Let It Be Known...

[Valerie]

Try not to worry so much about what they say in the Locker room love, it's just men being men, and in this industry people are going to use the words Hooker,Whore,Slut etc...it is an unrealistic expectation to think otherwise...

At least now you know how some act behind closed doors, so to speak, and therefore you now have insight to various personalities that you would never wish to see

[Eccie Addict]

Mandy......

You know as well as anyone that this is the way it is even outside of the "hobby". The difference is when it happens outside, in person, you do one of 2 things, you walk away or you address it. The difference out there is you can actually walk away. Here you use this as a business tool. Therefore you subject yourself to the very things you don't like. By starting this very thread you are going to draw in the very things you despise and want to stay away from. Not only are you subjecting yourself to it, you are subjecting every provider that will read this thread to it.

Now if your intention is to draw in those that do that in order to expose them to others then you may succeed and then you may not. The reality is that even if you see someone here that you don't like you may never truly know if they are the person that you are screening at this very moment or not.

I get the being disgusted with certain terms that some refer providers as. However when a provider calls another provider for a reference don't think for a minute that most providers don't want as much information as they can possibly have on a potential client so they can make an informed decision on whether or not they should see the client. While some information may seem hurtfull it is actually just information that is put out there so that others can make an informed decision as to who they want to spend their money on. Is that wrong?

Now if you are addressing the ones that act as sweet as can be in person and then talk nasty about you behind your back. Then I agree that they are basically a coward. It is what it is though.

Also I hope that the person that decided to "enlighten" you as to some of the things that are said in the ML has a pure motive. Most that do things like that are simply trying to make themselves look better than the rest. Eventually you begin to see a side of them that seems controlling and possessive. They begin to feel resented when you see others instead of them because they feel they have your best interest at heart. They come to expect "better" treatment than others.

Having a thick skin is the same thing as having a strong mind in my opinion.

[Guest061011-4]

i have read and understood whats been said, my whole purpose in posting this thread is to just show people when it comes to SWEET MANDY, i will not tolerate certain things, whether its suppose to be expected in the hobby or not. its still wrong and i will not see someone because of it. im not worried about losing clientell by saying this, i want to be able to really connect with everyone i see. i will still give everyone a chance, its just lately things have been a reminder to me of what people still do bcd.

[Guest061011-4]

my thoughts exactly val

Originally Posted by Valerie

Try not to worry so much about what they say in the Locker room love, it's just men being men, and in this industry people are going to use the words Hooker,Whore,Slut etc...it is an unrealistic expectation to think otherwise...

At least now you know how some act behind closed doors, so to speak, and therefore you now have insight to various personalities that you would never wish to see

[Eccie Addict]

Originally Posted by Sweet Mandy

i have read and understood whats been said, my whole purpose in posting this thread is to just show people when it comes to SWEET MANDY, i will not tolerate certain things, whether its suppose to be expected in the hobby or not. its still wrong and i will not see someone because of it. im not worried about losing clientell by saying this, i want to be able to really connect with everyone i see. i will still give everyone a chance, its just lately things have been a reminder to me of what people still do bcd.

You shouldn't be concerned about losing clients over it. I have no doubt that you will be just fine because you are a great provider and person or at least I hope What I'm saying is just because of the very fact that you say you won't see someone that says things on here that you don't tolerate doesn't mean you will be able to stop them from seeing you. Just by saying that will probably make some see you just out of spite.

This is where I have a heavy heart..... It's better to speak your mind quietly. If you announce your feelings openly then you open yourself to those that want to do things that will mess with your mind.

[Sweet Discretion]

Sweet Mandy, I would think if guys are referring to a provider using negative terms it's probably because she did something wrong like, ncns, lie, scam, or steal from a hobbyist.

I like to believe that hobbyists and most people in general aren't mean and nasty just for the sake of being mean and nasty. Whoever is being talked about probably did something wrong if guys are talking about her that way.

There are some unsavory characters on both sides of the hobby. Just keep being the sweetheart that you are, steer clear of the rif-raf, and you'll be just fine.

[Guest061011-4]

oh gosh, your right, i didnt even think about that...ugh!

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

You shouldn't be concerned about losing clients over it. I have no doubt that you will be just fine because you are a great provider and person or at least I hope What I'm saying is just because of the very fact that you say you won't see someone that says things on here that you don't tolerate doesn't mean you will be able to stop them from seeing you. Just by saying that will probably make some see you just out of spite.

This is where I have a heavy heart..... It's better to speak your mind quietly. If you announce your feelings openly then you open yourself to those that want to do things that will mess with your mind.

[Guest061011-4]

i see your point there as well, i do need to consider that a possibility as well.

Originally Posted by Sweet Discretion

Sweet Mandy, I would think if guys are referring to a provider using negative terms it's probably because she did something wrong like, ncns, lie, scam, or steal from a hobbyist.

I like to believe that hobbyists and most people in general aren't mean and nasty just for the sake of being mean and nasty. Whoever is being talked about probably did something wrong if guys are talking about her that way.

There are some unsavory characters on both sides of the hobby. Just keep being the sweetheart that you are, steer clear of the rif-raf, and you'll be just fine.

[Eccie Addict]

I'm sure the person that "enlightened" you didn't think about it either...

[K2S0]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

What I'm saying is just because of the very fact that you say you won't see someone that says things on here that you don't tolerate doesn't mean you will be able to stop them from seeing you.

I can only speak for myself but... mandy's posts on the board whether
whimsical or discussion heavy are what actually sparked my interest in her.
(ok... yeah... that body didn't hurt... i admit it...)

because it made her seem far more personable than the air of erotic fantasy
most providers carry around them... which is a little refreshing to me...

btw love the new avatar mandy

[Eccie Addict]

I'm not talking about her posts in general. I'm talking about this specific thread and it's contents. It does more harm than good.

[amusemeant]

Awwwww sweets....I know exactly how you feel. Being insulted and being objectified is part of the biz...and part of life...but it still hurts sometimes. For me personally, I just focus on what is positive and leave the rest. This is a big big world and those people who choose to be negative are only attracting the same back to themselves. Instead of saying what you don't like and thinking about what you don't care for, manifest positivity by envisioning everyone behaving the best way possible.

In the end, being objectified and fantasized about in these dirty kinky and compromising ways is making a lotta girls a lotta money...and it comes from those bank accounts belonging to those men doing the objectifying. It's reality....

The great part is that you get to create your own little world for them to visit and live out their fantasies - as a provider - and they pay you well for it. Who cares what they say in the locker room?

I always remind myself of the story of the fox and the grapes.....and this is true in so many aspects and situations. 'What is' is not always 'what it is'...sometimes it's what you wish it was and sometimes it's what you dreaded it wouldn't be. Take rude comments with a grain of salt and move on - as long as ur gettin yours c'est la vie.

[SoHouNeedsGFE]

Originally Posted by Sweet Mandy

could you give me an example on what that would read like?

I guess it depends on ones definition and how they themselves choose to define those words.

[K2S0]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

I'm not talking about her posts in general. I'm talking about this specific thread and it's contents. It does more harm than good.

i was speaking for myself when i said that but it is a shame because i do
agree that this particular topic can possibly invite a bit of trouble for her.

[Guest061011-4]

i am not worried about anything so you shouldnt fret. i am fully aware that what i wrote will spark negative and positive views, as does everything else.but always remember

beware the beauty of the dragon,
for her teeth are sharp.

dont be discieved, any heat i get
i can handle!!!