Am I too sexy for the RW?

[xperiment]

Yes you are too sexy for the RW and this one too.

I may have some fresh perspective for you to get ready for RW dating. Being that I am single, have friends that are single, and only been hobbying for less then a year.

Escort world both parties have a brief time to get to know each other and off to romp in the hay. RW dating is about leading up to the romp in the hay. Yes I know its not all about sex but just using this as a easy analogy. I like pictures too.

Hobby
|<--get 2 know-->|<-------------------Sex-------------------->|
RW Dating

|<--------------------get 2 know--------------------->|<-Sex->|

Of course this scale changes based on the type of relationship, so not based on scale. LOL.

As an escort you do things based on what they want. In RW dating, thats still not bad, but learn what you want and go for what you want. Be more selective. The good thing is you have had the opportunity to meet many personalities and therefore I am sure you have experienced what works best for you. Don't always serve them, make them chase you, court you, etc. Of course hints and tease them will always let them know to stay on course. Leave some mystery. It keeps them keep on wanting to know you more, interested, and wanting to spend more time together. Although RW dating the guys are trying to lead up to sex eventually, sometimes the journey is more then the destination. Whereas in the Hobby its mostly about the destination.

Intimacy has its place in both worlds. Just be careful in RW. Hobby world I found that even its fantasy there seems to be more raw truth and honesty then the dating RW. I think thats what I find so fascinating. In RW dating be careful of the lies, deceit, and perceptions that are out there. RW you are now exposing yourself not your persona so much more at risk. You may find yourself putting up some defensive walls due to this to protect your feelings.

As far as sex..., there are plenty of wild and crazy women out there. Your experience will not be suspect at all. However if you are concerned, just tone down the "rw dating menu" when it comes to it and slowly roll it out. "Todays Special will be starting off with a DFK, the main course is alternate MISH then for desert BBBJTCCIM. Next weeks special will include DT, RCG, and FUMA."

Now Nicole if you want I can always help you with your transition and take you out . Yeah thats right prepare to slap men you dont like.

As far as explaining your past, other providers with experience or past providers may be better to explain your last 10 years. I was thinking of finding something that correlates you didn't have a boss. Some sort of self employed business. Perhaps a "Date Doctor" like in hutch, Dating agency, uhm I guess anything that is half truth makes things easier to cover. With that being said. You should just date me so you dont have to explain.

In honor of this thread topic, Right Said Fred, and sexy Nicole here is a revised version of "I'm Too Sexy"

Im too sexy for my shirt too sexy for my shirt

So sexy it hurts

And Im too sexy for Dallas too sexy for Dallas

Fort Worth and Mid Cities

And Im too sexy for you to date

Too sexy for you to date

No way Im disco dancing



Im a escort you know what I mean

And I shake my little ass in the bedroom

Yeah in the bedroom in the bedroom yeah

I shake my little ass in the bedroom

[Par_Shooter]

I don't know about you personally Miss Nicole, but it's been my experience that a lot of RW girls are just as skilled as any provider I've been with. In fact most experiences when comparing RW vs hobby are more favorable with the former. And I'm just talking skills here, not the other intangibles that come into play with regard to overall satisfaction. Maybe I've just been really lucky in RW and not so much in hobby world.

So unless you're talking about CIM, greek, and all the freaky stuff that a lot RW girls do only when drunk or under special occasions in the beginning of a relationship, he will most likely just think he's lucky he found a hot girl that likes to get it on and knows how to ring his bell.

[Clouddancer]

Look at it this way Nicole, if your ready to take that step
Your obviously attracted to the guy
You've got your motor running,

So why tone it down? Enjoy the hell out of yourself.
I agree your past is your past no need to talk about it.

Clouddancer

[Bestman200600]

Nicole:

A man wants a woman that can please him. Make him smile and he will love your forever.

[bigmarv]

Just be yourself Nicole. If he says, where did you learn that trick just say, "I don't know I'm just doing what comes natural to me."

[rex4998]

it's going to be funny when she falls for a "retired" gigolo

[am-a-pleaser]

Nicole, You are very sexy. Since we've not met in the hobby, may I date you?

Here's the deal. Some guys won't mind your past. Others may always wonder if it's truly in the past. You'll be able to tell. Also, when you get to the sexual part of the relationship, a lot of guys like to be told and shown what you like and how you like it, others, sadly, think they know and you'll get frustrated fast.

I was married to a former exotic dancer. Unfortunately, she still wanted the attention of men, and gave into her desires often during our first six months of marraige. We divorced within the year. As for me, when I fall in love, it's unconditional. Dating will allow you the opportunity to fall in love, feel heartaches, and joy.

Sexually, you don't have to show all your skills all at once. There will be plenty of time to enjoy all of them. And if he finds out, or suspects your past and asks you, be honest. Gentle, but honest. You don't have to tell everything, but honesty is part of trust.

I love a lady having awesome sexual skills, especially when we're well matched in that regard.

When you meet a guy that you feel is right, getting to know each other and each other's likes, etc, is part of the fun.

Have you thought about serious dating and staying in the hobby?

I wish you the best.

[PoppyToyota]

Nicole you know they say practice makes perfect. I would be willing to meet up with you to take you on a civillian date.

[netman]

Nicole,

You are SEXY... real world and/or "this world".

Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

I guess some lucky fella is in for a great time,

If I move to London, can I be your boyfriend?

netman

[Bank Walker]

I'll give you my thoughts in person.

[Guest030911]

You might want to ease into some things a bit more slowly instead of springing them right away on your new civilian boyfriend... or maybe not.

[69er]

Originally Posted by Kristin Keys

I disagree, just because you are great in bed doens't mean that you were a slut.

That's right, Nicole's no ordinary Slut...

Nicole's a Most Excellent Slut.

Any guy who will be scared off by a woman who knows what she is doing in bed, is not anyone I know of!

[Tony Gambino]

Nicole, I haven't met You personally however in Your posts, You come across as confident, intellegent, and display a nice sence of humor. It would seem from reading what others have posted about You, that You have an ability to relate to a lot of different personality types..add to that your BCD skills, most men dating you, would be dating up!

[npita]

Originally Posted by Nicole Preston

Now let's say I meet a special someone and decide to 'go all the way'...should I tone it down a bit at first?

Definitely not. I went back to the real world, in part, because I found providers to be rather tame compared to the women I've dated in real life, even relatively inexperienced women. I think the biggest problem could be getting out of ``provider mode,'' letting go and just being yourself. Sex with a provider definitely had a different mental component than it does in the real world. With a provider, I always found a certain (and obvious) level of disconnect that I've never experienced in the real world, even in a one-night-stand.

Would utilizing my special skills be too much or raise a red flag? I certainly wouldn't want someone wondering where I learned those moves, but I don't want to be a prude either.

Since I've never seen you, I don't really know what those special skills are, but the ``special skill'' that really matters is the ability to connect with your partner to a much greater extent than with a client. If you have a particular skill that seems to be appropriate for the guy you're with, by all means, make use of it. Good luck and don't worry.

Can a woman be too hot in bed in the real world??

No, or at least not with guys who don't have some pathological ideas about sex.

[Traveler64]

I think it's more likely that a RW gent who gets suspicious of your 'talents' might be a gent that is not so RW but has dabbled in the hobby. On the other hand, if the RW gent has not had an overly large sample size of ladies then your 'assets' will just help to set the hook.

My recommendation is to just do what feels natural at the moment. Try not to over think it.