SUGAR BABY Suicide Threats - LONG

[Guest052616]

Originally Posted by thebuffmantraples

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Theres ladies of all ages that pull this trick. I'm not saying its always a stick up but it happens.
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I see it all the time...ive seen chicks who claim "cancer" at least every 2-3 months. The "im about to lose my home" each month.... while 1 out of 10 may be true... majority is BS. Ive also heard stories of girls threatening suicide.. but most wont give u a heads up if they really mean it. You can call a 3rd party but im sure she will deny. If you help her out.. she will never learn. If guys would stop bailing the repeaters out.. then they will learn to manage money better!
I have my bills paid in advance, yet pay them on time like im not ahead. I cannot predict the future. We may have a blizzard and be snowed in for weeks... so im prepared for that "Rainy or snowy"day.

[chipjeep]

I have fallen victim (in the past) to 2 women who seemed to be in a constant state of financial distress even though they both made more in an average week than I did. Sad thing is I gave extra $ in their 'time of need'. Surprise, surprise the crisis never ended in either case.

What I learned: You can NOT buy her way out of trouble! Only she can fix that.

If you truly feel this girl is capable of suicide, do contact someone with the capability to follow up. Then walk away! Any deeper involvement in her world will only make YOU suicidal and/or broke.

[roaringfork]

Biggest threat I ever got was that her phone would be deactivated in a couple of days if I didn't help pay the bill. (Come to think of it, maybe the loss of cell phone service is considered the contemporary equivalent of death....)

[Mr MojoRisin]

Originally Posted by OTTER7001

Thanks. Never saw the ones that did. I have told her about the friends I have lost and she knows I am ultra sensitive about this so I tend to agree she is seeking sympathy and money.

Hmmm. She knows your sensitive about suicide. Maybe that's a button she's trying to push. That's dam insensitive.


Jim

[normalguy21]

Originally Posted by OTTER7001

I started a SB/SD relationship in October 2013 with a girl who lived in my town. She was going to the local College in my town and got pregnant by her boyfriend who lived 1.5 hours away and dropped out of College, but remained in my town and I took care of her for the next 8 months. We grew close and I developed feelings for her and vice versa. During this I paid her rent, car payment etc.

During the 9th month she decided to move closer to home to be around family and got back with her Baby Daddy. We still communicated, but didn't see each other. She broke up with her Baby Daddy again and is now behind on her bills and is begging me to help her, but I really don't feel the need to help her...that's not the question.

She is two months behind on her car payment, lost her car insurance and other bills are mounting up and she is stressing out. Her family is just as borke as she is so they can't help financially. Since I won't help her with her bills she is threatening suicide if her car gets repo'd.

My question is: should I notify her mother through Facebook and let her know her daughter is threatening suicide or just mind my own Business? I do care for her but I'm not real sure she will commint suicide, but having lost 5-6 friends due to suicide I'm not sure if this is a cry for help or trying to extort/bluff money from me. Any suggestions?

My first question to you would be Do you know of any history of her attempting harm to her self? Is she on meds already ? Street drugs? Are really just overwhelmed ? If she has had suicide attempts before -------only 2 things that make sense here guy. A Severance package and bail out the plane with your chute on. Are get her some mental help and be prepared to be the bad guy in her eyes. But what the hell do i know ? I think i have a BI Polar magnet in my pocket and those are the 2 ways they have always played out for me

[Monica187]

Originally Posted by roaringfork

Biggest threat I ever got was that her phone would be deactivated in a couple of days if I didn't help pay the bill. (Come to think of it, maybe the loss of cell phone service is considered the contemporary equivalent of death....)

Lmao that was funny

[Gotyour6]

Soooo?

Did she off herself?

[OTTER7001]

No. Just an idle threat to get money. She is still kicking and I haven't given her any money. Boy that cried wolf.

[Guest052616]

I don't understand how someone that can make $2-300 an hour can't pay their bills? I mean seriously!

[Whirlaway]

Notify thru Facebook ??????????

WTF...

If you are going to intercede either alert local authorities that she has threatened suicide and they should do a welfare check, and/or call the parents directly.

Facebook is the wrong move; and you might be opening yourself to a lawsuit for making such a statement in a quasi-public forum.

And if you do nothing ? If she is suicidal and acts, think how badly you might feel should you do nothing. But don't help with financial aid.

[clelbourne]

Man I thought I was gullable ...i feel a lot better now ...all i did was give my gal a ride literally and figuratively

[Randall Creed]

Originally Posted by Devon Derriere

I don't understand how someone that can make $2-300 an hour can't pay their bills? I mean seriously!

Well, it could depend on the NUMBER of hours they work.

Maybe they're only getting 1 appointment a week.

[Exotic Beauty]

Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

Well, it could depend on the NUMBER of hours they work.

Maybe they're only getting 1 appointment a week.

True that! Not every provider does 1-3 Appts per day 5 days a week gfe-bcd. I have however done so in massage but that's a Totally different subject.... ( then again some may I don't know thier business ) but out of all my many hobby years I've always had a career plus hobby. It confuses me when I run into hobby ladies that hobby is the only thing they have ever done in life financially. I personally believe having a job or "plan b" career or other income source is a good idea. Why not enjoy business and pleasure and make money at both when one is a Consistent income no matter what the amount the hobby and career or job can level out when one is not going the best the other is there for a solid foundation. Heck maybe even advance to something more beneficial. That doesn't mean the provider can't still hobby and live "lavish" but it's just my random thoughts....

[HoneyRose]

Originally Posted by Devon Derriere

I don't understand how someone that can make $2-300 an hour can't pay their bills? I mean seriously!

She's not a provider.

She was a girl in his town who was getting ready to start college and became his Sugar Baby.

Just because she's been someone's Sugar Baby doesn't mean she's ready to start sleeping with multiple guys at $200 to $300 per hour!

That's quite a stretch.

Anyway, she's 9 months pregnant which would be an odd time to begin a career as an escort.

[sweet.treat69]

Originally Posted by Holly Love

I don't know if agree with others saying that those who threaten, don't follow through. I know someone who threatened and did.

However, it appears she is clearly manipulating you, and using you. I agree with what others have said, who commits suicide over a car? Really? And she now has a child? I think she is playing you.

Yes, MYOB, and let her family help her mentally the best they can. THIS IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM, AND I DON'T KNOW WHY MEN CONTINUE TO TURN A BUSINESS RELATIONSHIP INTO THIS.

LISTEN VERY CLEARLY GUYS; HOOKERS, ESCORTS, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL US MAKE MORE MONEY THAN YOU. IF LADIES ARE COMING TO YOU FOR FINANCIAL HELP, THERE IS SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN, UNLESS YOU LIKE DRAMA. IT COULD BE MIS-MANAGEMENT OF MONEY OR WHATEVER, BUT THERE IS NOT EXCUSE FOR THIS BEHAVIOR EVER IMO.

Your best best, is to change your number, email, etc. Cut off contact.

Sorry girls, I don't feel sorry for a working lady in this position. What other job is there, where you can wake up flat ass broke, and make your rent in one day???

Good thread OP! And very classy & sensible reply, Holly Love!

But DON'T DO IT, OP!

The SB does not seem, IMO, to be in a drastic & dire EMOTIONAL downward spiral and at risk for suicide, but perhaps she is feeling desperate because of her financial situation and is saying any and everything to pull herself out of her black hole of debt..

Maybe because she has been away from the OP for a substantial enough amount she's realized he really contributed vastly to her finances, lifestyle, comfort of living, having to increase volume of appts, etc. But all in all, she seems to just have grown dependent on him and maybe she feels as though he will have no problem falling back into her trap & continuing to pay all her bills and then some.

Like Holly mentioned, she may have a problem managing money, or worse.. and the OP doesn't need to support something like that if she has been in & out of the picture anyway. Find someone else more consistent, with less baggage, and who maybe doesn't give you the feeling of "needing you" or that her whole world will end if you don't help her with her car bullshit. She sounds a bit immature or maybe she has simply replied on others and has been irresponsible for too long.. Let her grow up and be an adult and let her learn the hard way & maybe one day she will get it together. Just my .02