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Originally Posted by BBWDeAnna
Quite simply this reference issue has been building for some time and i have mentioned issues with it before
On the surface (none that have posted in this post prior to my post are guilty..) but others on this board will claim all day in public viewing areas that they are reference friendly..but many of us know the truth. They say these things in public areas so hobbyist will continue spending money with them not realizing the long term ramifications...once again no names mentioned so far are guilty and have always been helpful to my knowledge bit there is 1 or 2 well knowns that are known for blocking
As far as "board presence" being a way to screen..longevity..tenure..rev iews mean nothing anymore. Many guys are qriting bs reviews as lapdogs. Others embellish to help the providers. In the past board presence ment something but no so much anymore
Few yrs back a pretty active hobbyist had flipped and no one knew. And bust occurred as a result of the compromised account. Whether working together or unknowingly..references were provided by providers that had seen this standup guy. 2 of those providers are still amongst us and trouble seems to follow them(no i wont name them..figure it out)
References work great in big markets and even here with girls who arent jealous or have an agenda to stay relevant..NWA for most is a no fly zone for traveling ladies if they solely rely on refernces..for good reason..nothing good will come out of making it known your seeing hobbyist in NWA unless you operate with alternstive screening not relying on troublesome providers
I suggest anyone that knows of ladies asking for money for references put it on blast so guys know who to avoid. You should NOT be forced to spend more money ovee what u did to see provider #1..especially if u was a good hobbyist to them
Screening is a slippery slope. Some of you make the mistake of handing deadly info to women who dont have your best interest at heart. Remember guys..single or not you have wayyyy more to lose..guard your info and start refusing to give anything that could identify you as anyone other than john fucking doe...thats when provier references will carry weight again. But providers asking for names and employment etc etc is merely setting u up to be manipulated later
We all know who has those requirements despite claims
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I have to disagree on this one, although my circumstance is probably different than 90% of the providers on here, for the simple fact that I work out of my home and not a public venue. I take my safety very serious and I AM going to know who I am seeing period! I don't care how many reviews or other providers you have seen. Not knowing other providers screening techniques, I just can't feel comfortable and safe using that to ensure my safety. There is NO personal or private information anymore! If you have a phone in your name, lived anywhere, ever had an email, or have relatives...your personal information is out there so trying to keep it away from providers for whatever reason is really futile. I feel like the session should be very relaxed and BOTH parties should feel comfortable and I just cant be that seeing "Jo Blow". If a provider has been around ANY length of time and has reviews, you should feel confident enough to know she is not giving out any of your information (which is all public anyway) or it will be all over these boards in a heart beat and she will be out of work! God forbid if anything bad did happen in a session at least I will know who and where to go. If I don't have a real name or any info on them and none of the providers that have seen them in the past do, then how in the hell am I gonna tell anyone what happened?? And that kinda levels up the playing field a little more. You CAN NOT be too careful these days!
I do give out references with no problem but I am going to research and make SURE that I have seen them before giving a reference. Please be safe and have a wonderful day!
