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Originally Posted by GabrielaSweetheart
I've never been jealous by a favorite, but when screening new clients and seeing some of the providers they've seen makes me a little intimidated.
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very interesting perspective, gabriela. i hadnt thought of it in that way.
for a time early in my hobbying days, i did feel envious of another guy visiting one of the women i enjoyed visiting. but then i realized that i'm not the only consumer in this market and she'll see who she wants. and like dickEmDown said, it gives me some new ideas of things we might do together. [nothing like copying from the best, right??] maybe, gabriella, that's what you're thinking - intimidated in that the other woman's reputation and/or activities and/or whatever is something that you dont have at that point in time??
now, when i read reviews of women i've seen who i didnt hit it off with or who acted real shitty towards me during or after the encounter, i think, well, we all like different things. i just hope he had a deliteful time.
yep, max just about hit it on the head. i think that all these terms stem from one's insecurities about not having something that another has. and like several have said, sure we experience these feelings when the situation occurs. but each of us makes our choices on how we react to those events - we can either get envious or jealous and let it hurt and diminish us, resulting in us lashing out at that person or someone else or doing something destructive or negative.
or we can accept that feeling, understand why we have that feeling, and, if it is really important to us, do something so that we can attain that advantage, success or possession. otherwise, we should just accept it and move on, not worrying about possessing it.
i think this is where buddha was coming from when he said that excessive desire is a cause of suffering that we must overcome in order to compassionate and respectful people.
i'm envious that others can say what i think but in fewer words.
from dictionary.com...
envy - a
feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another's advantages, success, possessions, etc.
jealousy - *
resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself.
* feeling resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, success, or advantages (often followed by of ): He was jealous of his rich brother.
*
characterized by or proceeding from suspicious fears or envious resentment
resentment - the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some
act, remark, person, etc.,
regarded as causing injury or insult.
Envy and
jealousy are very close in meaning.
Envy denotes a longing to possess something awarded to or achieved by another: to feel envy when a friend inherits a fortune.
Jealousy, on the other hand, denotes a feeling of resentment that another has gained
something that one more rightfully deserves: to feel jealousy when a coworker receives a promotion. Jealousy also refers to
anguish caused by fear of unfaithfulness.
Envy,
begrudge,
covet refer to one's attitude toward the possessions or attainments of others.
To envy is to
feel resentful and unhappy because someone else possesses, or has achieved,
what one wishes oneself to possess, or to have achieved: to envy the wealthy, a woman's beauty, an honest man's reputation.
To begrudge is
to be unwilling that another should have the possessions, honors, or credit that person deserves: to begrudge a man a reward for heroism.
To covet is
to long jealously to possess what someone else possesses: I covet your silverware.
i don't get jealous but i do get envious
