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cmspec · 05-24-2010, 09:22 PM

I consider the regular visits with my provider of choice more of a "friend with benefits" type of scenario. I get what I want out of the deal and she gets what she wants. In my opinion both people are happy. Having a good time along the way is an added benefit. It is nice to carry on a good conversation and have some amazing "fun" without the verbal judgement.

ratboy jam · 05-24-2010, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by TheDaliLama

Believe it or not ...I have several provider friends that I have never been a customer to.....

Maybe that's why we are friends.

That's what I've heard Ratina say on MANY an occasion!!

blowpop · 05-25-2010, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by TheDaliLama

Believe it or not ...I have several provider friends that I have never been a customer to.....

Maybe that's why we are friends.

Your Holiness, there is much wisdom in this.

I have a small group of actual friends who are providers with whom I have never had a paid session. I believe that once you become a customer, the dynamic changes: Is she calling to hang out, or because she's short on money, and I'm a convenient ATM?

I've always said that the only way to tell if you're more than a customer to a provider is to see whether or not she wants to spend time with you when no money is involved.

That's not to say that you can't develop a friendship with a provider you've sessioned with. It's just tougher to tell whether or not you're truly in the friend category.

TheDogger · 05-25-2010, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by blowpop

I've always said that the only way to tell if you're more than a customer to a provider is to see whether or not she wants to spend time with you when no money is involved.

That's not to say that you can't develop a friendship with a provider you've sessioned with. It's just tougher to tell whether or not you're truly in the friend category.

Bingo. I spend time with a provider or two outside of BCD, sometimes before BCD (dinner, drinks, lunch), sometimes without. For me/us, it tends to enhance our sexual connection.

Clearly, I know our roles...much of our conversation is about their business and how to enhance it...right down to stylistic BCD approaches. It is invigorating as it is just another business that is WAY more fun.

When asked why I care and am interested, I always jokingly respond: "Hey...providers need love too ya'know!" Something to be said for that.

notanewbie · 05-25-2010, 01:45 PM

wow, you guys are getting deep. I thought I was big shit when one of my ladies accepted my change in a coffee can and not in those little wrappers. I figured we were properly engaged.

Guest040616 · 05-25-2010, 01:47 PM

It certainly happened to me!

TheDogger · 05-25-2010, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by notanewbie

wow, you guys are getting deep. I thought I was big shit when one of my ladies accepted my change in a coffee can and not in those little wrappers. I figured we were properly engaged.

TexasGator · 05-25-2010, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by TheDaliLama

Believe it or not ...I have several provider friends that I have never been a customer to.....

Maybe that's why we are friends.

You won't see that happening to me....no friggin' way.

Not this week.

Gator42 · 05-25-2010, 03:57 PM

ROTFLMAO!
I just spit my drink all over my keyboard.

MLisa · 05-25-2010, 04:41 PM

Hell if it wasn't for some of the great friends I've met because of this hobby I'd probably not still be hanging out here still. There are some folks that I've met a time or two that I would always consider a friend even if its years before I ever saw them again. But that is also true of my non-hobby personae.
I happen to like human beings I find us to be an outstanding source of entertainment and frustration and since I tend to like sensory play it works well for me.
And in a former incarnation of myself I wasn't allowed to rub on my fellow "friends" like I can here.

so yup I've garnered a few folks whom I'd call upon to shoot the bull with or even use as a 'sounding board'. And, yes a couple of them I've never had the pleasure of seeing in a more private sitting.

PS BP, You aren't square enough to be an ATM, nor do you have enough slots, buttons or screens (hehe). I just don't get that idea but I gather is an attitude that is prevalent out in the world.

MLisa · 05-25-2010, 04:45 PM

Uh Gator you might want to keep a towel handy when here and near your keyboard...or get one of those protective wrap thingys for your keyboard. No they don't make condoms that friggin big not even the girly ones.

I will now return you to your previously on tract thread.

Gator42 · 05-25-2010, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by MLisa

Uh Gator you might want to keep a towel handy when here and near your keyboard...or get one of those protective wrap thingys for your keyboard. No they don't make condoms that friggin big not even the girly ones.

I will now return you to your previously on tract thread.

Thanks Darlin,
I think I may have to invest in one of those protective cover thingies, if my brother gator keeps posting!

surcher · 05-25-2010, 06:06 PM

Lisa, I consider you my friend and proud of it. You're a wonderful woman, and the BCD is pretty damn good too!

I had a very good friendship with a provider. When we eventually did see each other BCD, it was like two good friends truly enjoying each other's company, and unlike most good opposite sex friendships, the sex didn't ruin it!

pyramider · 05-25-2010, 07:44 PM

I don't believe Surcher. Why? He seems to forgotten the Boobs For Surcher Campaign. I thinck he is feeling a little queasy . . .

blowpop · 05-26-2010, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by MLisa

PS BP, You aren't square enough to be an ATM, nor do you have enough slots, buttons or screens (hehe). I just don't get that idea but I gather is an attitude that is prevalent out in the world.

Sadly, it is. And thankfully you're one of the wonderful ladies who don't think this way.