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Iaintliein · 10-27-2010, 09:44 PM

A provider can pretend for an hour that it isn't about the money. A wife, maybe 5 minutes, 10 at the outside.

Just called mine to say I was a little blue and depressed, bam, 30 seconds, "have you done this, and this , and this yet?" Thirty seconds tops after almost two weeks apart.

Sure we love 'em, like moths love candle flames.

GreyWolfe · 10-27-2010, 10:41 PM

Thanks for your thoughts ladies. I can really relate to this. I love my wife dearly but the thrill is long gone in the bedroom. She will usually "do her duty" when I want but I have no interest in having her "do her duty." It sounds strange, but I hobby out of respect for her. I guess there is a reason you all offer GFE and not WE (wife experience).

Black Sedan · 10-27-2010, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by M A X

I think there are many ladies here who should get a psychologist degree without ever having to go to college....'-)

In my not so humble opinion, most ladies who do achieve a psychology degree have a lot in common with providers.

At least in my experience... With those ladies... Who aren't providers, but... they seek out the psychology degree to try to sort out their deep emotional issues.

Way to accidentally hit the nail on the head, M A X.

Rosiedaie · 10-28-2010, 12:02 AM

You are 100 percent correct. Many of my men are married and even mention it to me once they become a regular client and we get into talking more after our sessions.

Many seem to crave some physical and emotional touch to their body and soul which they are lacking at home.

xoxoxo,

Rosiedaie
www.rosiedaie.escort-site.com

Guest030521 · 10-28-2010, 12:18 AM

Wow this is a great thread. I, as well, see many gents that are married. When asked why they hobby the response is usually the same, "I love my wife but we aren't intimate anymore." I am always glad to help ease the pain and give you a way to relax and release. I applaud all of those Gents who love their wives and like SPTL said we as providers understand that sometimes a void needs to be filled, and I for one am always grateful to be chosen to give you a way to escape even if it is just an hour in time.

Smooches

mansfield · 10-28-2010, 10:48 AM

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I guess there is a reason you all offer GFE and not WE (wife experience).

Some of the BDSM reviews I've read seem to come pretty close

But seriously, bless all of you wonderful women who are willing to help us escape all of that for a while.

petershah · 10-28-2010, 11:03 AM

I agree, I actually encountered both this website and eccie about 1 year ago. Was very curious as I was very busy with school, then work and was married. For me, it is really more curiousity that was built up while in school, and now with some free time, it is both fun and scary, as you do not want to open up to a provider who could abuse that info, but at same time you want to be as honest (especially in this particular exposure). Also, it is to enjoy particular physical attributes that I hope my wife has, but it is not there. Would I tell my wife about it---No, if I had to give this unique aspect of life up if there was some mystical way of changing particular part of my wife--yes. Im happy with my intimate and emotional and respecful relationship, but this hobby aspect helps me to also appreciate certain things I totally take for granted in marriage,love and relationships. One definate thing i have developed is respect for providers going through school or maintaining work and doing this on the side to support it.

Gonzo DFW · 10-28-2010, 01:23 PM

It's why providers should never feel guilty about the "cheating" aspect of hobbying. Many of us love our wives, but wives who for one reason or another, quit screwing their husbands are basically asking us to find it elsewhere, and the hobby is the safest place I've found. I still don't understand why so many wives just stop. They must understand that their husbands still have the libido of a 16-year-old even though they've lost most of the stamina. But it seems to be the way of the world, and the number-one reason for elder divorce. I won't divorce because it's too expensive and, yeah, part of me still loves her.

MaxiMilyen · 10-28-2010, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by mansfield

Some of the BDSM reviews I've read seem to come pretty close

thanks for the giggles......

txcwby6 · 10-28-2010, 01:57 PM

So, hobbying is an outlet for a married man that loves his wife but isn't getting enough (or any) sex at home. Is there anything else outside of an open marriage and/or the "lifestyle" that affords a free pass to stick your dick in a woman other than your wife based upon the "love" angle?

A woman willing to be in a relationship with a married man is either (a) gullible that he'll leave his wife; (b) a happy-go-lucky idiot that doesn't want to know if he's married or not; (c) hoping he leaves his wife and doesn't care about the consequences; (d) enjoys being the " other womam" that gets to skulk around with a coward, meet on the sly, spread her legs or open her mouth; or (d) a combo of the above. If you take your marriage vows seriously then married men wouldn't hobby. If you didn't want to contribute to weakening a marriage Providers would limit their clients to single men. Result: men will lie about being married and Providers will take a financial hit. I suppose there's different types or levels of love, huh?

I "love" her but she's inadequate in bed.
I "love" her but she's not interested in sex anymore.
I "love" her but not in a way that means monogamy.
I "love" her but my sex drive is sooooo much stronger than hers.
I "love" her but her medical condition means I need to get it elsewhere.
I "love" her but.....
I "love" her but..........

Give me a break.

BigEddie · 10-28-2010, 02:10 PM

Nice post. Some guys have no problems talking about their wives, but for others, especially guys who haven't done this much, it is harder. This is even more pronounced on the first meeting. They've come to escape from every day life so it could be uncomfortable to get asked about the wife you love right before you're about to cheat on her.

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Originally Posted by SoftPlaceToLand

There are too many times I've asked someone if they are married in small talk (usually based on something they have said) and they sorta bow their heads and say, "umm yes." in the softest voice they can. I wanted to encourage you guys with this thread.

We are all here for some reason. A very large percentage of my personal clients are simply starved for physical affection at home, but they are madly in love with their wives. I love hearing that. It's ok to love your wife around here. When you wrap yourself in light and the pride of being married to someone you really love, it just adds something extra special to your life. We, as providers, can totally relate to the S.O. not understanding very well. You've come here to patch an open place in your life and ease the pain that keeps compounding. If you didn't find a release valve, the family would suffer in the end. When the main bread winner is very stressed it affects every one in their household.

When you come here (alot of the time in guilt) you are seeking a way to ease the pain. A way to be a better husband and father by opening a release valve. We can patch that place inside that has been baron and exposed to the harsh world for so long all the pain runs together. BUT when you pro-actively look for a release without getting involved in another relationship, you are helping your family by helping yourself and not betraying the ones you love.

My view of this may be a little one sided but for most of the people I see, this is exactly what they go through. So you are not alone my friend! There are many, many people in the same position as you.

Let go of the guilt and accept the patch. Guilt will interfere with your ability to release. What keeps alot of guys out of the hobby is knowing they will feel so guilty after the fact. Don't. We can send you back to your family with a spring in your step and a song in your heart.

Lastly you guys should know that it's quite impressing and wonderful to hear a guy say out loud he loves his wife. I get great satisfaction knowing I'm helping someone that has proven he is a great guy by saying something like that (when it can be very uncomfortable for some.)

Have a great day everyone. Be good to yourself and relax.

MaxiMilyen · 10-28-2010, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by txcwby6

So, hobbying is an outlet for a married man that loves his wife but isn't getting enough (or any) sex at home. Is there anything else outside of an open marriage and/or the "lifestyle" that affords a free pass to stick your dick in a woman other than your wife based upon the "love" angle?

A woman willing to be in a relationship with a married man is either (a) gullible that he'll leave his wife; (b) a happy-go-lucky idiot that doesn't want to know if he's married or not; (c) hoping he leaves his wife and doesn't care about the consequences; (d) enjoys being the " other womam" that gets to skulk around with a coward, meet on the sly, spread her legs or open her mouth; or (d) a combo of the above. If you take your marriage vows seriously then married men wouldn't hobby. If you didn't want to contribute to weakening a marriage Providers would limit their clients to single men. Result: men will lie about being married and Providers will take a financial hit. I suppose there's different types or levels of love, huh?

I "love" her but she's inadequate in bed.
I "love" her but she's not interested in sex anymore.
I "love" her but not in a way that means monogamy.
I "love" her but my sex drive is sooooo much stronger than hers.
I "love" her but her medical condition means I need to get it elsewhere.
I "love" her but.....
I "love" her but..........

Give me a break.

Ouch...seems like you need some stress relief today. I'm positive there's some nice lady here that would be happy to contribute to the deterioration of your relationship, that is, if you have one. BOL

Gonzo DFW · 10-28-2010, 02:16 PM

txcwby6, if that's your opinion of eccie.net providers, almost all of whom seek eagerly to enable hobbyists to cheat on their wives, what does that say about your opinion of them and of the hobby, in general? Or maybe I'm misreading your post (always possible).

mansfield · 10-28-2010, 02:18 PM

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If you take your marriage vows seriously then married men wouldn't hobby.

If the real world were only so simple huh? I'm gonna guess you are not married.

There is much more to marriage than sex.

Gonzo DFW · 10-28-2010, 02:42 PM

Why didn't I say that? +1, mansfield. Also, did I mention that I'm in lust with Max? Gotta get back to see her when my travels bring me homeward. And now that I think about it, what kind of Christian (I'm assuming) morals allow you to pay for sex? The answer, I guess, is mine. So it's on me, which is what I think (!) he was trying to say.