Mean-spirited, hate-filled hobbyists bash women for what reason?

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

Case in point!

How far is too far? When is a comment not just a horrible joke but rhetoric that is making light of physical and sexual violence which I (mistakenly) thought wasn't tolerated here on ECCIE.

If the local moderator has a very low bar for interpreting the rules, is it a matter of going to the administrators?

Or is this example just not in violation of any of the guidelines? It seems if a provider posts a threAD, some dudes are up in arms... but advocating for m*rd*r and n*cr*ph*l*a is totally fine?! To say I'm confused is an understatement.

Every forum has its problem children, that is what the RTM tab is for ...

Originally Posted by alaine

YES! This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

BUT AUSTIN is the worse case I've seen. At least our Dallas MODS are not the type of guys that pull the kind of crap that is going on there. I for one, can't fathom why the OWNERS and ADMINS are allowing this abuse to continue.

The ownership and admins have been trying to get more consistent modtarding across icky. But the modtards are volunteers and cannot/do not read every thread and post. If something violates the guidelines then hit the RTM tab. As dearhunter has stated several times "you get the forum you deserve." If the membership allows the behavior then its on them. I come from the school of less modtarding is better modtarding.

[Luxie]

I reported the comment, personally messaged every austin mod about it, and messaged the site admin. Yet the post is still up.

[burkalini]

Originally Posted by Luxie

I reported the comment, personally messaged every austin mod about it, and messaged the site admin. Yet the post is still up.

Luxie did you just change your name?

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by Luxie

I reported the comment, personally messaged every austin mod about it, and messaged the site admin. Yet the post is still up.

I believe I stated to RTM the post. I stated that for a reason. An email is just another email which may or may not get read. The RTM, report to modtard, puts the issue out in the open in modtardville. All modtards can see it. If the locals ignore it then others can step in.

[Luxie]

Yes, I know what it does and I stated that I already did that.

Burkalini - yes I did! I wanted something new and fresh. I had my other one for way too long lol.

[ivy_rose]

The disgusting Austin boards are making me want to leave the city completely. I was planning to stay here a few more years but if I could find a list of cities where the men weren't this blatantly disrespectful, I would pick one and move there this year. Even this post will probably make me a target- it's insane.

[Miss Valentina]

When self-emasculated loser males realize they have nothing to offer the world, they will resort to cowardly verbal abuse behind a handle. That's how you know they have, and are, nothing.

But ladies, in reality it has nothing to do with you, it's projection. I know it's upsetting to many and I understand that, but I just sit back laughing and watching them flail in their bush-league bullshit. They're telling you everything you need to know. It's just one big Self Alert, and never more apparent than in Austin right now.

These men who spend the majority of their free time on Eccie trying to fuck women way out of their league in real life and shaming, berating, and threatening those very same women. Wow, what a dichotomy. Must fry the last neurons they posses.

If I had to walk around with a brain at that level of self-created cognitive dissonance I would hate myself too.

[DocHolyday]

Originally Posted by Miss Valentina

When self-emasculated loser males realize they have nothing to offer the world, they will resort to cowardly verbal abuse behind a handle. That's how you know they have, and are, nothing.

But ladies, in reality it has nothing to do with you, it's projection. I know it's upsetting to many and I understand that, but I just sit back laughing and watching them flail in their bush-league bullshit. They're telling you everything you need to know. It's just one big Self Alert, and never more apparent than in Austin right now.

These men who spend the majority of their free time on Eccie trying to fuck women way out of their league in real life and shaming, berating, and threatening those very same women. Wow, what a dichotomy. Must fry the last neurons they posses.

If I had to walk around with a brain at that level of self-created cognitive dissonance I would hate myself too.

BRAVO!!!

+1 MV

[yitzchak]

I can't help but think they're referring to me.

[VipAhyanaJames]

Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

ECCIE clients, if a particular escort isn't your cup of tea and isn't sexually desirable to you, how do you choose to navigate that in the public coed forums? (God only knows what goes down in the "Locker Room" section of this site so please spare me the sordid details.) Do you still civilly engage? Or politely ignore the companions you don't fancy. Or do you like to go the route of obsessively fixating on them and using online stalking tactics to antagonize them?

What kind of coed forum do you want for the city you live in? Should the coed forum be an extension of the men's only section? Should women remain silent and voiceless as if it's 1717 and not actually 2017? Do you like your local coed forum to be dominated by the most braggadocious clients to the point where companions are shunned? Or do you prefer hobby-related discussions that are lighthearted, cheerful and maybe even a little sexy and flirtatious?

for the past few months it seems that one particular guy chooses to fixate and stalk me. Let me say from experience it is really annoying and can bring bad karma to a good person for no reason.
No one should have to go thru what i'm going thru and have been going thru over the past few months. just because someone likes to sit in front of a computer and use it to harm others with frivolous words.

[bankai]

It's always going to be a issue having men pay for sex, that's just a part of the game. I'm big in masculinity and right now alot of men feel they're not in a position to show masculinity and in terms of escorting it's going to be a problem.

I know several escorts here in Florida, very attractive ebony women and I would love to date possibly marry any of them but they don't see me in that light and I learned to a certain that the problem is when I see one and have good sex with them I really want to see them more often.

I have to learn to seperate fantasy from reality, sex in general, porn, escorting is fantasy and we men need to learn to see it as such. This beautiful women most likely won't give us time of day unless we have money to give them and I think for some men more so guys who troll the board or guys who generally hate women hate women because they cannot control them.

Hence where the trolls and hate comes from, it's mostly from a lack of masculinity, you can tie this into liberal hate since liberals are the ones most see as messing up core American values, ie women back in the kitchen, popping kids ad keeping shut as Billy at Fox news.

I checked the Austin forum and the troll being mentioned has almost 400 reviews, no offense but does dude get laid without paying for it? That's the shit any escort has to ask, she have to screen better.

[Guest022718]

Originally Posted by ivy_rose

...... but if I could find a list of cities where the men weren't this blatantly disrespectful, I would pick one and move there this year.....

Ummm, Howdy ma'am.

I'm surprised you have not heard about Nebraska, where all the men have been blessed with natural, rugged good looks. We are all above average in endowment and have a natural tendency to tip for good service. Furthermore, we all love our mommas....who taught us that all women are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.

Just sayin'.

Good day, ma'am

[Claire She Blows]

Originally Posted by hgritstoo

Ummm, Howdy ma'am.

I'm surprised you have not heard about Nebraska, where all the men have been blessed with natural, rugged good looks. We are all above average in endowment and have a natural tendency to tip for good service. Furthermore, we all love our mommas....who taught us that all women are worthy of being treated with dignity and respect.

Just sayin'.

Good day, ma'am

Hell, I need to tour Nebraska...

[yitzchak]

I cyber stalk, but I don't say mean things!

[ck1942]

Unfortunately, it appears that the basic standard for females surviving here in both the hobby and in open forums, requires a thick skin, the ability to restrain immediate caustic replies and commentary, and the intelligence and fortitude to screen, screen, screen and recognize that something like half the males here are lovers and the others are haters.

Not an easy chore, but, imo, most every lady who has entered the hobby has already shown a good amount of courage just by entering the hobby.

There is no "Provider 101" curriculum and the learning curve can be very steep.

Choosing wisely where, when and how to post is almost a fine art.

When a lady understands that for the most part the board is geared for the guys, and that many of the guys do not view hobbying as a male/female partnership, that lady's survival skills (and her business!) are greatly increased.

Which is why, imo, many ladies rarely choose to appear in any general forum very often other than initial welcome posts, ads and iso's.

There are more than a few other boards out there that are more tightly moderated (and less populated, too) but they are not always well known and some, indeed, research handles and personas extensively before admitting new members. I ran into a new one of those just the other day doing some research.

imo, the most highly controlled boards appear to be run by very knowledgeable ladies (think p411, for example) or by ladies and gents who consider the hobby partnership as a basic foundation.

And, on top of all that, there are many UTRs (both female and male) who exist very nicely in the hobby w/o ever registering on boards, or, who register but never post and who hide their geography very well, too.

ijs