What "Clicking" Tips Do You Have?

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by shorty

Valerie is right of course. Always take the time to talk to the ladies and get to know her alittle bit. Gents do need to be open minded all the time with the ladies. I doubt most ladies like it when the gent comes in and doesn't say anything and gets naked.

I can't speak for others, but I sure don't like that...too robotic and awkward!

Originally Posted by Jusanotherdude

There it is! Spot on post right there.........

And allow me to add, that in general overly High expectations will almost always result in a letdown in some form or another....... so there in lies the point of "come in with an open mind".........


JaD

When I say open mind I mean it in the sense that, don't come in thinking the session is just going to be rushed, fake, or any of the negative things that some associate with an escort...There are some of us who actually enjoy what we do

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

That's pretty hard for a shy, nervous guy like me to accomplish.
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Charlie, I definitely understand how you feel, you wouldn't believe the amount of first time clients I've had who were scared to death, completely nervous and on edge, but with the combination of having done this a while/and my personality, I know how to handle those situations....

As I said earlier, sitting down having a drink and a chat is very important, even more so with the shy guys...Everyone has something that interests them, including shy ones, so I try and pick their brains a bit to find a common ground and then take it from there...I also don't take myself too seriously, I love to goof off with my clients and have fun...Some of my shy clients have told me that I have a calming effect, I also tend to take things a bit slower with them as well. I just want them to be as comfortable as possible and I wont stop until I feel I've succeeded!

[Jusanotherdude]

Originally Posted by Valerie

When I say open mind I mean it in the sense that, don't come in thinking the session is just going to be rushed, fake, or any of the negative things that some associate with an escort...There are some of us who actually enjoy what we do

I knew what you meant by it...... I was just making sure everyone else did too........ expectations can be your own worst enemy sometimes.......


JaD

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by Jusanotherdude

I knew what you meant by it...... I was just making sure everyone else did too........ expectations can be your own worst enemy sometimes.......


JaD

Yep!...Especially if a guy booked some crackhead off backpage using fake pictures of Pam Anderson from 10 years ago!......I doubt his expectations would be met!

[wildwooly1]

Well speaking for myself im a real shy guy until i get to know you so i try to do a lot of research on the lady and find out what her likes are and I always bring a gift to every session ..I think a gift is a good ice breaker and it also shows the lady your not some cheap bastard just out to get hisself off and that he wants to get to know her .
I love talking to each lady to find her different type personality because some are very open and flirty and some are just down to business.
I usually try to find out where she is from and how she got into the business and what makes her like what she does.
I prefer a 2 hour session so you have time to talk and get comfortable with each other and joke around a bit and that way nobody feels rushed.
Then after you BS a little bit and find out what each other is all about you can get down to business at hand.
If i really enjoy a lady im not worried about sex and if i just sat around talked to her becuase i was interested in her and played touchy feely im a happy guy. Its sort of like the chase when your dating someone but with a provider you know its a done deal so dont try to push it ..just enjoy the lady for what she is !

[atlcomedy]

Originally Posted by wildwooly1

Well speaking for myself im a real shy guy until i get to know you so i try to do a lot of research on the lady and find out what her likes are and I always bring a gift to every session ..I think a gift is a good ice breaker and it also shows the lady your not some cheap bastard just out to get hisself off and that he wants to get to know her .
I love talking to each lady to find her different type personality because some are very open and flirty and some are just down to business.
I usually try to find out where she is from and how she got into the business and what makes her like what she does.
I prefer a 2 hour session so you have time to talk and get comfortable with each other and joke around a bit and that way nobody feels rushed.
Then after you BS a little bit and find out what each other is all about you can get down to business at hand.
If i really enjoy a lady im not worried about sex and if i just sat around talked to her becuase i was interested in her and played touchy feely im a happy guy. Its sort of like the chase when your dating someone but with a provider you know its a done deal so dont try to push it ..just enjoy the lady for what she is !

1) Gifts of nominal value as icebreaker...great

2) Asking her how/why she got into the biz....kinda awkward for some...some don't want to talk about it

3) Longer sessions in general facilitate comfort and in turn "clicking"

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

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2) Asking her how/why she got into the biz....kinda awkward for some...some don't want to talk about it

Ditto!

I had a guy ask me this during a session and I immediately thought he was a cop. He was asking a LOT of questions. Turned out he was just nosy and really was curious. Today he's my CPA

Yeah don't ask that question on the first date!

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

That's pretty hard for a shy, nervous guy like me to accomplish.

Originally Posted by London Rayne

Charles..shy? Say it isin't so.

I know, it's easier to say than believe, but I'm very different in person than on the boards.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I know, it's easier to say than believe, but I'm very different in person than on the boards.

I can see that. Alot of us are...

[London Rayne]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I know, it's easier to say than believe, but I'm very different in person than on the boards.

I think we all are.

[pjorourke]

Originally Posted by London Rayne

I think we all are.

Not so much.

[John Bull]

GeeWillikers Charles! I'm gone for a little while and your avatar goes to hell in a handbasket.
PJ, you must straighten him out!!

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by John Bull

GeeWillikers Charles! I'm gone for a little while and your avatar goes to hell in a handbasket.
PJ, you must straighten him out!!

Hey JB!.....I've been on him all day to please change it, I even uploaded photos for him to choose from and everything...but he's being a bit stubborn!

[Valerie]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

I know, it's easier to say than believe, but I'm very different in person than on the boards.

I can most definitely believe that

[Guest082824]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

So, what tips do you suggest for finding out whether or not you'd "click" with a certain lady?

Conversate with her via PM/emails/texts...sometimes board persona's and posting style's can be misleading

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Or, in the alternative, how do you find ladies with whom you might "click" who don't put their personas out there anyplace?

Invite her to lunch, just lunch. Attend some socials...

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Finally, maybe I should ask: is ECCIE the best discussion board or are there better ones? I guess you'd have to PM me on this answer due to the rules.

That depends on where you are...in TX I would say yes, other places not so much.

[Ansley]

Originally Posted by pjorourke

Not so much.

I agree with you PJ. Most of the people that I have met from eccie have had pretty much the same personalities in person. I have tried to treat this board as if I was out in public. I'm not shy, but I am a bit reserved for the simple fact I don't like to attract attention.