Providing is a lonely Job

[Guests021916]

Alyssa, I received pm's from ladies saying they appreciated someone getting it. I made the statement that "one coat does not fit all" Clearly it does not apply to you.
I wasn't looking for provider "atta boys" at most I wanted to share some thoughts I had based on some conversations I have had with providers. I should have thought this through a bit more before posting. I withdraw the topic.....

[Prime Time]

I'll sacrifice loneliness for 100,000 tax free dollars a year.

[75Murray]

Being lonely or being successful is hard to define. It is open to how a person defines those terms. There are many personality types also. I am an introvert so I never feel lonely or alone. Someone who is the exact opposite of me needs people and feeds off their energy. Too much interaction drains me and I need quiet time. Each person is different and many time a mixture of both personalities!

[dallaswill]

Originally Posted by diddleman

Right Planojim, One coat does not fit all. Sorry I opened the topic. I wanted the guys to be more thoughtful about the ladies. It seems I am border line offensive. Sorry,, thought withdrawn....

I think diddleman's heart was in the right place. The problem with emails, texts, PM's is we miss full understanding of what is said due to the lack of voice inflection, facial expressions, tone, etc. The printed words can take many different meanings and be taken the wrong way.

I do not feel sorry for the ladies as AM mentioned. I feel empathy and compassion for someone I had a wonderful intimate relationship with. A guy offering a considerate act after BCD fun is just being a nice person and obviously thinking highly enough of the lady to want to treat her as good as he can.

I hope the ladies don't take it the wrong way when we try to be nice to them. Please don't punish us for trying to be gentlemen and for knowing how to treat a lady.

I am dropping the discussion as well.

[Alyssa Marie]

Confused.. If someone disagrees with a comment are we to not reply?
This is a discussion board.
No one said anyone was right or anyone was wrong.
We were discussing a topic.

I said no one said that you aren't justified in writing your post. I wish you wouldn't take replies that you aren't expecting so serious.

It's one topic.

If someone next asks a general question.. Should no one reply unless they agree?

Sorry this went so serious..

[Guest100514]

Originally Posted by diddleman

After being in the hobby a while I have gotten to know some of the ladies pretty well. I really like these gals and admire their street smarts and companion skills. They often have good gift of gab and a sense of humor.
A lot of these gals spend a lot of time alone. They go to a strange city and wait for
clients. They have a hard time being friends with other providers for many reasons. They can't share what they do with family or old friends. When the do it often back fires on them. They can't be friends with clients too much. It gets tricky and cost income.
It seems odd that a person that makes their living being a companion is
really kind of alone. I do know that they help me be a little less lonely.

This post, which was so very kind of you, definitely hit a nerve with me. While I have many friends and would not consider myself lonely, there are things that I wish I could talk about with others, that I just can't with the people I am "closest" with. Things that happen during appointments that bother me.
I appreciate that you acknowledge what some of us hold back.

[samantha thom]

On a lighter note, maybe working graveyard shift in a mortuary is the loneliest job. LOLOLOL!!!

[planojim]

Could be Samantha! However I hear that people are just 'dying' to be their customer.

Originally Posted by samantha thom

On a lighter note, maybe working graveyard shift in a mortuary is the loneliest job. LOLOLOL!!!

[dallaswill]

Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie

Confused.. If someone disagrees with a comment are we to not reply?
This is a discussion board.
No one said anyone was right or anyone was wrong.
We were discussing a topic.

I said no one said that you aren't justified in writing your post. I wish you wouldn't take replies that you aren't expecting so serious.

It's one topic.

If someone next asks a general question.. Should no one reply unless they agree?

Sorry this went so serious..

You did not reference my comments, but I wanted to say was I was out of the discussion because it has been covered enuf. I meant no negativity to anyone. I am good. We had nice discourse, all good comments, etc. For what it is worth I have assisted on a couple autopsies, and yes, it is pretty lonely. With good thoughts to all, especially the HOT BABES!

[Alyssa Marie]

I would wager that a toll booth collector must get pretty bored...

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by planojim

Could be Samantha! However I hear that people are just 'dying' to be their customer.

Hahahahaha!!!! That's so funny, Jim!!!! Like the movie "Nightwatch"…it's pretty creepy!!!

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by Alyssa Marie

I would wager that a toll booth collector must get pretty bored...

I know, right??? Sounds pretty boring. There's a guy by where I live who holds promotion sign in a street corner 8 hours a day…rain or shine. I feel sorry for him. Must be very boring and lonely…and not making much money. :-(

[peevee0931]

im always lonely

[lily blake]

Originally Posted by 75Murray

Being lonely or being successful is hard to define. It is open to how a person defines those terms. There are many personality types also. I am an introvert so I never feel lonely or alone. Someone who is the exact opposite of me needs people and feeds off their energy. Too much interaction drains me and I need quiet time. Each person is different and many time a mixture of both personalities!

This is exactly me.. ive had to sadly cut off some clients because I started getting drained, was no longer worth the money.

[Taylor Sims]

The life I have in Dallas and on the road is so different then being home. I do not have pets for a couple of reasons. I do not want pet dander in my apartment or incall because a gentleman maybe allergic and also do not want pet fur to get on him. I also keep to myself a lot when I am in Dallas or on the road. It does get lonely for me in ways and when you find yourself sick and just wish someone would bring you a bowl of soup but you look around and think whom. No matter at this moment in my life where I live at in Dallas it will not be home to me.

I love going home because that is where my heart is at along with my friends and family.