hey, girls...here's a question....

[Daphne-Hart]

I don't list my phone number because I do not pay close attention to my hobby phone unless I have appts scheduled, and I don't want anyone who isn't a member to be able to contact my number.

In regards to PMs, I used to receive a PM with refs and phone numbers. I would send out the reference requests to the ladies and if I didn't hear back from anyone, then I didn't reply to the member to set up an appt. I learned early on that this was a bad business choice, so I always reply to say 'hey I got your refs and am checking them, will reply to set up appt when they get back to me.'

I completely understand why courtesy replies are important, and that they make me stand out as a provider with good "TCB". I do sometime turn my phone on and have 15 missed texts from clients who know me and if its not during regular business hours (like Mon-Fri 8am-5pm) I pm them to say hey I got your text, not sure if its safe to reply, but heres my response. Otherwise, if it is likely they are at work and not with their SO, I reply just to apologize for not getting back to them sooner. Sometimes its days later, and I know that makes me look lazy, but hey we all have lives outside this, and I anticipate my clients understanding.

[john_deere]

Originally Posted by brielovesyou

A job or children is not an excuse and many clients have asked not to be contacted back if they dont get a response at first thus our reasoning. Y not talk to the provider in ur text or pm n say its okay to contact back instead of attacking the providers. By letting them know its okay to contact back mayb u would get a response explaining the inability to answer at that moment. Communication is key on both ends. We all have lives and schedules on both ends of the hobby respect for each other should be a must

i'm not attacking anybody...it's a conversation. and, i do exactly as you suggest. i always let girls know that it's fine to contact me, because...again....it's MY responsibility.

as for excuses...here's how i define that....if you know it's happening, or likely to happen, and it causes someone else a problem....it's an excuse. let me explain...

say your boss asks why you're late and you blame it on traffic. sorry...that's an excuse. you go the same route to the same job every day....you know and should allow for conditions. now, if there was an accident that blocked traffic and made you late...that's not an excuse, it's a reason.

[john_deere]

Originally Posted by Daphne-Hart

I don't list my phone number because I do not pay close attention to my hobby phone unless I have appts scheduled, and I don't want anyone who isn't a member to be able to contact my number.

In regards to PMs, I used to receive a PM with refs and phone numbers. I would send out the reference requests to the ladies and if I didn't hear back from anyone, then I didn't reply to the member to set up an appt. I learned early on that this was a bad business choice, so I always reply to say 'hey I got your refs and am checking them, will reply to set up appt when they get back to me.'

I completely understand why courtesy replies are important, and that they make me stand out as a provider with good "TCB". I do sometime turn my phone on and have 15 missed texts from clients who know me and if its not during regular business hours (like Mon-Fri 8am-5pm) I pm them to say hey I got your text, not sure if its safe to reply, but heres my response. Otherwise, if it is likely they are at work and not with their SO, I reply just to apologize for not getting back to them sooner. Sometimes its days later, and I know that makes me look lazy, but hey we all have lives outside this, and I anticipate my clients understanding.

this is the difference between a professional and....everybody else.

[brielovesyou]

Ur initial post is confrontational that's y I said attacking the providers. My kid n my job r never an excuse but a fact of life. Just like when some one has to cancel due to family or job I'm always understanding those r those persons priorities not an excuse. I always do all that I can to communicate to all those who contact me but shit happens. This post is really starting to sound like marriage counseling if it doesn't work one day there's always tomorrow

[thirdchild]

No one is glued to their phone 24-7. When I have a client, my phone stays in the living room, ringer turned off. When I am free to check it, that's when I respond to texts, calls etc. Guys...if you call and don't leave a voicemail...I never know whether to call you back or not. I have had a few run -ins with pissed off wives before. I tell my clients that I DO NOT call them unless I am told that it is safe to do so. So, no voicemail, no call back unless you're already saved in my phone, and I know it's safe.

Another thing about call backs...some of you leave a number and a voice mail saying to call you back, and when we do...you have no mailbox set up and so we can't even leave a message!

As for a text, what I answer with depends on how long it has been since the text was sent to me. You might just get a 'hey' if it's been an hour or longer. 'Hey' is always safe, because I get random wrong number texts quite often.

Now, you all know that I take my mom to all her appts, and so if you call me, and I am with her, I will probably not answer, but I'll text you and tell you I am with mom and can't talk out loud. So far, this has worked out well for all involved.

I find if I treat you well, I get treated well in return. It's called manners and common courtesy. Not to mention, good ol' common sense!

As far as BP, you all know that's my major source of income. It has it's drawbacks like every other site I post on, including this one. You have to kiss a lot of toads, sometimes. In BP's ( and my) defense...I have met some of my best, and longest lasting clients there. And some of the worst! BUT>>>I have also had a few lemons from right here on this board. So, it's YMMV with all sites.

Can't we all just try to get along? Can't we all take it with a grain of salt, and take the other person's life into consideration? I've been called at 3 am and was told that as long as he was paying me, I had to do what he said. THAT was a very short conversation, to say the least!

We all have lives. Families. Obligations. I would never, ever call you at dinner with the SO and get mad because you won't run over to see me. We may be escorts, but we are human beings FIRST. Yes, this is our business and our livelihood, but hell, y'all, even Walmart closes 1 day a year! Give us a break!

And, last but not least, let's talk about no call no shows...getting stood up is my MAJOR pet peeve. If you stand me up, I will not give you a second chance.
All I ask is a 2 word text...a 2 second call..."not coming". I don't need a reason, I don't require a note from your mom. Just a "not coming" is fine, then I can get on with something else. Laundry, dinner, another client...MY LIFE!

So, see, it's not all cut and dried. I know y'all want to think we keep our phones in our bras , breathless, waiting for your call...and while that is mostly true, it's not very practical, lol

LIFE HAPPENS! Deal with it!

Ok, that's my 2 cents worth...

Let's play safe and sane...

love y'all!

xoxoxoxo...............Sammmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm:cupidarr ow:

[cactusjuice5]

But do I have to say when I am coming? That seems so porno cliche

[Lucky Lady]

I know for myself it is hard for me to check daily but that will be solved in the next week or so..I am sorrry for this issue but will be fixed and my schedule is tight but I am doing my best to see ya'll!! Sometimes it is better to be understanding then to be understood..

[cason25]

I have just always figured if a gentleman is serious about an appointment if he dosent hear from me he will at least try again. Now I could be doing things wrong and I'm not opposed to learning a better way, ever. But I do pride myself on not intruding on anyone's personal space and time. And over time I've learned to never take things personal. There is no way any (that I know of) can keep up with EVERY inquiry. I would never sleep, eat, have time with my family, or have any time away from my phone let alone have any time for appointments. I generally do try to respond to everyone in a timely manner but I don't think anyone should take it personally if I'm having a me day or family time or in session and don't respond bc believe it or not us girls or at least myself, try to accommodate, correspond, and take care of every client and or potential client but at times we too are human and have to take a deep breath and turn the phone off for a few hours. For me, I will every so often, take a couple hour break from any correspondence at all. If I didn't I'd go crazy and I for sure wouldn't be as patient, caring and accommodating as I'd at least like to think I am.

I agree with brielovesyou, if you are not a regular we don't know if it's ok to text or call you back, be specific if you know for sure you want an appointment and it's ok to contact you back. It's just a mutual respect thing, it really is. I know my phone will go off at times that is inappropriate or inconvenient for me, that's just how it is, at theese times I put my family and what I'm doing in my personal life first.