Thanks for the support, Fancy and theCFE.
I am not going to even get into debating ECCIE's stance on this, as there simply are not enough female hobbyists active here to justify the effort that would be needed to prevent possible abuse. Although honestly, isn't it pretty much known that a provider can easily get a male account and read all the nasty little bits and pieces? I chose to play by the rules and not register as a male, which I do not regret.
I do feel that I have a valid perspective that is very under-represented and does not feel particularly valued. I think U.S. culture is evolving to include greater numbers of individuals with less traditional sexual attitudes, and I anticipate more couples getting involved in this sort of activity.
Unfortunately, as theCFE said, there is just not a lot of information out there. We have generally been shooting blind to a degree, because even with the input of the male halves of the other couples on here, you aren't really getting a good picture for the F-F interaction. And honestly, some seem to represent it as a porno type experience vs. equally-involved partners.
Thankfully some providers have given us the benefit of their experiences with doubles, but it would be nice to have additional resources on here. I initially tried to provide some feedback for my husband's reviews, but felt fairly discouraged due to some negative feedback and also general ennui over my limbo status.