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Originally Posted by Becky
Yes, and the harder people try to appear different the more they fit right in lol.
I have often noticed that the people who are truly unusual rarely go out of their way to call attention to their uniqueness . The same thing goes for people who are extremely intelligent They are often the ones who are able to relate to others on just about any level without any need to make anyone feel like they are less than them.
It is usually the people who are insecure about these issues who need to build themselves up by seperating themselves from others.
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Hi Becky,
Within the context of this thread, it is hard to see these comments as being aimed at anyone but me. Granted, you could have just popped in out of the blue with a random thought; but I think, if we are both honest, despite qualifying your statement with words like "usually" and "often" they are intended for me.
"I have often noticed that the people who are truly unusual rarely go out of their way to call attention to their uniqueness ."
Look at the context. WTF had leveled ad hominem attacks indicating that I was using money to buy myself freedom from guilt, etc. That's pretty nasty. Especially as his attacks were in response to his ASSuME-ing that I had made attacks that I had not.
Rather than lashing back at him, I did the civilized thing and called myself weird. In essence, I blamed MYSELF for his attack. I wasn't trying to call attention to uniqueness, but rather to be nice.
Then you come along and interpret my self-deprecating attempt to excuse WTFs attacks by blaming myself as ... what? My being mundane?
But ... let me ask, is there any way in which you attempt to distinguish yourself from other providers in your marketing? Make yourself unique? Or do you say: "I'm identical to all the other ladies except I charge more?" Well, using your logic, if you DO attempt to distinguish yourself, that only proves how very ordinary you are.
On the contrary, I think you are quite unique, your marketing reflects that, and it works. If it didn't work, you'd be charging a lot less.
"The same thing goes for people who are extremely intelligent They are often the ones who are able to relate to others on just about any level without any need to make anyone feel like they are less than them."
I certainly didn't try to make anyone feel somehow "less" than me.
WTF stated that I tried to make people feel special via money. Again, something pretty nasty.
I responded with the other things I actually have done. Now, to me, these are ordinary everyday things. The fact that others interpret it as bragging is not my problem. Nothing in that list is extraordinary except for maybe the fact I'm a nice guy. But there are lots of nice guys.
Interestingly, you build a paradox into this. That is, if anyone misunderstands me, it is automatically due to my own intellectual deficiencies.
Fine. By your standard, if I have misunderstood YOU, it can only be because you aren't very bright. Do you see the fallacy of this? Maybe, if I misunderstand you, there are a thousands other explanations besides your own deficiencies. Maybe it is my own fault if I misunderstand. Just sayin'.
"It is usually the people who are insecure about these issues who need to build themselves up by seperating themselves from others."
Please note that my responses on issues of self esteem were in response to an attack by WTF stating that I was trying to buy self-esteem.
In other words, Becky -- I didn't gratuitously initiate that data. It was all in response to WTF's presumably good-natured ad-hominem attacks.
The nature and tone of my responses was intended to keep it light and keep it topical.
Now I don't think you are a bad person or WTF is a bad person. I'm sure you are perfectly fine people.
But between you and WTF portraying me as a guilt-ridden, insecure, self-worthless, unintelligent, mundane person who is trying to buy self-respect; I find it extremely ironic that you don't see it as trying to make me feel myself to be less than you.
Again, I don't really mind -- I see it all as good clean fun. But I really was surprised to hear from you in this way; because my evaluation of your fair-mindedness wouldn't have allowed for you to be engaging in public shaming of a guy who was merely trying to good-naturedly defend himself from hopefully good-natured ad hominem attacks.
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I doubt she was talking about you. My guess it was just a general statement. Or it could of been directed at me! lol Who knows but her statement had soundness so if you won't have a guilty conscious over it, I sure as hell won't either.
We are having clean good-natured ad-hominem attacks in this thread. We'll not have one rotten vagina ruin our thread!
