What's Too Personal

[Naomi4u]

Hello beautiful,

I somewhat agree and disagree.

To YOU, it is just sex -- if it were "just sex" - anyone and everyone would be a prostitute so that is comment stated as fact is only your opinion/conjecture.

I personally could not give all of myself to men here in the hobby. I have to have strong feelings for the man to give him all of me. I want to keep something for my boyfriend/hubby and that's my booty (greek) and my throat (cim). It may sound a bit ridiculous but greek and cim isn't the most pleasureable thing. I have tasted nasty cum (grossss!) and greek is very painful so it's not something I can do with a stranger (someone I don't fully trust). Makes sense?

XOXO,
Z

Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

I don't feel that anything is too personal. It's just sex, and when you start thinking too much during sex, that's when you have a bad time. Beyond safety, everything else should be just a sweaty, sexy, heavy breathing, salivating good time.

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[Shayla]

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

Hello beautiful,

I somewhat agree and disagree.

To YOU, it is just sex -- if it were "just sex" - anyone and everyone would be a prostitute so that is comment stated as fact is only your opinion/conjecture.

I personally could not give all of myself to men here in the hobby. I have to have strong feelings for the man to give him all of me. I want to keep something for my boyfriend/hubby and that's my booty (greek) and my throat (cim). It may sound a bit ridiculous but greek and cim isn't the most pleasureable thing. I have tasted nasty cum (grossss!) and greek is very painful so it's not something I can do with a stranger (someone I don't fully trust). Makes sense?

XOXO,
Z

So over all is it safe to say that it is a preference that you rather not do those things as opposed to something you choose to keep "personal"?
I mean, if you enjoyed greek would you not offer it (extra or not) to clients?

I only ask 'cause with my ex-boyfriends (before I was a hooker) I didn't do anything I didn't want to do. I called the shots on everything. However, because this is a "business" I will do things I'm not normally inclined to doing in my civil life. Safely, of course.

[AdventureAdams]

I hate things up my ass- that's the only thing thats off bounds to me sexually. No amount of money, can make me enjoy a dick in my ass. Unless, of course I haven't found the right one.

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

No fuck that. I never said all that. I love DATY only when the guy knows what he's doing and I looooooove kissing! DFK me!!
Anal is just one of those oh hell no things. I've only did it with one guy so far and he's my current boyfriend.

Anal sex to me takes a great deal of trust so I usually have reserved it only for a boyfriend/SO. Anal play with toys is okay but I'm really not that big into butt play.

DATY...some men think their tongue is a big worm and they just go down there and start lapping away. One thing I've discovered is some men really appreciate it when a woman gently shows them how she likes it.

[Tiffany Cums]

BBFS is the only thing I will not do, everything else is on the table. I am here to have fun!

[gimme_that]

Thee were things I noticed some ladies thought were too personal.....

1. Eye contact when "achieving" giving or receiving,

2. A back massage on first time meets, some ladies consider it a vulnerable position to place themselves in during a meet.

3. Saying the client real screened name during a moment of sexual pleasure during sex.

4. Saying the providers real name during sex.....(more reserved for close friendship atf type clients.)

5. For some its just offering overnights. Some ladies feel as though sleeping next to a "stranger" and waking up next to him not at her most attrractive facial setting is more reserved for people they really know. Maybe turning down self conscious kissing immediately after waking up during an overnight as well.

6. Anal play. Definitely CIM.

7. Dirty talk. (Sometimes)

8. Asking or inquiring about anything in their personal life besides kids.........

9. Their cycle.....maybe you were wanting to book in advance and wanted to take all precautions to ensure you could meet her.........

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by alluringava

Anal sex to me takes a great deal of trust so I usually have reserved it only for a boyfriend/SO. Anal play with toys is okay but I'm really not that big into butt play.

DATY...some men think their tongue is a big worm and they just go down there and start lapping away. One thing I've discovered is some men really appreciate it when a woman gently shows them how she likes it.

Exactly Ava! Exactly!
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I love Anal with my BF - It doesn't feel great at first but after a minute or so feels wonderful!
I imagine with someone else it would be very painful (guy's dick is too big or a shape I'm not used to). I don't want that feeling with someone I don't know AND think about the things that could go wrong during anal.
I have said I won't do it with clients/strangers so it means I won't do it for extra amount of money. Just because one is a hooker doesn't mean she should give all of herself because it's a business. We set our own limits in this business. My rate is $400 an hour and I don't do anal or anything out of the GFE spectrum (DFK, BBBJ, DATY). I'm happy with the way things are .

xoxo,
Z

edited to add.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by gimme_that

Thee were things I noticed some ladies thought were too personal.....

1. Eye contact when "achieving" giving or receiving,

2. A back massage on first time meets, some ladies consider it a vulnerable position to place themselves in during a meet.

3. Saying the client real screened name during a moment of sexual pleasure during sex.



5. For some its just offering overnights. Some ladies feel as though sleeping next to a "stranger" and waking up next to him not at her most attrractive facial setting is more reserved for people they really know. Maybe turning down self conscious kissing immediately after waking up during an overnight as well.


7. Dirty talk. (Sometimes)

8. Asking or inquiring about anything in their personal life besides kids.........

9. Their cycle.....maybe you were wanting to book in advance and wanted to take all precautions to ensure you could meet her.........

Take out number 4 and 6 and I'll tell you, You've been spending time with the wrong girls, clearly.
However, Why would you need to say a provider's real name during sex? If she has a problem with you saying her name then why/how did she tell it to you in the first place. I'm confused. That is very creepy, gimme.
A guy I was seeing once picked up a hotel receipt from my purse, found my real name and started to use it
when we were together. It pissed me off. Had to let that one go. He was way too creepy.

[gimme_that]

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

Take out number 4 and 6 and I'll tell you, You've been spending time with the wrong girls, clearly.
However, Why would you need to say a provider's real name during sex? If she has a problem with you saying her name then why/how did she tell it to you in the first place. I'm confused. That is very creepy, gimme.
A guy I was seeing once picked up a hotel receipt from my purse, found my real name and started to use it
when we were together. It pissed me off. Had to let that one go. He was way too creepy.

Not all those examples are things I have encountered. I wouldn't use a ladies real name during an appointment......

I was just thinking of stuff that might in fact toe the line such as that. Actually heard of that situation from a hobby buddy.

I have known ladies real namees.....but never would I use it in bed....that would be sorta creepy, and that ain't me.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by gimme_that

Not all those examples are things I have encountered. I wouldn't use a ladies real name during an appointment......

I was just thinking of stuff that might in fact toe the line such as that. Actually heard of that situation from a hobby buddy.

I have known ladies real namees.....but never would I use it in bed....that would be sorta creepy, and that ain't me.

Cool beans.

I can't imagine an escort wanting to be called her real name by anyone - even an ATF but I could be wrong. I know for a fact, that I wouldn't but everyone's different.

[pipefitter73]

Originally Posted by tonytiger4u

No anal for me either. And CIM? Over my dead body! LOL!

Same here. I've never tried anal in my life and don't want to.

Originally Posted by gimme_that

Thee were things I noticed some ladies thought were too personal.....

3. Saying the client real screened name during a moment of sexual pleasure during sex.

LOL, I've had a few say "Oh Pipefitter, like that", which I thought was interesting.

[Guest110516]

1) Stay away from asscracks and assholes (yours and mine) -- cheeks are OK (yours and mine). If I want to be probed, I'll go to Roswell, and my prostrate is just fine.
2) See #1.
3) See #1.
4) I don't DATY. If you need warming up, I can cuddle, caress, massage you while you play with yourself (you know what you like), and I like to watch. Bonus: no pressure on me to provide Os.
5) I can understand you don't want my fluids on your privates. Except for bbbj, the feeling is mutual. So, be careful when body gliding.

[AdventureAdams]

Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

I don't feel that anything is too personal. It's just sex, and when you start thinking too much during sex, that's when you have a bad time. Beyond safety, everything else should be just a sweaty, sexy, heavy breathing, salivating good time.

In my personal life, I've had men that I love, and men I wasn't really in to. The men that I love have to fight me off with a stick, and I was open to do whatever they asked. No such thing as no.

The men I cared about, but wasn't really in to sexually were usually the ones that had 'standards' in the bedroom, and thought it taboo that I even gave them head. These fellows can count on one hand in several years that fellatio even happened. Let them tell it I was a freak.

Given that I'm single, and would never have a boyfriend while I do this, I seek to enjoy myself to the fullest. If that means anal, then so be it. If that means a little (or a LOT) of kink, so be it. If that means 'getting my protein', well, bottoms up.

Great post I think we share the same mindset, I think some people just associate certain actions with memories and to them those certain things are sacred. Fortunately, I can detach myself from that over emotional aspect and just have fun on the ride.

[nwarounder]

Okay, the guy getting into your purse for any reason is freakin creepy, I get that. But if a lady decided to tell a client her real name, why is that creepy to say it in bed? Or did I miss something?

[nwarounder]

Originally Posted by pipefitter73

LOL, I've had a few say "Oh Pipefitter, like that", which I thought was interesting.

OMG, that is too damn funny!!!