A funny thing happened to me recently on a visit back home. Before I left I placed an ad on a popular dating site in my home country, complete with profile and recent photo. I just wanted a nice change and go on a regular date with a European woman. True to form as I'm a decent looking bloke and in good shape I got many replies. Once over there I contacted one lady and she seemed very nice and eager to meet me. Our second phone conversation she made an interesting request, and it went like this........her words, not mine..."And once we meet there will be no hot sex on the first date!! OK?" and I replied, tongue in cheek, "No problem, but what about the second date?" She replied.."We'll see, and we can discuss it later!!!" Hmmmm That's what I anticipated she would say, and it warmed the cockles of my heart with aplomb. I couldn't stop laughing!! And she didn't disappoint. Can you imagine THAT happening in the US??? No fricking way Hoss!! But read on....
It's a divisive topic. One that creates a definite opinion and probably won't
win me many friends. Sometimes the truth hits the spot but I've done more than my fair share of dating, mostly via dating sites. Most gals here aren't worth a second look.
I've been ridiculed and accused of being "desperate" for using such sites. I've been looked down upon because I don't have a profession that fits the "image mold" I'm a trucker.
And yet the more I meet ladies here, in Texas, the more I realized that most of them have nothing to offer me, not just a sexy persona, but their intellect is sadly lacking. Underestimate me at your peril, because some of us guys are much too smart to reflect the job we possess. I don't care how many degrees you've got. Makes no difference. Most of you just can't cut the mustard. Stop making excuses that you've been burned! We've all been there....Hello!!
I'm from a prominent European country, lived here 26 yrs, California, Florida and now Texas. Sorry to say but European gals have got you American gals beat, hands down. American guys who spend time in Europe have got it made and I tell you now. No question, because I've seen it first hand. Flash that American twang and the European gals melt into oblivion. Sex?? No problem. Let's go. American chicks use sex as a weapon and are way too prissy and prudish for my taste, so more often than not, I walk away and as I do so I proclaim......NEXT!!
So, what I look for is an American gal with a European influence or traits. I won't explain what I mean here, but it's a gut feeling, and it reveals itself pretty early in the process. They are a rarity but a definite possibility, because I've found them in the past. But both sides, male and female play games, that's just the nature of the culture here. European gals tend not to do such things and are much more direct and upfront. If they like you, you're in business. I haven't the foggiest idea what American gals really want because their game playing is just an irritating distraction. Insecurity is a funny thing and rears it's ugly head in many ways.
My advice/input the guys is........stop paying for expensive dinners, you try too hard. Stop being a "wuss" and show them what a true man is all about. If you think you will get her in the sack by flashing money, you are kidding yourself. I make them earn my interest and company by being respectful and that attraction is a mutual thing, not one sided. I don't have time to waste and play stupid banal games. If the attraction is there then everything will follow including hot delicious SEX!! Thus, I don't chase. If she's interested then she will have to show it and show it fast otherwise I just move on. Everything within the annals of the meet has to be of a mutual enjoyment,and interest, pure and simple. If that doesn't work, then there are plenty more fish in the sea. Just proclaim....NEXT!!
And no, I'm not naive... but I'm not jaded or bitter either.
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