Also, when we're calling/texting you every 5-10 minutes, we're not trying to be creepy. We just want to make sure if our engagement is going to happen or not, before we move on to another provider.
The worst thing that happens in this instance to me is the moment when Plan A seems doomed, and 10 minutes into traveling to see Plan B, here comes Plan A at the last minute talking about 'are you ready?'
Now I've got a decision to make...maybe. I'm one of those types who, once I commit to Plan B, she becomes Plan A. The original Plan A is fired...until another arrangement can be made.