1st time with escort

[Cpalmson]

Originally Posted by mastablasta

STOP BEATING OFF TO PORN!! masturbating to porn and ED, one begets the other...

Not so fast. That is not true. I've been beating off since even before reaching puberty. I'm late 40s and have NO problem getting it up. Hell, there are times I wished I had a problem getting it up and not being able to cum

[joesmo888]

not much more needs to be said except I wouldn't listen to what your young friend has to say.. he is likely just as clueless as you.

also you sound like you are in your early 20's.. I don't think hobbying is for you if you have only had sex with 3 girls in your life cause the provider is going to think you are a weirdo, plus most high quality providers aren't going to bother seeing someone your age to begin with.

[Guest100820]

Originally Posted by joesmo888

not much more needs to be said except I wouldn't listen to what your young friend has to say.. he is likely just as clueless as you.

also you sound like you are in your early 20's.. I don't think hobbying is for you if you have only had sex with 3 girls in your life cause the provider is going to think you are a weirdo, plus most high quality providers aren't going to bother seeing someone your age to begin with.

Yeah you're right I am in my early 20's. And yes I've only had sex with 3 girls, I admit I'm not the best looking guy around so if all of these providers are going to think that makes me a "weirdo" thanks for letting me know

[Audrey Astor]

Originally Posted by rpimps

Hey everyone, I decided to try hiring an escort for the first time last weekend, I spent about an hour looking for the hottest girl I could find on backpage (this is before my friend told me about eccie), called her and she came over. There were more rules than I was expecting, like no kissing, handjob and sex only, etc. About 10-15 minutes into it I went soft, and it took like 5 min to get back up so I could finish. I didn't feel that it was worth the $200 and afterwards I told my friend I would've rather just saved the money and watched porn instead.

This is the first and only time I've been with an escort so far so I'm not really sure what happened. I had sex with 3 girls in college (not escorts just girls I knew) and I got crazy hard instantly with all of them every time, it was great and I had a lot of fun. I also watch porn pretty often and no trouble with that.

Does anyone have any idea why this happened, maybe just nerves or something else? Also this is the first time in my life I've used a condom, I never used one with the girls I dated in college so maybe my dick is too spoiled and the condom is ruining it now. But I wasn't about to bareback it with a backpage girl.

Has anyone else had this problem and what do you suggest?

I am going to venture that the reason it happened, is because you were made to feel like a job. You should have been caressed, kissed, fondled, body touched and rubbed, neck nuzzled, ears whispered in, kissed with uber passion your cock should have been sucked and licked with passion and eye contact,..... I'm sure your boy would have been just fine had you been treated with compassion and like she really wanted to be with you. Sorry that sucks, and not in a good way. I hate that some of you guys get treated like that. You'll figure out how to find the right lady though. The guys here will help you.

[Lil Tex]

Holly you almost got me hard as a fence post just reading your way you would handle it

[Guest022718]

Originally Posted by Lil Tex

Holly you almost got me hard as a fence post just reading your way you would handle it

Yeah, well, the scary part is she's not kidding. Holly really operates that way.


OP: This is a game. The goal is to get you to think with your dick. PAY ATTENTION TO THE REVIEWS AVAILABLE HERE AND ELSEWHERE. DROP YOUR COCK AND USE YOUR FUCKING BRAIN FOR A MINUTE! Otherwise, you'll continue to have bad experiences.

There are great ladies out there. Do your research and you'll find them.

[mastablasta]

Originally Posted by Cpalmson

Not so fast. That is not true. I've been beating off since even before reaching puberty. I'm late 40s and have NO problem getting it up. Hell, there are times I wished I had a problem getting it up and not being able to cum

There most definately is a link but let me clarify. When u beat off to porn on a regular basis you have no problem getting it up for porn. Problem is when it's time to fuck something other than your hand your brain says no dice I need porn to give you a hard on. Jacking off without porn isn't as nearly as hazardous to your sexlife than jacking off with it. There's alot of info out there for u to look up if u think I'm making it up. Also everybody is different. You can prolly beat off to porn day and night and it still not effect your sexlife. I know I can't. If I beat off to porn a few times it takes a week of abstaining from it for me to get my mojo sorted out enough to fuck.

[Guest043022]

Originally Posted by rpimps

Yeah you're right I am in my early 20's. And yes I've only had sex with 3 girls, I admit I'm not the best looking guy around so if all of these providers are going to think that makes me a "weirdo" thanks for letting me know

Unless you look like a troll living under a bridge, looks actually have very little to do with the how well you will be received in the hobby, the color green make even the worst looking guys more appealing!
Attitude and the way you carry yourself will come into play more than your looks, and yes, most ladies do prefer older gentleman, but there will be ladies that will see younger guys like yourself, although they may be few and far between.

[sicilian]

Originally Posted by rpimps

Hey everyone, I decided to try hiring an escort for the first time last weekend, I spent about an hour looking for the hottest girl I could find on backpage (this is before my friend told me about eccie), called her and she came over. There were more rules than I was expecting, like no kissing, handjob and sex only, etc. About 10-15 minutes into it I went soft, and it took like 5 min to get back up so I could finish. I didn't feel that it was worth the $200 and afterwards I told my friend I would've rather just saved the money and watched porn instead.

This is the first and only time I've been with an escort so far so I'm not really sure what happened. I had sex with 3 girls in college (not escorts just girls I knew) and I got crazy hard instantly with all of them every time, it was great and I had a lot of fun. I also watch porn pretty often and no trouble with that.

Does anyone have any idea why this happened, maybe just nerves or something else? Also this is the first time in my life I've used a condom, I never used one with the girls I dated in college so maybe my dick is too spoiled and the condom is ruining it now. But I wasn't about to bareback it with a backpage girl.

Has anyone else had this problem and what do you suggest?

Most backpage girls are not GFE so what you were expecting was pretty much not offered by any of them.Most of them are young and are into drugs and are being duped by a pimp/boyfriend that she must do this for "them" to get ahead.Most of them are doing this only because they have no choice as they are unemployable due to drug/alcohol or mental issues or criminal records.I personally would never use one unless she had good reviews.You are better off using a reviewed more mature GFE lady who treats clients well because she wants steady business not just her next fix or enough money to bail her loser BF out of county jail.

[kellymartin612]

Most backpage girls are not GFE so what you were expecting was pretty much not offered by any of them. When you doing next time feel full relax body and mind too. As far as I'm concerned if your cock's never failed you aren't using it enough.
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[Eva Damita]

Sounds like you had a super unattached" session" and not a fruitful date. Things will get better for you on here being that you're able to exchange information readily with active members. Good luck!

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by kellymartin612

As far as I'm concerned if your cock's never failed you aren't using it enough.
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In my experience, the penis is much like muscles in the rest of a man's body, the more it gets exercised, the harder it can become and stay! And yes, I do, just happen to be, a very Personal "Penis Fitness" Trainer, with a well documented record of success.... LOL

[Old-T]

I intended to comment on this earlier but have been busy, so I am finally getting to it now.

To the OP: first the caveat, I am not a Dr and in this anonymous world of ours in don't know your full situation so what I say may not fit you, but hopefully some of it is useful.

The first thing that comes to mind is you are likely missing two points:

1. The brain is the biggest sex organ in the body for most men, not the eyes. It sounded like you sought out the hottest body you could find but paid little or no attention to whether she could/would/cared for stimulate the mind. Whether she would seduce you and mesh well with the mental side of your libido. Next time try finding a lady who posts things that raise your puritan interests. The one who gives you a glimpse of her fiendish/playful/teasing/lustful/coy/sensual/dominating/submissive/naughty side--whatever adjectives push your buttons. Send her a PM without raising any LE flags and see how she responds. Or reply to her post and see where it goes. If her replies grab your mind the penis is far more likely to follow. Once you find a few ladies who can make you want them based upon what they have to say, THEN go look at their pictures to confirm things. By the way, it is amazing how much hotter any lady looks once you already know you want her.

2. Predetermined expectations can be the worst buzzkill for an erotic encounter. Once you have found a lady who is a likely good fit for you, don't set yourself up for disappointment by having too specific an image of what MUST happen in great detail. Enjoy her, often let her show you what makes her special and different (almost all the ladies here can be special and different if you allow them to be). The best dates are almost always a journey of erotic exploration, not a scavenger hunt check list. Find the right guide and let her do her job.

[watchoutthegameisrigged]

Excellent advice T - but he may not be old enough to appreciate it.

[xxxalyssaxxx]

Originally Posted by rpimps

Hey everyone, I decided to try hiring an escort for the first time last weekend, I spent about an hour looking for the hottest girl I could find on backpage (this is before my friend told me about eccie), called her and she came over. There were more rules than I was expecting, like no kissing, handjob and sex only, etc. About 10-15 minutes into it I went soft, and it took like 5 min to get back up so I could finish. I didn't feel that it was worth the $200 and afterwards I told my friend I would've rather just saved the money and watched porn instead.

This is the first and only time I've been with an escort so far so I'm not really sure what happened. I had sex with 3 girls in college (not escorts just girls I knew) and I got crazy hard instantly with all of them every time, it was great and I had a lot of fun. I also watch porn pretty often and no trouble with that.

Does anyone have any idea why this happened, maybe just nerves or something else? Also this is the first time in my life I've used a condom, I never used one with the girls I dated in college so maybe my dick is too spoiled and the condom is ruining it now. But I wasn't about to bareback it with a backpage girl.

Has anyone else had this problem and what do you suggest?

Hon, that problem is actually more common than you would think for first timers. I really think it is just a nerve thing. Welcome to ECCIE. Glad you made it. Make yourself at home and enjoy. This place is a good resource of information. Relax and find a great GFE lady that you click with well. Happy hobbying.