Client and Provider discussions of Sexual Interests Before a Session

[Rezo]

Originally Posted by mojojo213

If they dont wanna talk about it I just carry flash cards and draw it out.

My drawing skills are pitiful. I find that when at the friendly neighborhood AMP I have to sign instead.

[Bebe Le Strange]

Well, I don't know, I do remember other cities that LE can arrest you just with an envelope laid down somewhere, even if the lady doesn't acknowledge it is there. So as extreme as that may seem it also would seem that talking about activities, regardless if it is prior to or during can be enough justification for them to arrest you too. I would imagine the ladies would err on the side of caution and just not talk about such things. I was under the impression that the reviews gave detailed, graphic information on a lady. With a review you can get the basic information you need, and maybe a little more. Doesn't YMMV apply to just about every woman in the industry? You can't predict chemistry and the only way to know for sure is just to go in with both feet, and find out. Just my .02

[Eccie Addict]

Unfortunately when money is involved sometimes it's hard to just jump in with both feet....

[whitechocolate]

Valerie, I agree this can get over analyzed which is not the purpose. I think the bottom line is more info before a session is helpful for the client and also for the provider but there are no rules and just going into a session with a good feeling about each other is probably what is needed.

[Eccie Addict]

Mojo I'm hearing impaired so flash cards ain't a bad idea buddy lol.

[Guest050715-1]

I do not like discussing explicit activities. However, once you are screened, I will answer questions about more exotic activities. Anyone that researches me, will know I'm not really into boundaries - at all

[whitechocolate]

Olivia, that is exactly the info needed- a willingness to discuss "exotic activities" after screening and the information that you have no set boundaries. I think that is all that is really necessary.

[lisa.lisa0302]

I really needed that giggle today!

Thank you

Originally Posted by Rezo

My drawing skills are pitiful. I find that when at the friendly neighborhood AMP I have to sign instead.

[anita]

If there is a particular request I would like to hear it before we meet...After screening. No need of explicit details. 7 times out of 10 I would be able to do it.

[Mojojo]

Originally Posted by Rezo

My drawing skills are pitiful. I find that when at the friendly neighborhood AMP I have to sign instead.

You could carry this on your phone and show it to them when they ask.

[R.M.]

Originally Posted by whitechocolate

I personally feel that for the client to get the best session possible and for both client and Provider to get the most out of their time together, explicit sexual discussions of interests, desires, fetishes etc are necessary before the session. There are obvious pros and cons and I am interested in opinions of both providers and clients. I am not talking about discussing the obvious things that are in the usual session and review but more unusual special interests that might be called kinky or taboo and make the session very hot.

Very nice conversation yesterday thanks for calling so we could have this talk your posting about it was quiet lovely.

[whitechocolate]

Reese, yes, I enjoyed our chat very much. I think the exchange of ideas preferably by phone works best. PMs, emails and texts dont work as well as there is too much room for misunderstanding and people are worried about having the discussion being used in some unpleasant manner. A phone conversation allows a nice give and take. I personally like to talk to providers by phone prior to sessions in all cases.

[SneakyCancer]

i think if you do want to discuss personal discrete information, go visit the lady first. we are only compensating them for time anyway right? so try lunch or dinner first....extend the session from 30min to 1hr and spend the first half chatting and eating. break the ice....or do the homework...see them once.....get the good green light....and then discuss as normal afterwards.

[whitechocolate]

I think in many if not most situation, the provider wants to chat as much if not more than the client to learn about the client etc. I am always aware of the providers time and her involvement in the conversation and will make it very brief if I feel she is not into it. In my recent chat with Reese, I do believe she was as much if not more into it than me.