Why does a married man hobby?

[liesas]

I hobby because my wife has about 1/10th the sex drive that I do. The hobby is the only thing that keeps me sane.

[mischiefchild]

Plain and simple...it improves their quality of life. It's the nature of the beast. You can pet us but you don't have to take us home.

[Guest080310]

I am happily married and I adore my wife. But I love women and sex and my sex drive is more than my wife can handle. I also have noticed that over the years our time for intimacy has gone down and although we both are attracted to each other sexually we have sex maybe once a week or every 2 weeks. When we were younger we used to do it twice a day at first then it got less and less frequent. I got frustrated and this would cause friction in our relationship. I tried SC's, MP's and internet porn but that did not have the intimacy I was looking for. Then I discovered the hobby. I have been exposed to a whole new world and I no longer feel frustrated and I feel liberated that if I want the company of a hot lady I can email or call. I am happier and there is less pressure in my married life. I still enjoy sex with my wife but I no longer feel upset that we do not have sex as frequently as before. So the hobby fills that void in my life. Also, I have met so many wonderful ladies that I consider friends and I do care about them. Another treat is that I get to indulge in activities that I do not get and will never get at home such as greek and doubles. I also like to see ladies of different ages, races and bodies and the hobby gives me that variety.

[textodd11]

Agree with most here. It's a REALLY simple deal. I wish married ladies could figure it out. There's 2 things you can do to keep 90% of men from cheating. 1. Try to keep yourself in reasonable shape. 2. Have sex with your man at least 3 or 4 times a week whether you're in the mood or not with at least one of the times being a little nasty. If women did those things most men would never stray.

I get so tired of all the CONSTANT excuses (work, kids, tired, dont' feel well, etc.) and the WORK I have to go through to get it at home with the SO. Are there exceptions? Sure. But for 90% of us, doing the above will work wonders in keeping a man at home.

Thank God for the ladies here or I'd be a raving lunatic.

[j_mack4u]

It was an easy decision for me considering my wife cut me off so she could be exclusive with her boyfriend. Since I'm not looking for another relationship it seemed like the logiical solution as Spock would say.

[Guest031811]

I would rather not know if a man is married. The hobby is my bread and butter, so I cannot point fingers and make people feel bad.

However, here is the flip side of the coin:


The concept of infidelity was first introduced to me when I was 10 years old, and a little girl in my class told me that my father had spent the night in her mommy's bed. I was crushed. Was my father going to give me up? Was he going to marry this other woman and be this little girl's daddy instead?

What about my mother? I thought my mom was a royal bitch: until that day. Marriage was supposed to be about love, and having a family is supposed to be a reflection of that love. If he didn't really love her, then my existence was a mistake. AND, my mom had every reason to be bitter and bitchy.

Since then, I've had a strained relationship with my father. Sure, my mother has forgiven him. But I can't.

Perhaps your wife understands that you have "needs"... but what about your daughter? When you stray from your family, you stray from her too.

[sanantonioman37]

Consequences of our decisions and actions, thats life........all you can do is try to remember we're human and make mistakes......but the mistake does not have to be the end of a families/friends trust but a new beginning starting with honesty and forgiveness.

[Skip_8]

They just like to keep it strange...and good!

[Guest080311]

When I was young, I always liked older more experienced women. Now that I am old….I like younger experienced women. They fill a big empty void in my life that is not filled at home. The emptiness is gone….for a time anyway…then I look again. I’m still looking at all the cards in the deck….but imagine that one day just an ATF or two…or three…. will do.

[RickO'shayRabbitt]

One other reason: fantasy fulfillment, whatever that might be. My guess is that it might be easier to express a kinky need to a lady in the business rather than tell the SO that your dream is to pretend you are the male tutor being ordered around by the spoiled little princess for being disappointed in for not being able to spell supercalifragilisticexpeallido cious.)

(That's just an example fantasy, not necessarily one I want to explore. Then again, maybe it is. LOL)

[Fiona Foxxx]

Yes it is true that the hobby can affect others within our personal life. However it is also because we have *personal lives* that people hobby. Why have a *full time relationship* that could damage the years you have invested with hour SO. The hobby exists for many reasons. Married men hobby because (and this is a few reasons I know of) because they are needing sexual gratification more, lust for a younger intimate relationship (or older), desire 100% intimacy with someone who actually WANTS it too, long for someone who actually asks them about the day and lives and geniuely listens.

It is important to understand that most men (my clients I know of) are *not* wanting to leave their SO. They are not wanting an emotional roller coaster nor any drama. They aren't looking to be someone's sugar daddy or even baby's daddy lol. That's why I am here. To be a 100% service provider and for 1 hour (or however long scheduled), I make this man king and rock his world!

That's it! No strings attached. No kids. No accidential phone calls.

That's my .02c

[Carnegie Steele]

As a MM (married man) I hobby for a couple of reasons:

1) Sexual variety
2) Desire to be with someone younger (and thinner) than my spouse.
3) Why is a bride always smiling when she is walking up to the altar? Because she knows she'll never have to give another BJ again

[swwaustin]

Originally Posted by Fiona Foxxx

I make this man king and rock his world!

Indeed.

[SpursFan]

Well put Carnegie Steel!

3) Why is a bride always smiling when she is walking up to the altar? Because she knows she'll never have to give another BJ again

SF

[Fiona Foxxx]

Note to self - when I retire and really don't want to give another bj (is that possible?) - get married.

Thanks CS - for the future insight! lol