job

[Prolongus]

From all the unwanted texts, phone calls and drive-bys some of these Providers get from guys who want a "relationship"...they are far from lonely.

Quite the opposite.

[planojim]

I have to disagree with you Pro! It's one thing for a man to 'want' a relationship with a provider but the fact is (from the way I see it) that it takes a unique man to TRULY accept that his girlfriend has sex with strange men on a consistent basis. He has to accept her variable work schedule. If he wants a relationship with her he must be willing to introduce her to his relatives and friends and be prepared for her to be recognized as a provider by the same. He needs to accept her for being her...and EVERYTHING she does.
I think that these ladies give up much more than their bodies to do their job. They sacrifice a piece of themselves that we never know about...and some men don't even care to discover.
It's one thing for a man to SAY he want's to be a provider's significant other. He's got to be able to 'walk the walk' not just 'talk the talk'. I'd be willing to be a majority of men who 'say' that they want a relationship with a provider couldn't do it!

Originally Posted by Prolongus

From all the unwanted texts, phone calls and drive-bys some of these Providers get from guys who want a "relationship"...they are far from lonely.

Quite the opposite.

[threepeckeredbillygoat]

I really don't understand why anybody would assume that just because a lady is a provider that it means she is lonely. It sounds kind of silly to me. And saying that it makes you want to take them out to dinner after a session to combat their loneliness comes off to me more like I want some of their time without paying them for it.

I will bet a dollar to a doughnut that most of the dudes in this place are 10 times more lonely than most of the chicks will ever be. After all, they have vaginas. And that alone will get a gal more friends than she could shake a dick if it was a problem.

[planojim]

Let me get this straight 3pecker? You're saying that the mere presence of a vagina excludes a woman from being lonely?? (Guessing that you think the same goes for all women not just providers?) It my interpretation is correct then let me be the first one to tell you that I think that opinion SUCKS!

Originally Posted by threepeckeredbillygoat

I really don't understand why anybody would assume that just because a lady is a provider that it means she is lonely. It sounds kind of silly to me. And saying that it makes you want to take them out to dinner after a session to combat their loneliness comes off to me more like I want some of their time without paying them for it.

I will bet a dollar to a doughnut that most of the dudes in this place are 10 times more lonely than most of the chicks will ever be. After all, they have vaginas. And that alone will get a gal more friends than she could shake a dick if it was a problem.

[threepeckeredbillygoat]

Originally Posted by planojim

Let me get this straight 3pecker? You're saying that the mere presence of a vagina excludes a woman from being lonely??

Not at all. But the mere presence of a vagina makes it easier to make friends.

If you dont believe me, than you go stand on one corner and hang your penis out. Have a lady go on another corner and hike her skirt up and have her goods hanging out. Yall meet back up in an hour and compare how many phone numbers she has gotten from people wanting to hang out with her versus how many you got.

Wanna make a wager on who gets more action?

[planojim]

Explanation accepted 3pecker.
I have to admit that your explanation was quite interesting. To confirm you mean that when you say 'getting action' means sexual offers or relationship offers? There's a difference between just wanting the sexual benefits a woman has to offer and being willing to sign on for the 'full emotional package' that a woman has to offer.

Originally Posted by threepeckeredbillygoat

Not at all. But the mere presence of a vagina makes it easier to make friends.

If you dont believe me, than you go stand on one corner and hang your penis out. Have a lady go on another corner and hike her skirt up and have her goods hanging out. Yall meet back up in an hour and compare how many phone numbers she has gotten from people wanting to hang out with her versus how many you got.

Wanna make a wager on who gets more action?

[str8.2.bbbj]

Originally Posted by threepeckeredbillygoat

Not at all. But the mere presence of a vagina makes it easier to make friends.

If you dont believe me, than you go stand on one corner and hang your penis out. Have a lady go on another corner and hike her skirt up and have her goods hanging out. Yall meet back up in an hour and compare how many phone numbers she has gotten from people wanting to hang out with her versus how many you got.

Wanna make a wager on who gets more action?

Haaaaaaaaaaaaa...TPBG is my "Brotha from another Mother"!!!

Look, I just don't see why being a provider would make someone "lonely". I mean we all have things that we choose not to share with other people because they won't get it for whatever reason. Whether that's business, spirituality, the hobby, marriage, whatever.

For as connected as we all are, there's a place within each of us where we hide the truth of how we feel about certain things. That's not good or bad. It just is. I don't think the ladies are any more "lonely" than anyone else who owns their own business.

I'm a nut exporter. And while it may seem like nothing to sell nuts overseas, I can't talk to everyone about what goes on in my business, because they wouldn't get it. Exporting nuts is not the same as escorting because of social stigma and legality, but it is the same in that every business owner has a vision for what they want that people who punch a clock don't get.

I don't know that that makes one lonely. I think that it is the moderation of conversation based on perception.

[threepeckeredbillygoat]

Yes I am talking about it being easier to make dating, boyfriend/girlfriend type relationships. Not the lifelong heart felt I would do anything for you best friend. I would say men and women are more on an even playing field there.

But even if that was missing in a providers life, hanging out and spending time with her is no replacement for that. We wouldn't be able to fill that void. Or I should say we shouldn't try to fill that void. Those two worlds shouldn't mix.

[threepeckeredbillygoat]

Originally Posted by str8.2.bbbj

Haaaaaaaaaaaaa...TPBG is my "Brotha from another Mother"!!!

Oh yea *gives high five* lol

[str8.2.bbbj]

Originally Posted by threepeckeredbillygoat

Oh yea *gives high five* lol

Haahahhaaaaaaa..."Top Gun" style!

[Prolongus]

Originally Posted by planojim

I have to disagree with you Pro! It's one thing for a man to 'want' a relationship with a provider but the fact is (from the way I see it) that it takes a unique man to TRULY accept that his girlfriend has sex with strange men on a consistent basis. He has to accept her variable work schedule. If he wants a relationship with her he must be willing to introduce her to his relatives and friends and be prepared for her to be recognized as a provider by the same. He needs to accept her for being her...and EVERYTHING she does.
I think that these ladies give up much more than their bodies to do their job. They sacrifice a piece of themselves that we never know about...and some men don't even care to discover.
It's one thing for a man to SAY he want's to be a provider's significant other. He's got to be able to 'walk the walk' not just 'talk the talk'. I'd be willing to be a majority of men who 'say' that they want a relationship with a provider couldn't do it!

Let me clarify: My "Quite the opposite" statement was referring to the lonely guys. They are the ones bugging the shit out of the ladies; the ones that constantly call, text, email, etc. even when told to stop. But...I'm sure loneliness is everywhere.

It's funny how guys will assume they know the stereotype of a Provider here and accept a statement or thread by us guys applies to all of them. Nope.

[planojim]

Clarification accepted and understood Pro!
PJ

Originally Posted by Prolongus

Let me clarify: My "Quite the opposite" statement was referring to the lonely guys. They are the ones bugging the shit out of the ladies; the ones that constantly call, text, email, etc. even when told to stop. But...I'm sure loneliness is everywhere.

It's funny how guys will assume they know the stereotype of a Provider here and accept a statement or thread by us guys applies to all of them. Nope.

[CivilBarrister]

Originally Posted by samantha thom

On a lighter note, maybe working graveyard shift in a mortuary is the loneliest job. LOLOLOL!!!

And one of the jobs where your clients don't argue with you....very often/

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by CivilBarrister

And one of the jobs where your clients don't argue with you....very often/

Unless zombies are real….

[Dharma]

Originally Posted by str8.2.bbbj

Look, I just don't see why being a provider would make someone "lonely". I mean we all have things that we choose not to share with other people because they won't get it for whatever reason. Whether that's business, spirituality, the hobby, marriage, whatever.

For as connected as we all are, there's a place within each of us where we hide the truth of how we feel about certain things. That's not good or bad. It just is. I don't think the ladies are any more "lonely" than anyone else who owns their own business.

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It's different because what any person does for a living is a big part of their lives. It's not like hiding, "I hate that lamp aunt Martha gave me". It's at least half of our waking hours and it affects our lives past the current appointment.

I can see how this profession can make a person lonely. We connect with our clients but it's not usually on that visceral, intimate level. Relationships In-About-An-Hour doesn't really foster that deeper connection.

I don't feel lonely. But I have a pretty active life. My two cents.