Why pay for longer than you need?

[Eva Damita]

Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

I would think that almost five years would be more than enough time for the OP to figure out that his physiological needs are not the rubric for every other client. And that's not even taking into consideration all the other elaborate reasons why a guest would want to meet a companion for much longer than twenty or thirty minutes.

There is nothing at all wrong with shorter sessions or the clients and sex workers who prefer them. But whoever is unable to imagine just some of what can transpire during a long session suffers from a scarcity of vision.

Plus one (billion)

ETA: Not everyone desires the emotional labor aspect or playing the dating game. In all honesty, it's best to find one's happy medium. Again, mine is typically 90 minutes to two hrs. One hours rarely occur and when they do, they almost always are extended. So I structured my rates to encourage two hours plus.

There's an ongoing trend I notice with gents who, instead of booking overnight or day visits, they will book me a few hours back to back/day to day to make room for work & their personal life.

[James1588]

Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

I would think that almost five years would be more than enough time for the OP to figure out that his physiological needs are not the rubric for every other client. And that's not even taking into consideration all the other elaborate reasons why a guest would want to meet a companion for much longer than twenty or thirty minutes.

There is nothing at all wrong with shorter sessions or the clients and sex workers who prefer them. But whoever is unable to imagine just some of what can transpire during a long session suffers from a scarcity of vision.

This. ^^^^^

"Longer than you need" depends on what you need. Or want. Or enjoy.

I once booked (and paid for) "longer than I needed." It was the only bad appointment I've experienced in my admittedly-brief career in this demimonde. The lady and I just didn't "click," or we had faulty mutual chemistry, or whatever. I stayed the whole two hours, just to be polite, really. That actually was a mistake; should've just cut the losses for both of us and excused myself. But I didn't, and she spent the last 15 minutes or so trying to sell me a high-end vacuum cleaner (a RW job of hers at the time). But, yeah, outside of that one time, I've never purchased more time than I needed, or wanted, or enjoyed.

Now, more time than I could afford? That's a different matter. More than once, I'm sure. Oh, well.

[joesmo888]

it is hard for 'minutemen' to grasp that not every guy takes 3 strokes to cum.

[Satyrrical]

An hour is minimum due to my MSOG requirements.

[Sir Axl]

Early on, I would schedule half hour usually, since I was still unsure of things. As time went on, I got more confident with the whole experience, I was almost always booking hour appointments.. Wish I had the ability to book even longer sessions. Really enjoyed meeting most of them. I enjoyed the conversation as much as the bedroom activities. I was surprised when a couple of ladies were able to pop me twice in an hour! Really surprised me.

Given my current life situation, I'll be lucky to schedule a half hour due to funds and time constraints.

[burkalini]

Guys there are no lovers in the hobby. There are guys pretending to be lovers and there are providers pretending that they love it. It's a pretend game. Now I can't deny that there is attraction at times but anything more than that is just fooling yourselves. I'm not trying to demean any providers but the reason they like the longer sessions is mainly they are getting paid for the extra time. I can't blame them for that as this is their livelyhood. To say it's because it's more likely to form some kind of bond is just a pipe dream. I mean when is the last time you met a civie girl and in 15 minutes you were fucking. If that happens usually it's not the kind of girl you take home to meet your parents. Treat like it is. A transaction. Now Let's make sure we show respect to your provider but that's all that going to happen. You meet. You fuck. You go home

[Old-T]

Burk, you and Gentlemantoo need to compair notes.

Those of us who believe differently know what we experience. Your truth is not everyone's truth.

[EMZ1215]

An hour minimum to truly get a satisfying experience. I just enjoy everything that comes with being with a beautiful woman (the sex, the flirting, conversation) and 30 minutes just doesn't allow for that. Plus, since I only do outcalls, I think it's only fair that I get the one hour session since she is providing me the convenience of coming to my hotel room.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Different strokes thing. Multi hour is my preferred session when I can afford it.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Originally Posted by burkalini

Guys there are no lovers in the hobby. There are guys pretending to be lovers and there are providers pretending that they love it. It's a pretend game. Now I can't deny that there is attraction at times but anything more than that is just fooling yourselves. I'm not trying to demean any providers but the reason they like the longer sessions is mainly they are getting paid for the extra time. I can't blame them for that as this is their livelyhood. To say it's because it's more likely to form some kind of bond is just a pipe dream. I mean when is the last time you met a civie girl and in 15 minutes you were fucking. If that happens usually it's not the kind of girl you take home to meet your parents. Treat like it is. A transaction. Now Let's make sure we show respect to your provider but that's all that going to happen. You meet. You fuck. You go home

Based on your posts, you can see why you feel that way. You get what you give. You sir, give the least possible and that is what you get. I give a lot more and what do you know, most of the time I am treated like a king. Sad thing is, you cannot imagine anything but the way you think is the only way and will never know just how good and truly satisfying a session can be.

Your going to respond with some crap about you don't care and guys like me are suckers. So sad for you.

[awl4knot]

Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

I would think that almost five years would be more than enough time for the OP to figure out that his physiological needs are not the rubric for every other client. And that's not even taking into consideration all the other elaborate reasons why a guest would want to meet a companion for much longer than twenty or thirty minutes.

There is nothing at all wrong with shorter sessions or the clients and sex workers who prefer them. But whoever is unable to imagine just some of what can transpire during a long session suffers from a scarcity of vision.

Exactly. I don't want to be cruel but the OP has such a cramped and limited viewpoint of what take place during a great GFE session that I wonder what he has been doing since he joined in 2013. Does he even talk and flirt? Does he kiss and engage in fore play? Not enough time for DATY, 69 and BBBJ. And MOSG is incomprehensible. And delicious pillow talk with an intelligent and provocative women is beyond the pale.

And these delights are laid out in thousands of reviews by hundreds of ordinary guys who know how to enjoy women. How could he miss this treasure trove of learning?

[papadee]

Originally Posted by awl4knot

Exactly. I don't want to be cruel but the OP has such a cramped and limited viewpoint of what take place during a great GFE session that I wonder what he has been doing since he joined in 2013. Does he even talk and flirt? Does he kiss and engage in fore play? Not enough time for DATY, 69 and BBBJ. And MOSG is incomprehensible. And delicious pillow talk with an intelligent and provocative women is beyond the pale.

And these delights are laid out in thousands of reviews by hundreds of ordinary guys who know how to enjoy women. How could he miss this treasure trove of learning?

The OP did say he was new to the game. 5 years a member, but 1 post (in this thread), and 1 review (a week earlier). So maybe he truly is new to the game. I read it as he was asking for our advice and experiences, not advocating 30 minutes or less.

[mitch p]

I always schedule 1hr sessions and sometimes 90min. Most of the time one hour feels way to short. I almost always pop twice within a hour. However some times I force that second pop to stay within the hour. That can definitely take the enjoyment out of it. Would love to be able to do 2 hour sessions. I really enjoy the company of a gorgeous woman. As long as she makes me feel like a rockstar during are time together. I really don't care if I'm just another John when I leave.

[gentlemantoo]

There is nothing wrong with speaking the truth. Just because people believe the world is flat does not make it true. The fact is the world is round. You may believe you made a connection or some emotion exists between you and sex worker, but it does not. only you dreaming and having false faith. The problem with the false faith is that is merely a set up for disapppointment and pain. It is obvious some men are looking for a feeling or spiritual experience but she is phony and faking it. Means no connection, but you want it so bad you tell yourself "she liked me and likes me" no she likes your money.

If you schedule longer sessions to make that emotional connection you are wasting your money. You pay women to fuck you, that fact alone makes you very unappealing to a woman. This is not Match.com, it is sex for money.

It feels good being loved, being treated like a king. But treating me like a king because I gave her cash is fake not out of emotional connection. And does not cause me to feel loved, I will not lie to myself on this. There is a large difference between being treated like a king or being treated like a customer. when is the last time you came home to your lady wearing sexy outfit, and she cares for you out of a desire to surprise you and make you happy? Never happens in hobby because she is not being paid nor scheduled nor does she care. Facts not beliefs.

[oldbutstillgoing]

[Facts for you does not make it facts for all. I really feel sad for you that you cannot comprehend how much more can be had here. I understand completely what I am paying for.

A truly great movie or game enables one to suspend belief and become immersed in that make believe world. You know its not real yet you feel part of it at some level. That is in part , what truly great entertainment does. Its the same here. With the right provider, for that hour or so, I am rewarded with affection and gratification on many levels. During that time, I suspend belief so I can fully enjoy being with a woman and being the center of each others world. Then I pay up and leave and return to the real world.

Just like with that great movie, I know its not real. But that in no way diminishes the enjoyment I received. I know people who will tear apart that same movie looking for any errors. They fail to appreciate it for what it is. They think they are so smart and superior. Well, its my money, and as long as I leave smiling, I am happy.

So yes, go ahead and cheapen your experience. I will continue to get what I want from these ladies and laugh and feel sorry for guys like you.

For you very special ladies who have given me so much, thank you.. QUOTE=gentlemantoo;1059882278]There is nothing wrong with speaking the truth. Just because people believe the world is flat does not make it true. The fact is the world is round. You may believe you made a connection or some emotion exists between you and sex worker, but it does not. only you dreaming and having false faith. The problem with the false faith is that is merely a set up for disapppointment and pain. It is obvious some men are looking for a feeling or spiritual experience but she is phony and faking it. Means no connection, but you want it so bad you tell yourself "she liked me and likes me" no she likes your money.

If you schedule longer sessions to make that emotional connection you are wasting your money. You pay women to fuck you, that fact alone makes you very unappealing to a woman. This is not Match.com, it is sex for money.

It feels good being loved, being treated like a king. But treating me like a king because I gave her cash is fake not out of emotional connection. And does not cause me to feel loved, I will not lie to myself on this. There is a large difference between being treated like a king or being treated like a customer. when is the last time you came home to your lady wearing sexy outfit, and she cares for you out of a desire to surprise you and make you happy? Never happens in hobby because she is not being paid nor scheduled nor does she care. Facts not beliefs.[/QUOTE]