A friend thinks she wants to be a provider.

[rcinokc]

From what you've told us it sounds like she's getting into it for the same reason that they all do. They think that it's fast, easy money. Once she finds out that it really isn't she probably won't stay with it, again based on what you've told us.

[VeronicaTurbay]

be careful with that.... laws have changed and IMO not a good idea to "help" someone in this regard...


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[Levianon17]

Originally Posted by Gotyour6

Tell her you will help her out, keep her money for her and give her a little bit for food and stuff.

That's called a pimp.

[yourdesire]

Originally Posted by RetiredSubmariner

M contacted me last night. She has decided to dump her boyfriend, and she wants to start escorting.

I tried to talk her out of it, but she insists that this is her decision and this is what she wants to do.

That girl will wind up getting hurt. IMO She's not seeing the big picture. When I first started I trolled the site for 3 mos. before allowing myself to be seen. I needed to take time to study the scene and look deep within myself to make sure I could and would still love myself after doing this. If she's got the attitude it's me and what I want, she won't want to listen to anyone and she can't safely learn the ins & outs if she doesn't want to listen. How strong is she really? Does she pay attention to her surroundings? Does she know how to read body language? I'm sorry but I'm afraid she'll get hurt &/or get to know LE pretty quick. And if she won't do someone she seems to trust for $ then how is she going to handle strangers. Have you asked her if she realises an escort is another word for prostitute or if she's aware escorting is also illegal? I waited till I was 49 yrs old before I started and been loving it. Probably because I started out of want not out of financial necessity. Good luck in whatever she does.

[RetiredSubmariner]

Originally Posted by yourdesire

... When I first started I trolled the site for 3 mos. before allowing myself to be seen. I needed to take time to study the scene and look deep within myself to make sure I could and would still love myself after doing this.

Sounds like that was pretty smart.

... How strong is she really? Does she pay attention to her surroundings? Does she know how to read body language?

I have no idea.

... Have you asked her if she realises an escort is another word for prostitute or if she's aware escorting is also illegal?

Yes, she has made that connection.

An escort friend of mine, that posts here on ECCIE, I will call her 'C' [until she chooses to reveal herself], has begun talking to M.

... Good luck in whatever she does.

Thank you.

I told M that I will not date her until after she drops her bf. I do not want to deal with the drama of a jealous bf in the picture.

[yourdesire]

I just hope she's smart enough to remove her rose colored glasses before making her final decision. As I said before I think the reason I've enjoyed it so much is because I waited till way beyond my 20s and I didn't get into it out of necessity .

[RetiredSubmariner]

Originally Posted by yourdesire

I just hope she's smart enough to remove her rose colored glasses before making her final decision. As I said before I think the reason I've enjoyed it so much is because I waited till way beyond my 20s and I didn't get into it out of necessity .

Would I have your permission to use her as a Sugar Babe for a few years, instead?

[Pangolier]

Honestly I think the best thing you can do is break ties with and avoid this girl. If you tell her yes or no, then you have now played a part in her decision by providing some degree of influence. She's going to decide one way or another, even if you aren't around. You don't want that cloud hanging over you indefinitely if you suggest she do it then something goes wrong. And if you tell her not to... then there's no way of foreshadowing whether her current situation would lead to an even worse outcome. I would think there's a significant number of young women out there who might be more content having sex with strangers, than living in a dilapidated studio apartment with several roommates and barely having enough money to meet their minimal nutritional needs, and working a job they don't like. It's probably not prudent for you to recommend something then have it potentially backfire on her with repercussions.


Letting go of a "friend" might be a tough thing to do, but if you remain in contact with her, I guarantee this issue will continue to come up over and over again, even if she doesn't become a provider. Because unless she is a trust fund baby or plans on winning the lottery, she's going to have to find legit work that pays for a comfortable standard of living. And based on what you have said, her prospects for doing that at any point in the near future are negligible. If she decides to go to college, enroll in the peace corp or do something else that might improve her odds, then she may have better career options further down the road.


Honestly to me is sounds like this girl's teen years were not very well planned or productive. There's probably some other underlying interpersonal issue that has led her to this place. She likely needs to address that before it starts having negative impacts on all areas of her life.

[bill sins]

Aren't you making more of this than it really is? She is a screwed up young lady who has failed at most everything. So in need of a career and cash turns to fucking for dollars. Pretty simple as minimum skills and training required. Stay un fat shaved and clean. Pick your clients, anybody or decline certain races or age groups. Advertise, go to it, and enjoy the new life the earned cash provides. And you are just a dirty old man trying to get into that young pussy.

[Lester Krinklesac]

Tell her to begin by going to support groups and counseling for ex sex workers.
If she still wants to do it, let her, don’t help her.
This is a decision that should, and can be made by only one person.
Oneself

[Guest030824]

Please connect her to a young provider that has her shit together.In the past I was with a young lady that got in over her head and wound up stranded in DFW with a baby because some bitch sold her a bill of goods. The gal that transported her down here took her computer and was booking dates for her. If your young lady has some good advice from a working provider she may avoid the pitfalls that others go thru.

[RetiredSubmariner]

Originally Posted by tucson

Please connect her to a young provider that has her shit together.
...

Oh, I did. Previously in this thread I called her 'C', she is an escort who is active on ECCIE.

C and M have been having conversation for weeks now.

[Cougarlicious]

Omg this thread Needs My Help. Poor girl. I am going to put my 2 cent know it all advice on how its really sopposed to be done,Going way back in My experience in 2001.

Rule #1 Get into a strip club, start waitressing first and foremost/ Get to know the environment, business and drum up personal relationships with customers and learn from dancers IN THE CLUB.

Rule #2 she will start feeling body confident and happy seeing the young dancers she has made as friends in the club to want to try it out herself
and management will strongly encourage the enthusiasm for her dance

Rule #3 Shes Dancing now, Congratulations look at her go!! My she has picked up some pole tricks and can be a real crowd pleaser. She is now making money, now setting her own schedules AND She can be happy playing in a very safe environment. anyone touches her during VIP and shes creeped out, Whack A mole, here comes the bouncers for her protection
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Rule #4 Dont ever encourage a young lady anything she may not feel comfortable with, Submarine looks like your friend C needs to take my advice and put her in another what I call BABY STEP Direction, because I feel this lady is giving the wrong advice to a much younger generation

Bottom Line, if this young lady feels strong and confident enough and LEARNS the in and outs just by club dancing and taking just about everything off in an establishment just for that, She MAY OR MAY NOT choose to escort, which let me tell all yall I am 41 years old I started Escorting when Escorting was a difference betweeen Prostition at 23 years old, Jesus Christ how times have changed it since 09, then she will come to either liking the club and making her own money and schedule or learn it from a co worker like in Players Club to go out and do whats Called BOOKINGS.

This is what I did at 22 years old and how I started. You baby step before you jump in the water with sharks AND WITH THE WAY THINGS ARE NOW IN 2019-2020, well ladies we all know what the deal is now...js
Cougar xo

[Jackie S]

Originally Posted by Gotyour6

Tell her you will help her out, keep her money for her and give her a little bit for food and stuff.

LOL

Sounds like two career opportunities are opening up.

[Guest030824]

Cougar you have the best advice yet You have experiance that she should follow.