How discreet...

[Eva Damita]

Originally Posted by theCFE

I suppose you guys could do something wacky like visit with a well-established, well-respected provider who does have something to lose, such as her reputation - and therefore, her business. There may be crazy civilians out there who will stalk you, but I would imagine most professional providers are just happy you are not a crazy stalker. Believe it or not, that's a far greater concern for us, if for no other reason than the law of averages - the higher the volume, the higher the probability. Then there's the concern of violence, robbing, and entrapment. Like most of you gentlemen, I have a LOT to lose. Most of these ladies do. Some of them are no doubt inviting strangers into their home. How many of you anti-screeners are willing to do that? I'm sure you're aware of the risks involved, but there are risks on both sides. I may be biased, but I see more risks on our side. You may lose a job or family; we may lose those things, plus our life.

Thanks for giving them some enlightenment. And its always important to research and connect w other hobbyists. Were hookers, not your girlfriend, you PAY us to leave you alone - not bitch and nag. Yea, shit happens, but c'mon, you're not that special.

[MagnificMedia]

Originally Posted by Ansley

Never underestimate the power of a "well reviewed" provider to wreak havoc with your livelihood.

Leave it to ANSLEY to throw her fellow providers under the bus! ( funny she has all of 2 reviews in several years of being on the board so I am not sure that makes her qualified to even talk about a "Well Reviewed Provider )

Originally Posted by theCFE

There's a difference between "well-reviewed," and "well-respected..." The first has to do with what's between her legs, the second has to do with what's between her ears. Most ladies who have been around a while understand that messing with one man's livelihood has the effect of messing with her own. Generally, the ladies who are very cautious with their own safety will be more discreet and cautious about your safety as well. You can often read posts and judge who will be more likely to value discretion.

+ 1 CFE

[Col. Zodiak]

Interesting.............

[innovation]

Not everyone asks for employment verifications. I will stick with them. There are no such thing as reputable providers. I think knowing some of the providers like Virginia love and holly from the past and ruby, has defined the word reputable and addictive. I will stick with the few I know.

[Glynette]

Really? No such thing? Could you elaborate?

[LexusLover]

Originally Posted by theCFE

As a provider who does accept employment verification for newbies, I often wonder what causes this fear...

Other providers (and "managers") who are not as "discrete" (actually respectful) as you.

That's why I don't do reviews. Too many posters want to "ID" people.

[LexusLover]

Originally Posted by fire10

Just wondering if anyone else is the same boat of being super discreet due to employment reasons?

Join P411.

[Wakeup]

Tia...you might want to take your idiotic fight club shit somewhere else...get me?

[Mojojo]

Originally Posted by MagnificMedia

Leave it to ANSLEY to throw her fellow providers under the bus! ( funny she has all of 2 reviews in several years of being on the board so I am not sure that makes her qualified to even talk about a "Well Reviewed Provider )

Lets go ahead and NOT bring this conflict here please.

[StinkyFingers]

Here's how I got started ... might work for you.

I did a lot of research on 3 Providers that I was interested in seeing. I read all of their reviews and posts to make sure there was no hint of drama. Their reviews were stellar and their personal websites were very well done. Everything about them rang out as a true professional in any line of business.

I did my initial contact by e-mail. I arranged a first meeting as a dinner date. Made reservations at a nice restaurant under an agreed-upon name. The agreement was that the Provider would show up at the restaurant and I would already be seated. She could inquire where I was seated, check me out, and then decide whether she would join me for dinner or not. We exchanged information over dinner.

Low risk, only ONE person knew about me the information they required for their purposes, no more, no less. And, I was comfortable with the information I gave them. If I got any bad vibes over dinner, I could choose what I wanted to disclose and what I wanted to hold back.

Since she had a stellar reputation within the community, when I wanted a reference, she was happy to comply. She also introduced me to a couple of her friends in the biz. Before you know it, I had excellent references and only had to reveal exactly the info I was comfortable with. No CC trail at P411, work references, etc.

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by fire10

Just wondering if anyone else is the same boat of being super discreet due to employment reasons? I find it hard to give up my info knowing it can be found easier than most. It's mostly why I stay in the amps.

There are a few girls I've talked to but to no avail. Just curious how y'all handled giving up your info.

Continue to download porn is your best option. Oh and do not use your company laptop. They track your movements.

[klutz]

Originally Posted by MagnificMedia

Leave it to ANSLEY to throw her fellow providers under the bus! ( funny she has all of 2 reviews in several years of being on the board so I am not sure that makes her qualified to even talk about a "Well Reviewed Provider )

Nice bump

[MagnificMedia]

Originally Posted by Col. Zodiak

Interesting.............

Originally Posted by mojojo213

Lets go ahead and NOT bring this conflict here please.

Sorry MoJoJo and Col Z,
I just wanted to give you mods an example of the difference between starting crap and responding to crap.
This one was a start on my part. As I explained to Col Z. I am only defending myself in the business forum. She attacks me constantly in the business forum.
This was an example of going after someone...WHICH I HAVE NEVER DONE TO ANYONE BEFORE!

Sorry but I was trying to make a point.
{Although I do believe she did throw providers under bus.}
I am done with this.....really

[StinkyFingers]

Originally Posted by theCFE

There's a difference between "well-reviewed," and "well-respected..." The first has to do with what's between her legs, the second has to do with what's between her ears. Most ladies who have been around a while understand that messing with one man's livelihood has the effect of messing with her own. Generally, the ladies who are very cautious with their own safety will be more discreet and cautious about your safety as well. You can often read posts and judge who will be more likely to value discretion.

Great advice and so true: Lay down with dogs, wake up with fleas.

OP: CFE is an LMT, perhaps she would see you on a straight massage basis if you ask nicely. Just a thought.

[chicagoboy]

Originally Posted by MagnificMedia

I am done with this.....really

... unless, of course, somebody posts more "crap", in which case MM will feel honor-bound to get the last word in.