What does the Girlfriend Experience mean to you?

[vegasbaby7]

Don't understand why you're so bitter Sandy. It's not like you were forced into anything. You made your own choices & sounds like you're blaming all men for the choices YOU made.

[tuckahoe]

I can understand that most people expect something when they help someone else, whether in hobby or 'real' life. But there are a few who actually care about others. I have been thankful for some who have helped me, and I have done small jobs for others just to help them, knowing I would never see them again, or receive any monetary compensation. It does make you feel good inside.

I used to meet working girls in truckstop parking lots. I passed on a lot of them, but found some real gems. In Jesup, MD, I talked to a scantily clad real good looking girl, but she was very demanding and rude, so I sent her on her way. Another lady came along dressed in jeans & a blouse and looked like she might have a better disposition. We agreed on regular, and she tried to pull her blouse down down around her midsection which she thought was too big. She had 10 children I believe and had put on a little weight around her midsection, but not really all that much. I insisted she take her blouse completely off; she resisted, but gave in and I praised her beauty. We made love in a sitting position with her on top facing me. She held me close and we enjoyed a very wonderful time together, even without kissing. I felt her relax and really get into the feeling.
After I had cum, I thanked her from my heart for making me feel so good. She looked me right in the eyes and said I didn't owe her thanks, but she thanked me for making her feel good about herself, and for treating her tenderly and respectfully. I helped her to feel like a human, and it was not the way she was used to being treated. She thanked me over and over again, and I could tell she was not just talking. I never got to see her again. I don't even remember the name she used. But I still remember her well, even though it has been many years. I never expected a relationship with her, but I still care about her, and wonder how she is doing.

[Grace Preston]

That's what I'm trying to say-- Tucka--- there are many people in this world who are genuine and kind people. Yeah-- the very nature of this can skew things a bit, that much is certain-- but that doesn't mean that we can't make a very real human connection, even if its only temporary.


For some, that's the only connections they get. I will never forget one client I had:


He was a man in his early 80's. Had lost his wife a couple years prior. He brought a CD with music on it-- various songs that had significance. He wanted to relive his "courting" of his late wife... It was a very lovely session overall.


About 2 weeks later, I got an email from his son-- who thanked me. His father went into a memory care facility 2 days after I saw him as he was in the early stages of Alzheimers. His father wanted that one last "human connection" moment. I still tear up thinking about it.

[tuckahoe]

Grace, you are one of the few who really understand!

I had dated a young lady in OKC. I didn't get back for a long time. When I did, I didn't see the girl I was looking for. I asked another girl about her; the girl was surprised I didn't know, for it had been all over the TV, but I had not seen it. The beautiful young lady was tortured, murdered, and thrown off a bridge. Both a man and a woman were arrested for it. I am not ashamed to say I broke down and cried for her. The girl who told me asked if I wanted to find some comfort with her, or if I wanted to be alone. I chose to be alone and she understood and thanked me for caring. Some tears flow just writing this.

Another lady in TN hung around for a little while after we dated and talked. The conversation turned to food, and she told me how she fixed some things for her family. I wrote notes and still use her recipes to this day.

[tuckahoe]

A seductive stripper dance followed by a lap dance can go a long way toward creating a comfortable environment for GFE.
Being seduced makes me feel like I am desired, and helps to remove inhibitions. Lap dances are an oft overlooked way of creating a sensual mood and building up arousal for both partners.
Pretend you are in a strip club and not allowed to touch, and let the lady rub all over you. Don't touch her with your hands for as long as you can stand not to, and then pretend you have gone home with your favorite stripper.
Fantasies create feelings!

[Selena25]

I somewhat agree with Sandy, I am a GFE provider I love what I do! I have developed friendships through the business, but I have to agree with Sandy once you are no longer convenient for them or there needs you are forgotten. I developed close friendships with some of my clients and two in particular one which was so close we were inseparable, told me when he passed I wouldn’t worry about a thing. He passed and was left dry, that didn’t hurt me more than his passing though! The other thought we where close even though we had boundaries he new my children that’s how close we where. I considered him a close friend, and one day he just disappeared no call, no reason, nothing! I have learned to keep reality in check from that point on.

[JET$ON]

Originally Posted by Selena25

I somewhat agree with Sandy, I am a GFE provider I love what I do! I have developed friendships through the business, but I have to agree with Sandy once you are no longer convenient for them or there needs you are forgotten. I developed close friendships with some of my clients and two in particular one which was so close we were inseparable, told me when he passed I wouldn’t worry about a thing. He passed and was left dry, that didn’t hurt me more than his passing though! The other thought we where close even though we had boundaries he new my children that’s how close we where. I considered him a close friend, and one day he just disappeared no call, no reason, nothing! I have learned to keep reality in check from that point on.

Selena, I agree both Providers and Clients need to keep reality in check and be very cautious but don't give up on close friendships made through the Hobby. You might miss out on a long term or even lifelong loyal close friend.

[Sandy]

Are we as GFE escorts ladies getting it mixed up?

I always thought a GFE was one to (act) and kiss like a girlfriend for the time they pay you for.

But are we giving our (Friends) the cheapest way to have a sugar baby?

A sugar baby get a higher salary for in return,
They get to get to know you closer and for X amount of times in the bedroom and for him to take her out and to have phone time with her.

An escort get's paid by the hour no matter how they spend their time.
And when that time is over then no more contact until they book again.

Let me know if I am wrong?

[Grace Preston]

Most sugar babies make less than escorts... just sayin. Very few of them play at the thousands in monthly allowance level.



GFE is whatever you want it to be. I prefer the friendships I've built over the years-- that doesn't work for everyone-- some get things twisted and get too emotionally invested, others just don't want to deal with any kind of contact outside of BCD-- and that is fine and shouldn't be construed as an issue.


The question was-- What is GFE to you. I answered. Your answer is different than mine. Not a big deal.

[SlowHand50]

I think it's likely that no two people, on either the provider or client side of the issue, are likely to have the same view on the concept of GFE. I think it's somewhat an elusive quality -- you know it when you experience it but personally I'm not great at articulating what all it includes. It's probably best just to share some time with someone with the understanding that's all you're doing, and if there's that certain thing that clicks, that chemistry thing, all the better. But in the end remember that it's a business proposition and would not be happening without the exchange of legal tender for all that good tenderness, and we'll all be fine.

[aloysius.x]

Originally Posted by Grace Preston

Most sugar babies make less than escorts... just sayin. Very few of them play at the thousands in monthly allowance level.



GFE is whatever you want it to be. I prefer the friendships I've built over the years-- that doesn't work for everyone-- some get things twisted and get too emotionally invested, others just don't want to deal with any kind of contact outside of BCD-- and that is fine and shouldn't be construed as an issue.


The question was-- What is GFE to you. I answered. Your answer is different than mine. Not a big deal.

I can agree with this statement. There is no definitive definition as to what GFE is. It's going to vary from provider to provider and client to client.

Now, would I pay someone to do my laundry (according to my definition of a girlfriend experience) 2/3/4+ hundred to do my laundry? Hell no, a dry cleaner will do that for a fraction of that.

Would I like for someone who says they're GFE to carry a conversation about topic/current events? Yeah, that'd be cool. But then again I won't know their interpretation of GFE until she met and may not meet/match my expectations.

That said, do I look for GFE, no, but if they advertise that, it does have added weight on my decisions just to see what they mean by it.

I just don't count on GFE even if it's advertised. Expectations are super low because of ones interpretations and definitions.

[Sandy]

Yes, Some sugar babies have more that one sugar daddy.
But the sugar daddy does pay more for extra perks.

My sugar daddy, gave me $3,000 a month for a year,
He would come over once a week and took me to nice lunches and dinners and other outings.
He was able to call me to chat and for me to send sexy pictures from time to time.
and I was able to see more clients on the side too.

So I don't know if escorts make more than sugar babies or not.
I guess it depends on the price she puts on her time., and what her time is worth to her.

And how can you not get emotionally invested in friends?

[eccieuser13]

I know one thing we can all agree on, we need more GFE in our lives!

...And as the gentleman said, BFE (Boyfriend Experience)

Gentlemen always finish first, in my book. I love sweetness and manners!

[vegasbaby7]

Originally Posted by eccieuser13

I know one thing we can all agree on, we need more GFE in our lives!

...And as the gentleman said, BFE (Boyfriend Experience)

Gentlemen always finish first, in my book. I love sweetness and manners!

Blushing...
Taking a lady to Vegas for 5 days in 2 weeks (our 2nd trip there). Treat every lady like my girlfriend whether it's a hobby or real life date.
Wouldn't want it any other way.

[Deese]

Originally Posted by eccieuser13

I know one thing we can all agree on, we need more GFE in our lives!

...And as the gentleman said, BFE (Boyfriend Experience)

Gentlemen always finish first, in my book. I love sweetness and manners!

I always wanted the lady to finish first... Ladies first