And onehit, not to pick on you...but you totally just posted an example of how some hobbyists and providers alike are quick to jump on the band wagon before really evaluating the situation for what it truely is. i.e. the Hobbyist, who is quick to "mark off" a provider from "his list" based on a false or semi-fabricated review that was posted out of spiteful intent for whatever f**ked up reason or on the flip side, (I see this all the time, but until now, I kept my mouth shut because I'm busy enough, I pick and choose my battles these days, so this one I'm choosing to engage) I can't stand these rat packin providers who choose a phrase from another provider's (usually younger or newer) post that is totally irrelevant and completely off topic.
Or, maybe the culprit decides to bring up an off the subject topic altogether, such as, undermining her intelligence by viciously attacking her spelling mistakes or that her grammar is defective.
It is obvious to me these providers believe they are in direct competition with these ladies, and feeling threatened, lash out with bullying tactics when they recognize a weakness and a potential advantage. Cliques then respond. As a result, you have a 25 page narrative of negativity that spiraled completely off topic. Kick a fellow provider while she's already down, very negative. To me, it screams jealousy, envy, low self-esteem, and at times -verbal cruelty.
Since I see it for what it really is, if I were a hobbyist....I would mark these ladies off my list and go make some positive playtime with the one under scrutiny, lol. But that's just lil 'ole obnoxious, but positive me.
Onehit, I know you were just tryin to communicate the point steveanderson's trying to make. I saw an opportunity to illustrate mine by highlight some of the negativity I've witnessed. I know you didn't mean any harm.
I'd like to conclude on a positive note by offering a few solutions to the problem of board related negativity. We all can learn from steveanderson's post in reference to me:
Please be careful what you post, especially if what your posting is negative about provider or hobbyist. I find the accusation that I called myself a whore, especially when I didn't, to be negative and irritating.
1. Check your motives: Make sure what you are posting doesn't have malicious intent or underlying motives.
2. Check your info. Please don't post false info or reply to a post that you didn't thoroughly do diligence on. Often in these situations, the original content failed to validate what the poster communicated in the first place (see example Tabitha Bleu above) and often tends to be factitious all together.
3. When in doubt, say nothing. Negativity can quickly be weeded out if we had more validators, researchers, or if you are lazy like me, observers. The truth usually becomes apparent eventually. It's just easier to tell when there is less bandwagon activity.
Together, we can quickly stop the ugly spread of the negativity virus!
LOL
But no, seriously...this crap takes away from the beauty that is ---- The Hobby.
I'm going to close with a popular yet profound Hippy Anti-War cliche:
Make love not war.
