When is screening too strict?

[Frankthehumanboy]

> don't just let the chic not know

That's a good idea, I think maybe I'll tell her I'm not comfortable sending a picture of a driver's license and wish her good luck. Thanks!

[carguy1989]

The ONLY way for her to know what the problem is is to communicate that with her. At least she will not think you are a time wasting jerk. It is ok to tell her what you are reluctant to do. After all, the ladies have boundaries too. This hobby is supposed to be fun, and that is hard when folks are pushed, unwillingly, past their comfort zone.

[wantnsomeinar]

Ask her if she will send you her unaltered DL pic. Think I know the answer to that one. There are other 10's out there, move on and have fun.

[Expresso Jim]

My typical response to a picture request is to politely say that I don't share my picture and I don't ask providers to share their pictures with me. It's to respect the privacy of both of us. And then I say I'll just move on and stay safe. Many times the provider drops the request. And I never send a nickel as a deposit ever. That's my personal policy.

[Diego Smith]

Nikki, I absolutely support screening and support any provider's right to ask for the screening data that makes her comfortable. When I traveled a lot, I was a P411 member for the purpose of putting providers at ease in those circumstances where their screening requirements were beyond my comfort zone. But under no circumstances would I provide screening data to an individual provider that would reveal my real name, address, birthdate, etc. If that is a what a provider needs for her comfort, I simply move on.

I also agree that many women alter their screening requirements if some reasonable alternative can be provided. I have been on the beneficial end of some of those negotiations!!

Have a great visit to Albuquerque!!

[Cinderbug]

Well said Diego.

[Cinderbug]

You said it carguy, it's all about fun.

[EOD]

Money up front is a definite no no.
As for screening? a non DL picture is reasonable, as long as she can ascertain from it that I am who I say I am.
True privacy is almost non existent today. Every major phone carrier and social media platform have been "hacked" in the last couple years. All of them.
In NM, even the hospital systems.
I do not entirely believe that all of that is coincidental.
Here lately, they want to scan your I.D. for cigarrettes and alcohol. a definate NO GO.
For all of the same reasons to deny the info to them, I would most certainly deny the electronic transmission of that info to a provider.
I would be glad to send a picture, backed up by a visual look at my D.L. during a cop check, but nothing beyond that. Ever.
...and no money until we are both on "The same sheet of music".

The old Las Vegas spiel of, "I don't discuss business until paid" is an immediate reverse walk out.

Being polite, creative, and nice about things can get around some of the issues, but it would be a cold day in heck before I would submit to the above. I would also require a peek at a DL in reciprocity.

Tough times in the Hobby world, you just cannot be too careful in this age of big brother and Data mining.
Either party.

[EOD]

Originally Posted by Frankthehumanboy

I've actually fallen for the old sending money upfront trick on one occasion. Never again -_-

likewise.

[seasonedvet]

P411 has always been a great way for me to get screened. I have never been asked for more info. Nikki is right though, if the last "ok" was a year ago I'd question as well.

[Jxoxo]

Everyone has different levels of screening and some none at all. It all depends on the provider and gent, if what works for one doesn't work for the other you move on. Ultimately provider & caller have to be comfortable. I've always found it silly to take provider references as there is a lot at play here, for one girls can be catty, two I wouldn't trust my safety with the word of a provider idk (when I see provider is well known and reviewed I will consider her as reference perhaps, I do give them if asked for) also when sending a DL and showing pic, first name and covering address and DL number what is it that can be used to steal identity? Names work place and age are on everyone's social media so I suppose if someone is out to scam with that info they need only to scroll public profiles.